When nothing speaks to you & nothing sounds good. How important is the name?!

[marigold91]

I know this may seem like a crazy question... but truly, how important is the name? I know some people feel very strongly about their baby names, whereas others are fine with the compromise of husband/wife saying "if it's a girl, you get to choose the name / if it's a boy, I choose the name" sort of thing. My husbanad and I can't agree on a name, and neither of us feel very strongly to begin with. With our first daughter, we loved the name and it felt "right" from very early on. This time, nothing sounds like "the one"!

I just keep reassuring myself that the name doesn't really matter all that much - our little girl will grow into whatever we give her, and it will become so natural for us to call her by whatever name we choose that we won't even question whether we still like or dislike the name over time - because we'll love her for HER, of course.

Am I crazy for just thinking I'll settle with whatever hubby decides, even if it means that both of us don't really feel all that strongly about it? We still have some time to go, and I'm giving myself a deadline for 35 weeks to have this name thing sorted out... but I really think that if nothing sounds good by then, I'm throwing in the towel and just going with whatever someone else suggests!

 

[staralfur]

I couldn't think of any girl names that I liked when I was pregnant with my daughter. She still didn't have a name when she was born. My husband had loved Abigail since the moment we found out we were having a girl, so at the point she was physically in my arms and I didn't have a better suggestion, I just said "okay, well, I guess you get Abigail!"

I love her name now and couldn't imagine calling her anything else. I love the way she says "hi my name is Abigail!" to strangers, it sounds so cute coming out of her little mouth. So yes, I settled for a name that I didn't love and grew to love it because it's hers.

 

[o0oCharlieo0o]

I'm in your position, there are a couple of names I like but nothing I think 'that's the name' I don't know what I'm going to do I always have the names ready for when my babies are born and this one I have no idea lol

 

[6lilpigs]

We are in the same position, but luckily for DH does name the boys and we are expecting a boy so its down to him lol. But as you said they are gonna be whoever they are gonna be Do you like modern, traditional or family names?? Maybe look at inspirational women of the world, then she can always be told you were named after so and so

 

[LoraLoo]

For me it had to be a name I loved, and if it wasn't one I loved, one that at least really liked and could imagine my child being called, as a compromise.

I do agree however, that a child definitely grows into their name. I just think there has to be some sort of connection with the name to begin with.

 

[Moma Ali]

I have had names picked since I was little... a few fell by the wayside as I grew up for being too 'childish' but I knew my DS name from the second I found out and just told my DH that was THE name

he did get to chose the middle though because I thought it was important for him to be involved and wanted him to feel connected because he was quite distant during the pregnancy (he's the youngest in his family and the only one of his friend with a child so he had no idea what to do or how to act)

I honestly dont like that name he picked... nearly 7 years later I still dont like it, I think it sounds 'chavvy' and dosent suit him at all. I stuggle to hide the distain for it when their are MILLIONS of great boys names and we ended up with one of maybe 10 tasteless names I hate but luckly no one ever calls him that - I love my DS but not that name and he will never grow to suit it

we have picked names for our next DS easily but girls names are so much harder, only 2 I ever loved and one got 'ditched on the wayside' and DH had a girls nickname that he likes (he shows no real enthusiasm but keeps saying it and that he 'likes' it)

to compromise I managed to find a longer version (took years as most where horrible and complete bully foder, the one I finally loved is actually a cool place name instead of traditional classic name but was popular for a very short burst in midwest america during the 50s) that I really like so I get to use a good name on the birth certificate and the nickname can be used day to day

I would never make the mistake of going in blind again and giving DH complete free reign, I had no idea what DH wrote on the BC until afterwards last time and truely anything else would of been better so never again

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Honestly? I just decided when she was born and let instinct decide. I think its possible to over think.

 

[Kitteh_Kat]

We're one of those "he chooses the boy/I choose the girl" couples, although I do think it's important that both people like the name at least. We're having the same problem though! DD's name was easy and right and I think part of the problem is that I love it so darn much that nothing else can compare to it, but we're still trying to figure out a girl's name that we like for this one if it's another daughter.

I bought a used baby name book from a thrift store and have been going through it to make a list, and then bounce them off of hubby. I'm hoping one of them will eventually be a hit.

In the end it might not matter - I grew up and legally changed my name to what I wanted to be called. I hated the name my sperm donor of a father gave to me though!