Where in the hospital were you treated during loss?

[ericacaca]

Hi there ladies. I'm a but confused and scared witless all at the same time because I don't know what will happen should the worst ever happen again this time round. I know I should worry about it if it happens at the time but I really need to put my mind at ease now.

Basically the maternity facilities where we used to live in Surrey were just amazing. Everything baby related was all in the same block. An Early Pregnancy Unit for those up to 12 weeks and then after 12 weeks you would go direct to labour ward.

But now we've moved the hospital has no EPU and you have to see A and E until 20 weeks! I'm so scared as we lost our baby girl at 18 weeks and the care we had was just amazing - we had midwife care and were given a private room to deliver and recover from it all. I'm just scared that if the worst happens before this 20 week cut off date that they don't take it so seriously and will just send me to be dealt with in a general ward! Is it really that horrendous?????

If you had to have a D and C or a late miscarriage but before 20 weeks did you have to go to A and E? And if you did where did you have to go after that?

I'm just scared that we were very spoilt in Surrey.


Thanks ladies. And I'm sorry if I've brought up a subject you didnt want to talk about again.

Erica xxx

 

[Sparkern]

Hi Erica, so sorry for your loss. I am in Nottingham and we have two hospitals to choose from. I had my first son in the city hospital as there is a specialist maternity unit and a hotel where parents can stay with their newborn if there are no complications. We had a great experience there so chose this hospital again for our second child. Sadly, we found out at the 12 week scan we'd had a mmc. As that hospital does not deal with mmc, we were then sent to the other hospital in Nottingham (Queens Medical Centre). They have a EPU there and they dealt with my D&C on the Gyno ward as a day patient. They were wonderful and the staff couldn't have been kinder. They made a horrible situation bearable and I felt very well cared for and extremely grateful of the NHS.
I am sorry for your loss. It must have been terrible to experience such a late loss. I am glad that the care you recieved was good, it makes such a difference. I truly hope that you will never need that sort of care again- wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy xx

 

[xAmiixLouisex]

I went to A&E. Was on the emergancy ward then sent home. I luckily didn't need a d+c. I was told if pregnancy test was still positive in 7 days to call my GP. So I'm assuming they would have then arranged a d+c.

 

[dizz]

Just registered... first miscarriage happened at home and I refused to go to the hospital at all.

Second one - QMC (Nottingham - mentioned before) EPU and they were brilliant - had gone for an early scan because of bleeding and they found a missed miscarriage, well it dragged on a while as it was suspected mmc, then the sac grew and they found a second sac, then a third rescan to confirm it was all over.

Then later took up residence in the EPU there for reassurance scans when I finally got pregnant again (they referred me to the miscarriage clinic after 2 losses and not three) weekly from week 5 to week 10and a half (would have been 11 but she wasn't there that week!) and for that I'm eternally grateful. Tomorrow I get to graduate to have a scan in the proper ante-natal department (which is terrifying the living daylights outta me)!

Very very grateful they had an EPU with a separate scanner so you didn't get the horror of sitting there in a room full of baby posters and pregnant ladies coming out clutching photos... and the follow-up care with this pregnancy has been far far above and beyond what I could have dreamt of - I've almost emerged from the first trimester with my sanity relatively intact! They've also basically told me if I have any bother before about 16 weeks to just call them up direct and they'll scan me because "it can be a bit hard getting anyone to see you before about 16 weeks."

Is it worth looking to see if any other of your local hospitals have an EPU just so you know options if the worst ever happens again? Although I'll admit I picked my hospital on the highly scientific principle of "which one is my navigationally-challenged husband who still asks me for directions to find the way to the bathroom ever less likely to get lost on the way to."

I'm actually planning on popping up to our EPU with a thank you card and tin of choccies in the next week or so!

 

[Sparkern]

Just registered... first miscarriage happened at home and I refused to go to the hospital at all.

Second one - QMC (Nottingham - mentioned before) EPU and they were brilliant - had gone for an early scan because of bleeding and they found a missed miscarriage, well it dragged on a while as it was suspected mmc, then the sac grew and they found a second sac, then a third rescan to confirm it was all over.

Then later took up residence in the EPU there for reassurance scans when I finally got pregnant again (they referred me to the miscarriage clinic after 2 losses and not three) weekly from week 5 to week 10and a half (would have been 11 but she wasn't there that week!) and for that I'm eternally grateful. Tomorrow I get to graduate to have a scan in the proper ante-natal department (which is terrifying the living daylights outta me)!


Very very grateful they had an EPU with a separate scanner so you didn't get the horror of sitting there in a room full of baby posters and pregnant ladies coming out clutching photos... and the follow-up care with this pregnancy has been far far above and beyond what I could have dreamt of - I've almost emerged from the first trimester with my sanity relatively intact! They've also basically told me if I have any bother before about 16 weeks to just call them up direct and they'll scan me because "it can be a bit hard getting anyone to see you before about 16 weeks."

Is it worth looking to see if any other of your local hospitals have an EPU just so you know options if the worst ever happens again? Although I'll admit I picked my hospital on the highly scientific principle of "which one is my navigationally-challenged husband who still asks me for directions to find the way to the bathroom ever less likely to get lost on the way to."

I'm actually planning on popping up to our EPU with a thank you card and tin of choccies in the next week or so!

Hi Dizz, sorry to hear of your losses. Glad you had a great experience with QMC, as I did though- it makes a horrible time so much more bearable I found. Did you get the weekly scan because you were referred to the miscarriage clinic? Was it on their recommendation? I have been referred for one early scan at EPU when I will be approx nine weeks after a bit of a battle with my GP. Lost my last baby at 9+2 so it is going to be a long wait between 9-12 week scans, just wondering if they'd be able to do one inbetween or whether it would have to be a GP referall (which I don't think I'd get, despite my anxiety levels. Hope you don't mind me picking your brain.

Wishing you all the luck in the world with your scan tomorrow- will be thinking of you x

 

[SabrinaKat]

I went to a completely different hospital this time, as my previous hospital was terrible (part of the infamous Irish hospital miscarriage scandal of 2009 where machines were broken, blood tests lost and staff inadequately trained). I ultimately had a natural mc at home and only went into the hospital for a final (empty) scan....

When my OH and I started the pre-IVF journey, I researched the best names in pre- and antenatal medicine in Dublin, and when I became pregnant naturally (!), knew exactly where to go -- we also went private and it helps to have somebody 24hours if necessary -- fortunately, this pregnancy so far is absolutely normal and routine, but I know that I would be treated with compassion this time, regardless...

when I mention the last experience, the midwives here shudder...

Personally, and excuse my language, there is no way in hell I would ever set foot in that other hospital and if you are unhappy with your current treatment, go elsewhere!

best wishes...

 

[dizz]

Hi Dizz, sorry to hear of your losses. Glad you had a great experience with QMC, as I did though- it makes a horrible time so much more bearable I found. Did you get the weekly scan because you were referred to the miscarriage clinic? Was it on their recommendation? I have been referred for one early scan at EPU when I will be approx nine weeks after a bit of a battle with my GP. Lost my last baby at 9+2 so it is going to be a long wait between 9-12 week scans, just wondering if they'd be able to do one inbetween or whether it would have to be a GP referall (which I don't think I'd get, despite my anxiety levels. Hope you don't mind me picking your brain.

Wishing you all the luck in the world with your scan tomorrow- will be thinking of you x

After the missed miscarriage I got given the choice basically - I could get a referral to the fertility bods there (it's hard for us to concieve - but all they'd do would be put me on monitoring until I hit their BMI targets) or to the recurrent miscarriage clinic - I figured that it was no use being able to GET pregnant if I couldn't stay that way and went that route.

Saw the consultant once (she's a bit scary at first in that she's no nonsense but it's her manner and I really warmed to her over time - she's lovely really) and she basically said the likelihood was I may well lose again but this time if they were watching they might see what was going on - to call up if I ever got pregnant again and they'd take a look at the point previously things kept going wrong at - then she kept rescanning me from there weekly until I hit the point where ante-natal normal picked me up. She did tell us to relax a bit when we got past the point of previous losses as that was the key thing she was looking for.

I guess if you talk to them when you're there, mention the point the loss happened previously and see what they suggest - I know when things went wrong for us and it wasn't looking 100% they automatically booked us back for rescans a week and a bit later (I spent nearly a month in limbo while they decided what was going on).

 

[Sparkern]

Hi Dizz, sorry to hear of your losses. Glad you had a great experience with QMC, as I did though- it makes a horrible time so much more bearable I found. Did you get the weekly scan because you were referred to the miscarriage clinic? Was it on their recommendation? I have been referred for one early scan at EPU when I will be approx nine weeks after a bit of a battle with my GP. Lost my last baby at 9+2 so it is going to be a long wait between 9-12 week scans, just wondering if they'd be able to do one inbetween or whether it would have to be a GP referall (which I don't think I'd get, despite my anxiety levels. Hope you don't mind me picking your brain.

Wishing you all the luck in the world with your scan tomorrow- will be thinking of you x

After the missed miscarriage I got given the choice basically - I could get a referral to the fertility bods there (it's hard for us to concieve - but all they'd do would be put me on monitoring until I hit their BMI targets) or to the recurrent miscarriage clinic - I figured that it was no use being able to GET pregnant if I couldn't stay that way and went that route.

Saw the consultant once (she's a bit scary at first in that she's no nonsense but it's her manner and I really warmed to her over time - she's lovely really) and she basically said the likelihood was I may well lose again but this time if they were watching they might see what was going on - to call up if I ever got pregnant again and they'd take a look at the point previously things kept going wrong at - then she kept rescanning me from there weekly until I hit the point where ante-natal normal picked me up. She did tell us to relax a bit when we got past the point of previous losses as that was the key thing she was looking for.

I guess if you talk to them when you're there, mention the point the loss happened previously and see what they suggest - I know when things went wrong for us and it wasn't looking 100% they automatically booked us back for rescans a week and a bit later (I spent nearly a month in limbo while they decided what was going on).

Thanks Dizz, I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. I spoke to someone from the EPU last week (a nurse, she was lovely). My scan is actually at 8 weeks, a week before my previous loss. The nurse suggested I postpone my scan until after the time of my previous loss but unfortunately, that wasn't possible in the end (long story). I hope the early scan will still bring me some reassurance though.

Thanks again for sharing your experiences. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy xx