Hiya Shauna,
I found i had no real friends when i was preg with my 1st.
Pre-preg i was the one everyone always wanted to be around, the giggley one who always made people laugh & made the night, I was never short of someone to either visit or go out with etc . Things started to change soon as i said " im preg " i was about 8wks , Even though i continued to go out & act my normal dizzy self, People just stopped texting,ringing & asking me to go out. Nothing had changed i was still me...
But i couldn't understand how although my best friend (socalled) was still in touch just about how she could just distance herself from me when we had been inseperable since we'd met 3yrs earlier.
When i had my son and i was able to sit up (was bit poorly) she was the 1st person i rang & wanted to tell and although she sounded happy i could tell with her voice she wasnt impressed id woke her up but it was 10am not 2am. She turned up at my house 2weeks later with a tiny baby gift which didnt fit & that was that end of friendship really.I was a single mum with a dead beat ex for my babies dad so the friendship would of really helped. I lost everyone & still to this day none of us speak unless we pass in the street, I have a good friend now who is also preg & we'll both be there for eachother but i still reserve myself incase i'm "abandoned" again which was how i felt. Now i make acquaintances not close friends.
Its looking like im about to do it all alone again which is my worst fear, my OH just isnt here no more & doesnt seem at all interested which kills me as he is my everything, but nothing i can do but go on.
I rely on people online now, and find they are often more truthful & more genuine that most people ive physically met xxx
