Who makes all the decisions in your relationship?

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  1. Angel2Fire

    Angel2Fire Well-Known Member

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    My OH is stressing me. I make all the decisions and plan everything. Left to him nothing would get done until 2 seconds before!!!

    He's a great guy but it stresses me a bit.

    We're planning our wedding and I've made every arrangement so far. Today I've booked the hotel, booked the registrar, found my dress and the brisemaids and planned the menu. Then I come home to tell him we've got an appointment with the registrar and he tells me he doesn't have a birth certificate :dohh:
    But this is my fault because he told me a few days ago that he didn't.

    Is this a common occurence? I'm wondering if its just my fella or all men :dohh:
     
  2. cupcake

    cupcake Mommy of a gorgeous boy!

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    i think most men are not really bothered about wedding plans. we make all financial decisions together thou and try to discuss most things together. i wouldnt worry if hes not into the the menu or flowers etc but if it hurts your feelings then id just tell him u really want his input.
     
  3. Angel2Fire

    Angel2Fire Well-Known Member

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    I don't mind that I've done the arrangements... I've checked everything with him, its just that he's made it my fault that he can't do the one thing I've asked him to do (locate his birth certificate or get a new one!)
     
  4. Uvlollypop

    Uvlollypop finally a mum

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    put it this way, my other half wears the trousers but i tell him where to buy them haha
     
  5. Elli21

    Elli21 Well-Known Member

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    Molly...thats a great way to put it..tis the same here i think Lol.
     
  6. Chris77

    Chris77 Mommy to PJ and Gavin

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    Ah yes, wedding plans!! :dohh: Remember it well!! DH and I discuss everything together - even when I was planning the wedding, he always wanted to put his input and we discussed what would work/what wouldn't work, etc.
     
  7. Alexas Mommy

    Alexas Mommy Well-Known Member

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    i think a lot of men are like that. i have planned and post poned two weddings, and oh has had nothing to do with the planning except for the ring he wanted, and he went with me to apply for the marriage license, and that is all. in everyday life, i make all financial decisions. he leaves everything up to me, which is good because he is terrible with money. he makes it, i manage it lol. also, my oh blames me for everything as well. claims he tells me things when he doesnt really.
     
  8. pinkmac85

    pinkmac85 Mom & pregnant with #2

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    Well it depends what its in regards too! Lately OH has been making all financial decisions as I seem to have gone a bit 'baby overboard' and can't stop spending! He's a bit more responsible when it comes to that stuff lately! Oops hehe
     
  9. ALY

    ALY spammy sexington

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    im def the one that wears the trousers if it was left t hubby nothing ad get done :dohh:
     
  10. polo_princess

    polo_princess ♥ Brookes Mummy ♥

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    It depends what its about ... i deal with pretty much most things and he just pays for them or goes with it.

    One thing i am not allowed to deal with is anything car related lol, ive got to let him be the boss at something otherwise he's get upset lol
     
  11. I control all the money because my OH is useless and has no idea what needs to be paid and when. Even if he does he just doesnt pay them. I do organise most things but I cant really boss him around. Hes just lazy. I have named bubs tho, he didnt really get a say.
     
  12. jms895

    jms895 Well-Known Member

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    My OH would be up Sh*t street if I died as he would have no idea about bills, who our mortgage is with, etc etc. He just gives me money and lets me sort stuff out. Left to him, nothing would ever happen! x
     
  13. Angeldust

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    Its the same with me depends what its about , Holidays etc i always pick lol
    and i am the one who says were getting this for the house etc or dh would not be bothered about getting a new table etc unless it had no legs then he would say i think we need a new table but if you just fancy a change after having it a while then dh would not say lets get a new such and such if its a tv then yes he is tv mad


    I made all the decisions for my wedding day because a girl know what she wants lol
    My wedding was fairy tale it was based on cinderella princess etc so i would never of left dh to pick on his own incase he got daft things being honest my dh would of rather me done it anyway cause i would only kill him if he got things i dont like lol

    he went to all the shops with me and i showed him things i picked so he never felt left out but he liked everything i chose and there was no disagreements


    My dh never had a birth certificate he lost it when he was in the army
    so we had to get him another one at the place where they have them all stored in our area, I think they charged us £12 pound its much bigger than the one you get when your a baby and its not red its green ,

    So your dh is not the only one men tend to leave things to last minute
    try watching Dont tell the bride channel 7 BBC 3

    Thesa men get £12.000 to arrange his and his wifes wedding she cant see what he picks including venue, dress, church, food, you name it she wont know about it till the day
    and some of thesa men do fab and others aint got a clue

    xxx
     
  14. oOKayOo

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    I wear the trousers too , otherwise nothing would get done at all!
     
  15. nessajane

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    financial stuff my Oh deals with and stuff like holidays, party arrangements, and anything else im left to do as he doesnt have a clue!!
     
  16. XKatX

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    We make the decisions togehter - but only after I have done the leg work and run around getting all the information together! Then, once the decision is made, I go off and act on it!! He still thinks he's done it all himself though. Ignorance is bliss!!!
    We had to get another mortgage this month, as our fixed rate had expired. For 3 weeks, he kept saying we had to do it, but did nothing about it. So I trawled the internet, found loads of info, had appointments at banks etc. I brought the best of the info home and we went through it together and made a final decision. Then I went to the bank and sorted it all. All he had to do was sign for it. Then last night, I heard him telling his parents how he had found us a good deal!!!!:rofl: I won't correct him, coz his parents know damn well who would have actually done it!!!
     
  17. Wobbles

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    LMAO love it!!!

    I do most of it, he argues about it ...I win!
    :muaha:
     
  18. ~KACI~

    ~KACI~ Well-Known Member

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    I always make the decisions because lets face it men are hopeless!!

    Well mine anyway!
     
  19. Beltane

    Beltane Mother of 3 Boys!

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    I make ALL the decisions. The reason why is because I know things will get done right if I do them Myself. I love him to pieces but if he ran the finances, we'de be homeless on the streets wearing fur coats and staring at our camaros. As for our wedding, I planned every single detail. He makes up for it in other ways *grin*
     

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