when will you be able to get excited next time?

[icclebaby]

We unfortunately suffered 2 miscarriages and really didnt allow ourselves to get excited throughout the whole of the third pregnancy, kind of ruined the whole experience but really dealt with the first loss so badly as hadnt for one minute thought it would happen so after that didnt allow myself to get hopes up All good now though and my lo has just had her first birthday!

 

[Rabbittchild]

i agree that I've lost my innocence, i thought getting pregnant was the difficult part - not realising staying pregnant would be harder. I think I would be excited with a bfp but also very wary and worried. I might relax slightly after getting past when i miscarried but i would hope I would be able to relax after the 12 week scan and enjoy things.

 

[chocolate]

Im still undecided, one minute I think I wont get excited because it could cause me to get more attached and upset - then I think I will get excited at times but to not get excited in front of others, and then I think, well if I do have a healthy pregnancy and baby, then I would have wasted 9 months celebrating that. So maybe I should just go with the flow, get excited, but also be realistic

 

[Tulip]

I will be excited and terrified at the BFP. Will go for a viability scan at 8 weeks (if heartbeat, MC risk drops to 3%). But I won't be happy until 20 weeks. Ruby's defect couldn't be diagnosed until 12 weeks. If this bitchass 5mg folic acid doesn't work, they may not be able to spot spina bifida til 20 weeks.

And I won't relax til I'm home with a healthy baby in my arms xxx

 

[Minimin]

icclebaby- thanks for sharing- it made me think I should take each one at a time and not ruin it. I would be sad to think I didnt enjoy a pregnancy and it worked out well. Thank you for sharing- xx

 

[goddess25]

My first miscarriage i did not know i was preggo i was bleeding too much and did a test and i was pg and threatning to mc then i did... with my son i never got excited for a long time i bled and threatened to mc and it was certainly well into the 2nd tri... this time i was so excited the moment of BFP i felt the same as i did with my son so i could have sworn at the time that everything would have been ok... i came onto b&b, made a ticker, announced the news and put myself into 1st tri only to wake up and start miscarrying the next day so not sure about next time....

 

[Tasha]

I wont be able. I have Honey who was born sleeping at 36+6 due to medical negligence, 4 early miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy.

 

[babytots]

Hi hun I won't be able to get excited til I reach 24 weeks and am classed as viable and even then I will be still worried something will go wrong. My last loss was at 19 weeks and so once I get past that 20 week scan and know my baby is ok and then to 24 weeks I know I will allow myself to get a tenny tiny bit excited. When I was pg with Jessica I got excited all would be fine since I made it past 12 weeks without a hitch (my first 2 losses happened at the 8-9 week mark) and it was heartbreaking when I found out she was no longer alive in my tummy so not letting the same happen next time x

 

[natp18]

Sadly I wont be excited when I get my BFP more relieved that my body has allowed me to become pregnant. Then I have to shut myself off from being pregnant until week 20-22gestation,until we have a MR scan to see if our baby has the fatal genetic condition their sister died from. Even after that I will be scared as hell not to loose my next baby to other complications....then i think ill worry about neo natal probs and sids. My whole experiences of being pregnant has taken the joy away from future pregnancys.........so not only have my angels been taken away from me but my future happieness of being pregnant too

 

[Smiler79]

I think I will be a little bit excited but more worried than anything else. I miscarried in October at approx 6 weeks and had only known I was pregnant for 5 days. Have been told by EPU at hospital that I will be able to have a scan at 7-8 weeks next time which may give me a little bit of reassurance but think th nerves will be ther all the way through.

I envy all the ladies that sail through their pregnancies without any worries at all. Sending baby dust to you all

 

[maybabydoll]

I'd be relieved to get to the 13w / second tri point, but like a lot of the ladies on here, I'll only be really happy when the baby's here and safe. x x x

 

[Ten]

I lost my little girl at 8.5 months, and initially I thought I wouldn't be able to breathe until I delivered. Now... I don't know. I think I'll be happy. That whole "live every day as if it was your last" thing started hitting home after we lost her. I really enjoyed my first pregnancy (up till that nasty turn at the end), and I like that I can look back on it and know that we had an awesome 8 months together.

 

[Serene123]

I think I'll be able to get excited after my reassurance scan (that I am having whether Rich likes it or not) at 8 weeks.

 

[Nosy_Cow]

I'm pretty much the same as Tulip and Natp18! I'm not going to lie I will be a little excited when I see the but until that 20 week scan when the baby has had all it's checks and the spine and brain are ok I won't be getting excited. Even after that I don't think I'll be excited. It will have to be when the healthy baby is lying in my arms.

We've said that we're not going to tell anyone till probably around 16 weeks (we get an extra scan to see if they can see the spine clearly) so we don't get people's hopes up but TBH last time I was showing at 8 weeks and people started guessing - so it will be when I start showing I guess!

Good Thread

 

[Tulip]

Oooh I wonder if I'll get an extra one at 16 then too Mands? I must demand it of the MW at booking in - isn't that gender scan time too? Pukka.

 

[Beadette]

I lost my little girl at 8.5 months, and initially I thought I wouldn't be able to breathe until I delivered. Now... I don't know. I think I'll be happy. That whole "live every day as if it was your last" thing started hitting home after we lost her. I really enjoyed my first pregnancy (up till that nasty turn at the end), and I like that I can look back on it and know that we had an awesome 8 months together.

Your attitude is inspirational hun! I think you are so very brave! x x x x x

 

[Tulip]

Your attitude is inspirational hun! I think you are so very brave! x x x x x

...says the woman who has impressed me so much with her positive thinking over the past few weeks.... How you feeling Nina? Saw your post about going back to work while I was lurking at lunchtime and wanted to give you massive hugs but not allowed to log in at work xxx

 

[Beadette]

Your attitude is inspirational hun! I think you are so very brave! x x x x x

...says the woman who has impressed me so much with her positive thinking over the past few weeks.... How you feeling Nina? Saw your post about going back to work while I was lurking at lunchtime and wanted to give you massive hugs but not allowed to log in at work xxx

Ah bless you! I'm ok - had a moment today at work but felt better for the release afterwards!

I'm currently sipping on a huge red wine so happy days! lol!

I'll be ok in the end - like we all will be! I just need to remember that I will have off days!

Thanks for the hugs! Made me feel better! Love ya x x

 

[Tulip]

Glad to hear it. A glass of vino is the cure to all evils (sort of). I'm Going Out - proper socialising - for the first time in 6 weeks tomorrow, so may well treat myself too.

You're right, we will get there. And tomorrow will be a better day. LY2

 

[Tulip]

Glad to hear it. A glass of vino is the cure to all evils (sort of). I'm Going Out - proper socialising - for the first time in 6 weeks tomorrow, so may well treat myself too.

You're right, we will get there. And tomorrow will be a better day. LY2