when using softcups, how do I make sure I "scoop" all of the semen into the cup?

[whimesy3]

Hello..! I will becoming up on my 2nd cycle of trying after my period stops, and I will be adding softcups this cycle. I know there is a softcups thread, but its 700 pages and I really do not want to read through all of that! If you could please give me some advice on this matter I would really appreciate it!

TMI alert: I wanted to practice using them before I ovulate, and I figured right now would be the perfect time. I figured if I can get all the blood to flow into the cup, that I could handle getting the sperm in there. Well I put one in at about 12:30pm to see. I had no leakage at all & I thought everything was fine. I was pretty much laying down all day, but I have been up and down, going to the bathroom etc and still had no leakage. Well I go to sit down after having it in for 7 hours, and I suddlenly hear this gurgle down there & then a huge pool of blood comes gushing out. When I removed it, there was blood in there, but it had all mostly spilled out. Did I insert it wrong? Or did it just get too full?

TMI alert: I am trying this again because I want to get it right when I am ovulating. I should be fertile just a few days after my period stops, so that is why I am trying now. I can feel the rim of the cup against my pubic bone, so it feels like its in there right, but I am not sure! I try to push it back further, but it seems like its in there because the rim stays against my pubic bone. But does that mean the rest of it is around my cervix as it should be? Also, when laying down or standing up, I can feel the plastic plastic from the softcup when inserting a finger. Is this normal?

So now when it comes to using them for TTC & not menstruation, how do I make sure I actually"scoop" the sperm in to the cup and not create a barrier blocking the sperm from my cervix? Would it be wise to actually pull out the bag, and then insert the softcup, or would doing that make it more difficult to insert it?

I have been inserting them while laying down, would they go in better if I sat up?

Thanks for baring with me! Any other advice would be wonderful!

Thanks!

 

[Ash0619]

bump- you have a ton of questions! I'm basically guessing when I use them and just hoping it's doing what people say it is. I hope someone has better answers.

 

[momwannabe81]

U have it right, might be easier yo feel its in place sitting on the loo. It was probably full that's why squished out. Was it still behind the bone when u pulled it out after it leaked? The sperm is tiny enough to squeeze by the rim if its not inside the cup. But just inserting it u are scooping them in. So ur doing it right. Just relax now

 

[whimesy3]

Yes, it was still behind my pelvic bone when all the blood came gushing out. I have used these things 3 times now, and everytime I pull it out, there looks as if blood was in the cup, but none is still in the cup, it all spills into the toilet, and on my hands. If I was doing it right, wouldn't it still be in the cup when pulling it?

I do need to be relaxed LOL, but I am super paranoid I will actually be blocking the maybe babies out instead of moving them closer to my cervix. I will be fertile and ovulating exactly within the 6 days before I leave town, and am away from my OH..so I'm afraid if I do this wrong I will mess up my chances!

Thanks for answering and thanks, Ash for bumping.... I was pretty sure you were just hoping they all go in when you insert the softcups lol. Do they all go in when you insert them? You're new to this too, so don't ask me why I was expecting that just because you used them this cycle means you knew all there is to know about softcups lol

 

[momwannabe81]

Of anything u can have dh deposit in cup and then u insert it. But I know its a long thread but should really read it. It will answer all ur questions. Maybe start half way, but very informative

 

[whimesy3]

LOL I seriously do not think my babe will ever ejaculate into the softcup & let me jus do it that way. For one, we both have a very high sex drive & spend a 3rd of our day being intimate with each other lol..its all broken up, but I would say were having sex or being intimate somehow about 15 minutes out of every hour. He would feel like I am just "using" him (that's what he said lol) if I asked him to do that. I wouldn't mind doing it, but I really enjoy being intimate with him, its great

Secondly, he wants to do everything "all natural".. He won't even agree to use preseed. I don't want to be dishonest with him, but I really want to use it anyways...like put a little bit inside me before we have sex...I think he would notice it tough, because I heard its slippery, and he would not like it if he couldn't feel me.

I am even having to coax him into using the softcups afterwards! So what I am doing is doing natural things to increase my EWCM, such as eating baby carrots from now until ovulation, drinking grapefruit juice, cutting out dairy, and I perhaps and going to get some cough syrup to make it thinner and easier for the sperm to swim through. Then I will use the softcups (if he will let me) after we BD, and put the preseed in the softcups...I just hope to god I can learn to "scoop" them in the softcup so they are actually in the cup! I am so worried about that! We both really want our baby so badly and I am so paranoid I will botch this. I wish TTC wasn't so stressful