who can say..

[Jadelm]

I'd just like to say.. I'm really proud of everyone for having such a civil thread about something so controversial!! I was expecting this to get into a bad place quite quickly but it hasn't Yaaay peace at last

Not being patronising, it has genuinely made me really happy and my faith has been restored in this forum xxx

 

[cabaretmum2b]

I'd just like to say.. I'm really proud of everyone for having such a civil thread about something so controversial!! I was expecting this to get into a bad place quite quickly but it hasn't Yaaay peace at last

Not being patronising, it has genuinely made me really happy and my faith has been restored in this forum xxx

I was just thinking the same thing! I was genuinely worried it would have turned into a flaming match by now...hurrah!!!

 

[jenniferannex]

Hmm i cant actually believe people are still smoking whilst pregnant :/ It may be your decision but you should be thinking of the harm to your child

(sorry if this is offensive but im allowed my opinion just as much as you are)

I have never smoked so doesnt affect me and im not really a drinker but did have a WKD about a week into the pregnancy and i didnt know i was pregnant at the time

This is not a thread on whether you should or shouldn't smoke while pregnant, or what people's opinions on the matter are. This is a thread asking a simple question. People are not giving their opinion on the matter and neither should you because it will get way out of hand and turn into an arguement. Plus opinions were not asked for. Just yes or no.

Also, you have never smoked. So until you do you cannot judge on how hard it is to give up for some people.

I think you will find its a free country and i can speak my opinion if i want too All i was saying was personally my sons health comes above EVERYTHING - and although i have seen my brother quit smoking and have seen how difficult it can be , its not impossible and babies health should always come first. - HOWEVER i can understand how difficult it is and well done to all the girls who have cut down and are trying to quit for there LO.

I am NOT trying to upset anyone - i think its great that most of you have cut down for your little one , well done

Sorry if people find my opinion on the matter unwanted and such , but i cant see why i cant comment :/ It was never supposed to be offensive lol

Not getting at you Hun but the administrator even said this thread isn't for that, it was a yes or no answer, so there was no need to put what you did, it just puts the girls down. Let's keep it nice we were doing really well.

 

[jenniferannex]

I never really know whether I ought to comment on threads like this because of the backlash....
But I am probally the most disgusting one here.
I was taking hundreds of pounds worth of cocaine when I found out I was pregnant, because FOB was a very well-off coke addict. And drinking like an idiot. I was drunk every weekend and coked up every DAY.
I gave up alcohol pretty quickly when I found out as I only drank socially and was never an alcoholic...
But I was still hooked on coke for a long time into my pregnancy. It was so fucked up. I'd feel sooo guilty, but when I snorted it I felt so good, like me AND my baby were invincible! Obviously when I crashed I realised that actually, I was KILLING both of us.
I gave up completely around 15/16 weeks...but had a couple of relapses since. I am appalled at myself. Scans have shown everything to be fine. But if he's born all messed up I don't know what I'd do, and I'd only have myself to blame.
Obviously I know it was an addiction...and cocaine is one of the most addictive substances there are. But I should have locked myself up away from it, ANYTHING.

So whilst I have never smoked, I could never judge someone who still smokes during pregnancy!

Ahwww Hun glad it's got better for you that must of been awful, I have so much respect for people like you being honest! x

 

[AriannasMama]

I had a rum and coke and a shot of rum and a puff off some weed when I was like 5-6 weeks pregnant =/. I didn't know I was at the time though and since I have found out I stay away from everything.

 

[divershona]

Not to add or build up an argument or anything.
But...

Heavy smokers are advised to cut down rather than stop alltogether, as it can do more damage to the baby and our bodies if we stop straight away.
We're also advised if we do want to stop FULLY, but are finding it hard, cut down until 36 weeks, and stop then.

That was the advice I was given anyway.

i was given the same advice

 

[rainbows_x]

I'd just like to say.. I'm really proud of everyone for having such a civil thread about something so controversial!! I was expecting this to get into a bad place quite quickly but it hasn't Yaaay peace at last

Not being patronising, it has genuinely made me really happy and my faith has been restored in this forum xxx

Totally agree, I've seen many threads like this one turn into a huge arguement!
Well done to everyone for being so honest and for cutting down at least, everyone is doing great!

 

[Adrienne]

Hmm i cant actually believe people are still smoking whilst pregnant :/ It may be your decision but you should be thinking of the harm to your child

(sorry if this is offensive but im allowed my opinion just as much as you are)

I have never smoked so doesnt affect me and im not really a drinker but did have a WKD about a week into the pregnancy and i didnt know i was pregnant at the time

This is not a thread on whether you should or shouldn't smoke while pregnant, or what people's opinions on the matter are. This is a thread asking a simple question. People are not giving their opinion on the matter and neither should you because it will get way out of hand and turn into an arguement. Plus opinions were not asked for. Just yes or no.

Also, you have never smoked. So until you do you cannot judge on how hard it is to give up for some people.

I think you will find its a free country and i can speak my opinion if i want too All i was saying was personally my sons health comes above EVERYTHING - and although i have seen my brother quit smoking and have seen how difficult it can be , its not impossible and babies health should always come first. - HOWEVER i can understand how difficult it is and well done to all the girls who have cut down and are trying to quit for there LO.

I am NOT trying to upset anyone - i think its great that most of you have cut down for your little one , well done

Sorry if people find my opinion on the matter unwanted and such , but i cant see why i cant comment :/ It was never supposed to be offensive lol

Not getting at you Hun but the administrator even said this thread isn't for that, it was a yes or no answer, so there was no need to put what you did, it just puts the girls down. Let's keep it nice we were doing really well.

Why do threads always end up in argument??!?!?! It's so hard to find a civil discussion around here these days...

 

[jenniferannex]

I know that's why I was trying to keep it civil, this was going well so far! Hopefully that will be it for this thread, no more arguing xx

 

[rubixcyoob.]

Hmm i cant actually believe people are still smoking whilst pregnant :/ It may be your decision but you should be thinking of the harm to your child

(sorry if this is offensive but im allowed my opinion just as much as you are)

I have never smoked so doesnt affect me and im not really a drinker but did have a WKD about a week into the pregnancy and i didnt know i was pregnant at the time

This is not a thread on whether you should or shouldn't smoke while pregnant, or what people's opinions on the matter are. This is a thread asking a simple question. People are not giving their opinion on the matter and neither should you because it will get way out of hand and turn into an arguement. Plus opinions were not asked for. Just yes or no.

Also, you have never smoked. So until you do you cannot judge on how hard it is to give up for some people.

I think you will find its a free country and i can speak my opinion if i want too All i was saying was personally my sons health comes above EVERYTHING - and although i have seen my brother quit smoking and have seen how difficult it can be , its not impossible and babies health should always come first. - HOWEVER i can understand how difficult it is and well done to all the girls who have cut down and are trying to quit for there LO.

I am NOT trying to upset anyone - i think its great that most of you have cut down for your little one , well done

Sorry if people find my opinion on the matter unwanted and such , but i cant see why i cant comment :/ It was never supposed to be offensive lol

Not getting at you Hun but the administrator even said this thread isn't for that, it was a yes or no answer, so there was no need to put what you did, it just puts the girls down. Let's keep it nice we were doing really well.

Why do threads always end up in argument??!?!?! It's so hard to find a civil discussion around here these days...

I wasn't starting an arguement. I wrote something down that mods and other people wrote, before I seen their posts :S

 

[jenniferannex]

Smileeee girlies

 

[Jadelm]

Oh please don't make me feel like I jinxed it!!
To be fair to everyone I don't think this is an arguement so we're still on safe ground

So the people who have stopped smoking, do you think you will start again after bubs is born? (I think someone already asked this at the beginning.. sorry!)

Personally I think I will socially, because I actuallay like smoking and although it's bad for your health if done in moderation and not everyday I don't see a problem with it, it's no worse than drinking on the odd occassion in my opinion. But I wouldn't smoke around LO and would try not to smell of smoke near her so she doesn't associate the smell of smoke with like comfort Also I wouldn't want her to think it's ok because I do it so I wouldn't do it in front of her xxx

 

[amygwen]

i've never smoked so i didn't do that while pregnant, but i had a couple champagnes throughout my pregnancy before i knew & after. each to their own really. my mom smoke and drank throughout her entire pregnancy because she didn't know she was pregnant, and i'd like to think i turned out perfectly fine!

 

[jenniferannex]

Jade I have so ashamed of myself as I did so well. I have one in the day while she naps then when she's in bed at night, and when i go out it's worse! I will of definatly quit by the time she's 1 though! I dint want her to pick up on it. Xx

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

I really do not think ANYONE is trying to start an argument. Stating the fact it may start an argument is more inflamatory.

Admin pointed out this thread isn't for whether you agree with it or not. It is a thread where girls can be honest without fear of being judged/jumped on etc.

I taek my hats off to the girls that have at least cut down. At least they are making a serious effort
xx

 

[jenniferannex]

Exactly!!

 

[bbyno1]

i thought itd just be a few yes n no's to be honest and hardly no 1 would comment now i just feel abit guilty lol x

 

[amynorange]

I haven't had any alcohol since I found out I was pregnant, but I'm not really a big drinker anyway.
I was smoking up until I took the test and then it came back a and I haven't touched a cigarette since!

 

[veganmum2be]

i can.
i gave up smoking when ttc as much as it pained me.
and i haven't had a drop of alcohol sinse november last year as i was pregnant then, and didn't want to drink while ttc or this pregnancy.
not worth it imo. xx

 

[Jadelm]

Jade I have so ashamed of myself as I did so well. I have one in the day while she naps then when she's in bed at night, and when i go out it's worse! I will of definatly quit by the time she's 1 though! I dint want her to pick up on it. Xx

Aw I wouldn't be ashamed!! A few a day isn't that bad and neither is smoking 20 a day as long as your not actually like blowing it in LOs face! My Mum smoked properly from the day after I was born and I never suffered from it, in fact I HATED smoking and used to try and get her to quit. She finally did when I was 12 and then when I was 14 I got in with the wrong crowd and started So I honestly don't think it's my Mum's fault/influence that I smoked at all. To be honest what I said would kind of be my 'ideal situation' .. I bet I smoke more than that in reality once she's here.. it's hard to tell how you're gonna be

i thought itd just be a few yes n no's to be honest and hardly no 1 would comment now i just feel abit guilty lol x

Don't feel guilty, I think this is a really interesting thread and had been a good topic of coversation xxx