When is the right time to date again?

[lilgemsy]

As the title says when do you think is a good time to start dating again?
Is there ever a good time?

Im currently 29 weeks pregnant with my first but FoB dumped me not long after finding out I was pregnant. Since then Ive been all alone.
But for the past few weeks theres been some guy who Ive been good friends with for a couple of years and hes told me he would love to be there for not only me but also the baby. He admitted last night that he wants to be more than friends and he really wants to be there for me.
I do like him and everything but I have no trust left in me for any man!
I dont know what to do... is it too soon to be considering a relationship?

 

[emilylynn18]

If it feels right to you, then its not too soon. Just make sure that this is going to be a relationship that you want to see develop. Dating a guy that suddenly decides to leave after LO is born wouldn't be good.

You wanna look for a guy that you can have a lasting relationship with because you don't want a bunch of guys coming through LO's life while you search for Mr. Right.

 

[lilgemsy]

Yeah. Im just scared that he'd leave me when I need him most like FOB did.
Ahhh. Trust issues haha.

 

[chels24uk]

hey hun. I wouldnt enter a new relationship until you feel you can trust again
Theres a guy in my life whos made it clear he wants to be with me, i like him a lot to, but im just not ready within myself to put myself in a position where i can be hurt again. Also, i feel weird entering a relationship when pregnant with another mans baby!
Point being, if you feel 100% ready to commit yourself again, then go for it. But if you have doubts, then id say let yourself be single for a while longer good luck x

 

[lilgemsy]

^ That is exactly how I feel!
Thank you

 

[18singlemom2b]

its totally up to your own discretion. i am in a similar situation but am choosing to be single for atleast the next year, perhaps even double or triple that time. i haven't made wise choices in the past about who to date and i don't want my daughter suffering for me picking the wrong guy. it's bad enough that her father turned out to be such a disappointment.

 

[Newdreemz]

Its up to you, BUT in my case I chose to be single for awhile, even celibate. I already am pregnant with child from a man who pretty much just disappeared when he found out, and I have two other kids who dad is not in their lives so yes, WE tend to choose the wrong men and most of the time you don't realize somethings wrong with your judgment until you find yourself alone over and over again so I decided to get right with ME first. Not to mention, I'm pregnant with another man's baby!

I decided to dedicate all my time to my children this time around. No distractions! You sound like your still scarred, and you can't love someone if you don't love yourself enough. I say wait. And if he's really into you, he will still be there when your finally ready.

I know this is easier said than done because I still cry at night from loneliness but trust me, you get stronger with each tear honey!

 

[littlekitten8]

I think its entirely a personal thing. The right time to date again is when you feel ready to date again. I've been single for between 6 weeks (before having LO) to 6 months (between FOB and my now ex). I have no plans to date any time soon mainly cos I seem to pick the wrong blokes! Seem nice and normal to start with and soon start to show their true colours. If you feel you are ready to get into a relationship with this guy then go for it! But maybe take things slowly. However if you don't feel you could trust him then stay friends until he has earned your trust. Good luck hun x

 

[billy2mm]

its totally up to you when you feel ready. for me it wasnt when i felt ready to date or to trust a guy it was when the right guy came along that i trusted without thinking about it.

 

[jocelynmarie]

I've been wondering this too. I am just ending my first trimester and the ending of the relationship was by my choosing (I ended things before I found out) and its a lonely time. I have zero intentions of dating while pregnant. I just don't feel right about it, and after the baby is born they are obviously going to need all my love and attention.

The decision to be a single mom wasn't an easy one, but being that I am not in love with the father, I don't think that raising my LO in that environment is a good choice either. Kind of a daunting thought to realize the "right one" may never come along.

 

[lilgemsy]

^Im sure theyll come along sooner or later.
And even if they dont, at least youll love your LO and theyll always love you back
Not the same kind of love as off a partner like but still youll have your LO forever!

 

[teal]

I would agree that it's the right time when you feel ready