Who is "ruining" your wedding?

[pregnantbride]

So my hubby and I will have two kids when we get married. People are so judgmental over this!

My mother in law is completely opposed to me wearing a white dress, because, and I quote, "well hun, you aren't a virgin". SO?! I can still wear any wedding dress I want!

A lot of our friends are thinking that it's stupid for us to have a nice wedding when we could put it to our kids. Seriously?

I don't know. Rant rant! Weddings are stressful as it is, and having so many people working against us makes it even worse. So who is trying to "ruin" your wedding?

 

[Kimboowee]

Haha I've had both comments...

If I want a big wedding - I'll have one! Were only getting away with it cos Josh will be 7months old at xmas so not know much - he's only getting a few bits from us and lots of clothes.

And OHs parents trying to get us to invite the world and his brother - seriously his aunty called me a gym slip mum (I was 20) and they're trying to make me invite her, BOLLOX! She ain't invited to the day or evening do.

 

[Mynxie]

no one, lol, they wouldn't dare tempt the bridezilla in me hahaha

seriously, there's only 28 people coming, so it'll be very intimate and stuff, only the people we REALLY want there.

 

[pregnantbride]

haha. i am being a slight bridezilla too! I think what is annoying me is that so many people gave us crap for having kids before being married. Keagan was conceived while on the pill. This baby was conceived while we were engaged while using a condom.

but now that we decide to get married, people get fiery about it! I basically tell people "well it's my wedding...so deal" haha!

 

[chuck]

I gave my close friends a years notice and have reminded them throughout the year of the cheapest way to travel to our wedding and when they could have got a cracking deal on hotels and trains (we're getting married away from where we live as neither of us have family here) so they could have gotten both for around £40.

But none of them bothered, they've all given me bullshit reasons about money as to why they cant come - I refuse to believe that in a f**king year none of them could save £40/£50 when all of them work and have good jobs.

They just didn't bother until the got the invites 6 weeks ago and no the trains & hotels would cost over £100.

Lazy *******s.

Well the wedding isn't ruined but I'm plenty pissed off that the majority of my so-called friends could lift a finger to organize themselves in a year!!!

 

[Nic1107]

My wedding is over and done but two people annoyed me quite a bit the day of:

-My friend who was matron of honour: She showed up looking like she may as well have been in pajamas rather than her dress; no make-up, hair hanging, glasses on. My entire bridal party looked so nice otherwise... I'm not trying to be shallow or anything, but she didn't make a bit of effort to look nice for a wedding that she was Matron of Honour in!
During the reception, she didn't hang out with the rest of us, dance or anything, just sat by her husband all night and left early.

-The pastor!: I really should have asked him what he planned to say for his "homily" or whatever it was. He started giving us- and our guests- marriage advice, financial advice and talk about the high divorce rate! Who the hell talks about divorce while officiating a wedding?! Girls- when you choose your officiant, don't be afraid of seeming controlling if you'd prefer to ask him to stay off a certain subject or not try joking around or whatever! Some people say the stupidest things!

 

[katycam]

My OH family are ruining it for me. They keep telling me what to do, and if i dont agree with them they tell me they will tell Luke not to marry me.
How dare they.

 

[Mynxie]

no make-up, hair hanging, glasses on.

why would her wearing glasses be an issue? Even if she wears contact lenses most of the time, some days you can't wear them. Pretty sure that you'd rather her see your wedding than not see it?

 

[Nic1107]

no make-up, hair hanging, glasses on.

why would her wearing glasses be an issue? Even if she wears contact lenses most of the time, some days you can't wear them. Pretty sure that you'd rather her see your wedding than not see it?

Just painting a general descriptive picture. *shrug* She does have contacts, which she wears for nights out to the club and such. The glasses could have looked nice but for the rest of it iykwim. I'm not trying to be mean about it or anything, but I was honestly hurt that she didn't make an effort at all to look nice (or help, or stay the whole time, or socialize... but that's a different story).

 

[RaeEW89]

Oooh I hate this, I showed my grandma my dress I have picked out today and she said but hunny, its white. No...really?

Just dont listen to anyone, this is your big day and you can do it however you want to.

 

[QueenMummyToBe]

No one is exactly ruining the wedding but..

When I was pregnant everyone kept saying 'when are you going to get married'

and now we have booked everything we expected people to be a bit more excited about it and they aren't, but at the end of the day we are so that is all that matters!!

xXx

 

[pregnantbride]

I was so ticked off and I actually had to scream at some people today.

My MIL, whom I have never actually gotten along with, told us "Why get married. The only reason that people get married is to have kids, and we've taken care of that"

NO Anne, people don't get married to "have kids". People get married because THEY WANT TO and THEY ARE IN LOVE.

Ughh. Anne may be the death of me !

 

[fuffyburra]

Oh dear lord if ANYONE tries to take over my wedding day, heads will roll! Especially MIL. Though I think she knows better now, I rarely listen to her. Meh, she's not so bad xx

 

[chuck]

My Gran just died suddenly, the funeral is in a 2 weeks away, a week before my wedding.

She's being dressed in her wedding outfit and the invitation is going with her as she was looking forward to it so much.

 

[Mynxie]

sorry to learn of your loss. It's very sweet to have her in her wedding outfit and her invitation with her, it's lovely

 

[pregnantbride]

Crying. Litterally crying tears for you chuck.

Hugs.

 

[tmr1234]

we was gunna get wed last yr and i seid to my mum i wanted a red dress did not want white and i got the well its not a wedding dress if its not white. after a few weeks of my mum and dad telling us what we should have and where and who we seid sod it we will wait then i found out i was preg.

I WILL BE RUNNING MY WEDDING i may let oh help a bit lol

we will only be having 22 people there as we dnt see all are famly so i think they dont care any outher time so why have them there on my day

 

[chuck]

Thanks guys.

It was rather sudden, although she had been poorly at the weekend, a doctor had called out to see her and around 30 mins after he left she had a heartattack.

At least she was at home and hadnt been ill for a long time, so we dont think she suffered at all.

I'm just in bits she wont be there to see me get married or meet my baba at xmas.


Oh and tmr1234 I have a red dress and I'll be 7 months pg when I get married, I will also have leopard print shoes and a birdcage veil with leopard print hat....wear what you want its your day!

 

[princess_bump]

oh chuck i am so so sorry for your loss i lost my beloved nan last december and its still so hard x

 

[Spirit1980]

My Ex-Husband for not signing the divorce papers Bloody man, i hate him im not angry much!!

People think im mad for thinking about another wedding before i am even divorced, but me and the ex didnt have a relationship for a long time, we were more like lodgers. It just took me a long time to move out. So to me i was single for a long time. Been with new partner for nearly 3 years and just recently got engaged.
I love him, he loves me. That is all what matters. You only get one life..live it!

x