who else is late 30's and TTC 1st? how many children would you like?

[kosh]

hi everyone, thanks for all your replies. I would love to keep track of everyone so perhaps you can post and say where in your cycle you are, or even better add a ticker in your signature like mine as then its easy to keep track.

Good luck to everyone and please keep in touch here

I must be around 10-11dpo, AF due next Mon-Wed (last two cycles were a bit odd).
I'm actually trying to lose count - I am a "no-tester"!

 

[velo]

hi! I was referred to a fertility specialist at Mount Sinai hospital in Toronto so a big hospital. My family doctor is in Toronto and she sends all her patients to Mount Sinai. They have a whole unit there, seems very good. So I will stick with her and if we need to have treatments like IVF one day I would be going there too. its about an hour drive from where I live north west of Toronto but Id prefer to be going to a main hospital in Toronto than some small place near me.

where did you live in ontario? and where in bc? I visited vancouver for the first time last year and loved it, but couldnt believe the real estate prices compared to toronto!

I agree, have all the tests you can. I have a post op next month and going to ask about how to test my eggs. Im hoping the polyp was the problem but who knows what my eggs are like at this age.

anyone else had their eggs tested?

wishing everyone lots of luck, please keep in touch!

Hi Sarah,
We lived in Toronto (right in the city, so would have been super convenient for fertility testing!) but it BC we are in a more remote rural location. I think the closest fertility center to us would be a 2.5 hour drive so I'm hoping we don't have to make too many visits! Hoping the GP can run some initial blood testing.

Hopefully the polyp was the problem for you! That's why I'm anxious to get something tested because obviously if there is a problem all the acupuncture, eating perfectly, temping, timing perfectly etc. will not fix it.

Is there any way to test eggs besides the painful and involved procedure of extraction? (which you would have done if you were doing an IVF) Do you have an ovulatory cycle every month? And is your luteal phase the same length? I think these are good indicators. Apparently if you have an occasional short LP it may mean that it was a bad egg that month.

 

[wish4babybump]

Hi everyone,
1st forum ever so bare with me. I'm 36, If I would have known what I know now we would have ttc years ago. Oct/09 I had a 15cm fibroid removed, when I first found out I looked like this .I worried about my fertility a great deal. I now have a large scar (5 inch c-section scar), which I think I am ok with but not so much with being told I will need a c-section for any babies ( I always planned on a natural birth, but at this point I just hope I can concieve ). I recently just had a polyp removed. So now I'm here. I looked before but could never find a forum for women in a similar situation, and close in age like some have stated, not to mention being current/active. I work in a pharmacy that deals with a lot of fertility patients, IUI an IVF which can be hard at times emotionally but I try to think positive. Anyways I look forward to hearing from any of you. And baby dust to all !!!

 

[wish4babybump]

I don't know if it is a sort of bargaining thing to help it happen or what but I all I really want is to be able to have one baby, then If I can have another 1 great, if not then will think about adopting most likley of the opposite sex of the 1 I hope to have (I have always wanted at least 1 of each). Also thinking of trying accupuncture but not sure of if it matters when to have it during your cycle.?

 

[wish4babybump]

I think I just answered my own question, lol. googled it
What I found was that it should be on a regular basis, 1 to 2 times a week, throughout your cycle, especially during an initial treatment period (the first 2-3months).

I think maybe I might have had a very early miscarriage almost a year ago, but not exactly sure(I have never told anyone this before). At the time I really didn't want to know, I don't think I could have handled it with everything going on at the time. I had a very painful period, extreme pain in my lower back like never before, then went to the bathroom and looked at the tissue thinking it was a huge clot but it looked like chicken skin ( sorry for being so graphic). I hope it wasn't but I just don't know what else it could have been. Anyway, this is want prompted the ultrasound then hysterosonogram which revealed and confirmed the polyp.

Thanks for listening.

 

[sarahincanada]

just wanted to say hi to everyone, where are you all in your cycle?
Im 2dpo, but this month Im not to enthuastic. I had a polyp removal last tuesday and was told I could BD once the bleeding stopping. We managed a couple of times on Sunday which was probably ovulation day as I got a positive test the night before. they were just quick sessions as I was not in the move after my operation so I doubt it will happen but at least I tried something (not many cycles left at this age!!)
Im excited to start a new cycle in a couple of weeks.

wish4babybump hi and welcome! you mentioned you just had a polyp removed too, when was that? have you had a cycle after? Im so sure that is the reason we have not conceived so Im hopeful now. If it doesnt happen in 3 months my FS is giving me clomid. I have not tried acupucture but have been doing reflexology for 2 months. I think its helped my cycles become regular 28 day cycles, and now the polyp has gone I hope it will help.
sorry to hear about the possible MC, I did find that my periods have been clotty and I spot inbetween and I think it was the polyp.

for everyone !

 

[sarahincanada]

hi! I was referred to a fertility specialist at Mount Sinai hospital in Toronto so a big hospital. My family doctor is in Toronto and she sends all her patients to Mount Sinai. They have a whole unit there, seems very good. So I will stick with her and if we need to have treatments like IVF one day I would be going there too. its about an hour drive from where I live north west of Toronto but Id prefer to be going to a main hospital in Toronto than some small place near me.

where did you live in ontario? and where in bc? I visited vancouver for the first time last year and loved it, but couldnt believe the real estate prices compared to toronto!

I agree, have all the tests you can. I have a post op next month and going to ask about how to test my eggs. Im hoping the polyp was the problem but who knows what my eggs are like at this age.

anyone else had their eggs tested?

wishing everyone lots of luck, please keep in touch!

Hi Sarah,
We lived in Toronto (right in the city, so would have been super convenient for fertility testing!) but it BC we are in a more remote rural location. I think the closest fertility center to us would be a 2.5 hour drive so I'm hoping we don't have to make too many visits! Hoping the GP can run some initial blood testing.

Hopefully the polyp was the problem for you! That's why I'm anxious to get something tested because obviously if there is a problem all the acupuncture, eating perfectly, temping, timing perfectly etc. will not fix it.

Is there any way to test eggs besides the painful and involved procedure of extraction? (which you would have done if you were doing an IVF) Do you have an ovulatory cycle every month? And is your luteal phase the same length? I think these are good indicators. Apparently if you have an occasional short LP it may mean that it was a bad egg that month.

hi!!! it seems my luteal phrase is regular now, I seem to ovulate CD14 and 28 day cycles. It was longer last year, but I think the reflexology has balanced my body. I dont know how they test eggs, I just hope that things being regular and blood tests good means Im good. but I wonder if things can be regular but Im popping out bad eggs

when is your FS apt?

 

[wish4babybump]

I had my polyp removed March 16/11. It was nothing compared to my abdominal myomectomy (15cm fibroid) Oct 28/09. I have been averaging a 35 day cycle since then. Hopefully my ticker show up below

 

[Ruth2307]

Hello Everyone

I am new to this site and this is my first post. I have finally found a current forum which accurately reflects my circumstances - BRILLIANT!

I am now 37 and have been TTC my first since July 2009. I have PCOS (diagnosed in 1996) but have finally managed to regulate my cycles (now 28 days) in the last 12 months with the use of herbal remedies. That said this month I am on CD33 and there is no sign of AF which is really unusual. I had an HSG on 7th March and unfortunately I was left with a nasty infection and maybe this has affected my cycle. My follow up appt with the gynae isn't until July so I have been pushing to find out the result of the HSG from the hospital because I still don't know the state of my tubes. Apparently there is a letter on its way so I wait with bated breath. I've also had a 21 day blood test on 18th March to find out if I'm definitely ovulating, but once again I have no idea about the result; the hospital isn't very forthcoming.

So that's my situation in a nutshell!

In answer to the question in the original post: in my head I always imagined that I'd have 3 but given the amount of time it's taken just to get to this point (i.e. getting regular periods and a proper understanding of how a cycle works!) I would feel lucky to have just one. This was never my intention though because I always loved having my brother and sisters and I wanted this for any children I ever had.

What constantly amazes me is just how different life has turned out from how I imagined it especially in this regard. I'm sure you know what I mean even though it's extremely difficult to articulate! When I was in my 20s I used to hear about women our age who were having problems conceiving or were on the fertility 'journey' and I was really quite blase or dismissive. I'd even go so far as to say that I was quite insensitive and I NEVER thought that one day it would be me - surely that only happens to other women! Now here I am in my 38th year, childless, at times an emotional-wreck(!) wandering through children's depts touching the baby-gros, ooh and ahhing over little baby shoes, surfing websites looking at i-Candy baby buggies, and welling up during the school run - HOW DID THAT HAPPEN??!!

Sorry about the mega-long post. Sometimes it's nice to express your feelings with other women who hopefully can truly empathise. I'm not mad, just have extremely strong maternal feelings with no where to channel them.

Ruth xxxx

 

[Macwooly]

Hello Ruth, I understand how you feel waiting for letters in the post with results when someone at the doctors/hospital knows the results already (I had a similar wait for my 21 day blood test).

You're certainly not mad. I too walk through baby sections of stores touching the baby grows and feeling that pang with the thought "when will I have one". You will find many like me have already made purchases for babies still to come.

I have only been a member a few days but already I find that I feel better knowing I am not alone in my feelings and I have a place where I can talk if needed. I've certainly found it a very friendly, welcoming place.

Fingers crossed that your cycle settles soon, that all your results are good news and that you get a BFP very soon x

 

[Anabella]

I'm 36, healthy, and regular, so hoping this won't be difficult. Definitely thought I'd be pregnant by now though. We're currently on our 3rd cycle. I'm hoping for at least 2 children.

 

[Ruth2307]

Hello Ruth, I understand how you feel waiting for letters in the post with results when someone at the doctors/hospital knows the results already (I had a similar wait for my 21 day blood test).

You're certainly not mad. I too walk through baby sections of stores touching the baby grows and feeling that pang with the thought "when will I have one". You will find many like me have already made purchases for babies still to come.

I have only been a member a few days but already I find that I feel better knowing I am not alone in my feelings and I have a place where I can talk if needed. I've certainly found it a very friendly, welcoming place.

Fingers crossed that your cycle settles soon, that all your results are good news and that you get a BFP very soon x

I haven't progressed to the stage of making any purchases yet but that's only because I reign it in big time; God only knows where it could end!!!

Another day passes and still no letter from the hospital. I wonder if they realise just how agonising this is??

 

[velo]

hi!!! it seems my luteal phrase is regular now, I seem to ovulate CD14 and 28 day cycles. It was longer last year, but I think the reflexology has balanced my body. I dont know how they test eggs, I just hope that things being regular and blood tests good means Im good. but I wonder if things can be regular but Im popping out bad eggs

when is your FS apt?

Nice, glad to hear the reflexology worked well. SIGH, no FS appt yet. I saw my GP today, and got a requisition to have a SA done for hubby. Also booked a physical but have to wait 6 weeks. More sighing. But the annoying thing is hubby recently got an infection he is on antibiotics so has to wait until that's all out of his system before having the SA done. She said if the SA comes back okay then she'll refer me to a gyno. (presumably because of the lack of FS in this area)

 

[Indigo77]

Hi....new here...I will be 39 in May and this month will be our 3rd try. I want 1 child and he wants 2...I was wondering how long you all ttc before you sought medical interventions?

 

[FutureMommie]

I'm 37 and hoping to have at least 2 as you can see from my siggy we have been trying while but still hopeful.

hi! I recognize your face so I must have seen you posting in this section. I hope your time is soon, you really deserve it. Im sorry I dont understand all the fertility talk, but your sig mentions Clomid...my FS said I can go on that after trying for 3 cycles naturally after my polyp removal. What is Follistim w/IUI? and soon you will try IVF? Wishing you lots of , I hope this year is your year

Thanks, follistim is a fertility med that help to produce more than one mature follicle each cycle, hopefully I released more than one egg which give me a better chance that one of the eggs will be fertilized. This cycle I had 7 follicles with at least 3 mature eggs so FX. I had an IUI last monday.

 

[FutureMommie]

Hi....new here...I will be 39 in May and this month will be our 3rd try. I want 1 child and he wants 2...I was wondering how long you all ttc before you sought medical interventions?

based on your age of 39, you should probably try for at least 6months first. I'm 37 and thats how long we tried before we were referred to an fertility specialist. I hope you catch the eggie on your own without needing help.

 

[Indigo77]

I hope so too...thanks...Where are you in NC? I am so glad I found this thread..I was feeling like we were a few years too late to try.

 

[velo]

Hi....new here...I will be 39 in May and this month will be our 3rd try. I want 1 child and he wants 2...I was wondering how long you all ttc before you sought medical interventions?

based on your age of 39, you should probably try for at least 6months first. I'm 37 and thats how long we tried before we were referred to an fertility specialist. I hope you catch the eggie on your own without needing help.

Don't be afraid to go to your doctor earlier if you notice potential problems, e.g. irregular cycles.

 

[Indigo77]

Will do, thanks. I started charting in Dec, 30 day cycles, CD 19 ovulation, using OPK. My LP is on short side (11 days) so I started taking B6 to see if it helps. We also use ProSeed (not much EWCM)...thinking of adding soft cups to the mix....

 

[velo]

You could ask your doctor now I think about your LP. I also don't have much EWCM and to try to increase it I am trying:
- grapefruit juice
- drink more water
- Evening Primrose Oil (2 500mg gel caps with each meal)