Whole info: 'human' bite marks on face

[Ozzieshunni]

If the daycare knows the child is being abused, they are legally bound to make a report.

 

[Dragonfly]

The day care William was in had 2 teachers and one helper and 75 pupils! split in to full time, morning or afternoon . Wasnt even a big place either. Not a wonder they have them cuing in lines and ushered around to play (the exact words from the principal when I had to corner her on an incident).

 

[Lina]

Ah, poor kid. I had a feeling this was the case. I'm glad that this kid wasn't excluded thus shifting the problem elsewhere instead of getting him help.

 

[eddjanuary10]

I hope her face heals quickly, sounds painful. My son was bitten on the leg once by a boy on a bouncy castle, I was right there but he did it in a flash. You are rightfully annoyed but try and think your childs face will heal, the other kid may never heal from the abuse she has went through It's difficult when you have to take your child back each day to be in the girls company, hope your lo's ok x

 

[smokey]

It wull heal up before yoy know it, I was attacked by a dog on my mouth and chin whwn I was about 18 months and other thenhaving no front teeth till I was 9 there was no scaring left and after abour 6 moths you couldnt anything.
The face heals realy easily especialy on babies and toddlers

 

[whit.]

Thats shocking I would be very angry at the nursary! and these parents for being abusive, children sadly take it out on their peers as you can see here. I wouldnt send my child there any more either. . It must be really bad bite if you are worried about it not going away. Post a pic maybe?

Are you saying that children bite because they're being abused? If so, that's absurd. There are tons of parents who are mortified their children are the biters.



Jess & Ozzie.
https://daycare.com/indiana/

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Op said that the child is abused, whit. Not dragonfly. Now be a good girl and apologise

 

[whit.]

Didn't see anything about the child being abused.

Sorry if it was Dragonfly, IMO it's still absurd to say a biter is being abused, though.

 

[sparkle_1979]

eh Im confused with the abused part, anyways moving on. My toddler went through a stage of biting her sister. It was bloody horrible and I could be standing next to them and before I knew it she had done it. The marks do go x

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I couldn't ask many questions to them, I almost knew they wont tell us who the kid was either, though I have a good guess about it. My husband dropped my child at the day care and asked the assistant a lot of questions. I was told yesterday that the other kid wanted to kiss, but it was very clear from todays response my husband got that the child vented her violent frustration on my daughter. The girls parents are abusive towards her he was told, and also that this is not the first incident of this kind, but I guess the first one on the face and so bad. We are told that the day care is trying legal and counselling alternatives to deal with this child. I think they cant even say no to admitting the child.

By yesterday evening my girl seemed to be in a normal mood, but yesterday afternoon she was really scared and dint leave me for a while. I don't want to feel bad about the other child sincerely but I just feel so insane when I see my daughters face or the thought comes to my mind.

Thank you all for making me feel better, I wish that her scares fade away and she looks normal again, it looks quite unpleasant now. I will attach a photo when I go home, and probably then I can know if this kind of scare had been seen to get better visibly

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[~RedLily~]

Is it just me that thinks it really unprofessional for the daycare to tell another parent if a child is being abused?

 

[Ozzieshunni]

It is unprofessional. They should be making a report with their concerns.

 

[~RedLily~]

I thought they were by the 'legal and counselling alternatives' comment. Either way I think there are a few issues that should be looked into further with the daycare IMO.

 

[lillyttc]

It was not told voluntarily. My husband had explicitly asked if there was a problem and then he was told that the child's parents are physically abusive and that the creche is trying to contact a psychologist and also see what they legally need to do. Given the fact that they did not reveal who the kid was (though I can guess based on my observations), it seems perfectly fine that they told the history.

I (or probably anybody else) don't want to imply that a kid has to be physically abused to be a biter, I have the strong feeling that a kid whose parents are abusive might certainly exhibit violent behavior. After all for a significant time in their childhood, they try to imitate what they observe, its difficult to think otherwise.

My kid has the tendency to hit (the ground, an object or somebody who has done that) when somebody snatches things from her hands suddenly, so I can understand their natural impulse, but that nonetheless doesn't help with my feelings. All that I care is if her face returns to the earlier look. She looks quite unpleasant to me especially.

 

[whit.]

Sorry, DragonFly. I thought you were the one that brought up the abused comment.

I think it's actually illegal to discuss anything regarding a child with another parent.

 

[whit.]

My kid has the tendency to hit (the ground, an object or somebody who has done that) when somebody snatches things from her hands suddenly, so I can understand their natural impulse, but that nonetheless doesn't help with my feelings. All that I care is if her face returns to the earlier look. She looks quite unpleasant to me especially.

I hate to be the devils advocate but what if someone said since your child was a natural hitter then they might be being abused at home? If the Daycare said that to another parent?

Is it possible the child could have taken a toy from your LO, your LO hit the other child and then the LO bite because your LO hit?

 

[lillyttc]

I guess you don't read the reply completely. I did say that a violent behavior doesn't necessarily imply parents being abusive but the other way seems very logical.

Discussing about some other child with another parents: I also mentioned that they did not reveal who the child was, and that I had expected.

As a parent I do have every right to inquire further to check it was a one of its kind random even or something which they have observed earlier and if there are reasons and if they are trying to do something about it.

 

[whit.]

I guess you don't read the reply completely. I did say that a violent behavior doesn't necessarily imply parents being abusive but the other way seems very logical.

Discussing about some other child with another parents: I also mentioned that they did not reveal who the child was, and that I had expected.

As a parent I do have every right to inquire further to check it was a one of its kind random even or something which they have observed earlier and if there are reasons and if they are trying to do something about it.

I was just saying. I don't know how the daycare can even make claims like that without having actual proof or taking it to the proper authorities. Especially making claims like that to another parent.

 

[lillyttc]

I had thought about the hit and bite theory initially, but all the same age children are good friends and this girl has to much bigger (and my guess is a girl who is 2.5 years old). This guess is supported by the evidence of the bite marks, the bit mark points to almost all the front teeth. and non of the 1-1.5 year kids have all the top and bottom teeth yet (at least in this creche). An above all I had told them that she hits when i take her things from hands, they would have told, at least they wont say "she came to kiss and did this".

I wouldn't have cared much if it was in any other part, sure I would have asked for an assurance that this wont happen again as we have done, but yes if I knew for 100% who the kid was, I would certainly talk to her parents.

Discussing about a child with another parent can be as illegal as we discussing about 'that' 'X' kid here in this forum.

 

[lillyttc]

I was just saying. I don't know how the daycare can even make claims like that without having actual proof or taking it to the proper authorities. Especially making claims like that to another parent.

My best guess is that they are in the process which might have started some time back, because I am told this is not the first time. Just that my kid was unlucky to have them on her face.