When is best to tell ?

[Gems]

Hi Im just wondering when you girls thing is the best time to tell friends and family that your pregnant?
Do you wait until first scan and then tell them or tell them before?
Is it a good idea to tell closr friend and parents earlier, just incase the worst happens and you need there support?
What has everyone else done?xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[anita665]

I guess everyone is different so tell them when you feel comfortable with it.

Some people don't like to share their news till after 12 weeks when the risk of miscarriage drops or until they've had their 12 week scan but others share the news right away & would tell people like their friends or parents if something went wrong anyway.

I told my sister and nan as soon as I found out and my nan told my mum who soon told everyone else. I think I waited a week or two before telling my friends but only because I'd been pregnant before and figured they'd be sick of hearing about it!!

 

[Tam]

It is completely up to the individual. Some people feel they tempt fate if they tell before the 12 week scan, and others can't keep quiet because of excitement (me ).

I think what will be will be, and if things do go wrong it would be nice to have the support of others around you. But that thinking isn't for everyone!x

 

[Gabi]

I told the family at 8-9 weeks after our first scan. But we told them to keep it quiet until our 2nd scan which was the other day.

We've now finally announced it to everyone. (11 weeks)

 

[anita665]

Oh - I told my work as soon as I knew too because I'd been feeling so rough with it. I'm realy glad I did too.

 

[Gems]

Thanks for all your advice, im so excited i want to shout it from roof top, but think ill hang on a few more weeks (if i can! )
Thanks girls xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Spartacus]

It is completely up to the individual. Some people feel they tempt fate if they tell before the 12 week scan, and others can't keep quiet because of excitement (me ).

I think what will be will be, and if things do go wrong it would be nice to have the support of others around you. But that thinking isn't for everyone!x

I completely agree and would tell close family tomorrow if I could. But DH said he would like to wait until our 1st scan before we tell people so he knows everything is ok so I am completely fine with waiting. I do agree though that you do need support if anything goes wrong and we confided in my brother and sister in law as they recently had a baby so know what we are going through for support. Also is great to have others excited with you!
xx

 

[winnie26]

I wanted to wait until the scan but my OH told his parents on Xmas day so I done the same...he then proceeded to tell EVERYONE! Even strangers that he was going to be a dad! haha!
So everyone knows except folk at work, I told my boss as I felt rubbish but its not done the gossip rounds yet, I know exactly who to tell after the scan though and everyone will know within hours!

 

[leeanne]

There are no set rules of when to tell. Many wait until the end of the first trimester.

I told everyone right away in all my pregnancies. Reason being is that if I had miscarried they all would've been told too. Besides, I'm not as patient as most in keeping a secret such as this

 

[maybebaby]

I've only told my mom, sister, best friends, and one of my best friend's mom who is like a second mom to me. The OH wants to wait to tell his family and friends until after we are sure that the LO is healthy, etc. Depending on how I feel though, I may have to tell my work sooner vs. later.

 

[cupcake]

i only told my parents and DHs parents at 2.5 months i waited til the end of the 1st tri to tell the close friends. the rest i just let them see for themselves.

 

[Vickie]

It really comes down to what you feel most comfortable with doing. I told my immediate family right away (like 2 minutes after the + came up on the test). But we chose not to tell our friends straight away (except for my best friend and his best friend). In the end it didn't matter as my friends figured it out by 9 weeks and my mom told everyone she came into contact with

 

[Ann-Marie]

It is completely up to the individual. Some people feel they tempt fate if they tell before the 12 week scan, and others can't keep quiet because of excitement (me ).

I think what will be will be, and if things do go wrong it would be nice to have the support of others around you. But that thinking isn't for everyone!x

yup... said it all

 

[Gems]

Im gonna tell my mum on Mothers day , though it might be a nice idea to tell her she is going to be a grandma on her day.

 

[xclairex]

thats nice wenever ur ready its ur decision is best hun

 

[hollie86]

Hey
I told my closest friends when I was about 6 weeks pregnant so if anything went wrong I would have someone to talk to.
My OH has told is family as he was so excited and i said it was up to him!!
I have yet to tell my family, I have a scan tomorrow so if everything is OK I may tell them after that.
I think its down to personal choice, and its when you feel comfortable with your pregnancy. I find its nice at the start when its just you and your OH that you know and you can keep it your "little secret"
xxx