Who's Happy to have 2/3 or more children of the same sex??

[Mrs.Mc1985]

I am completely happy with my two boys they are so sweet and loving.

On the other hand I always wanted a girl to dress up and take to dance and this is my little purple princess I am about to have. I understand being happy with a healthy baby and I also understand how some can have a preference.

 

[I_AM_LIVID]

Although I agree with what many of you have said, you are being insensitive to a lot of women on this forum that experience gender disappointment. I don't understand gender disappointment myself, mainly because I too have lost a baby and would be blessed to have healthy babies regardless of their genders. However, I’ve never heard a woman say something like "I have four boys and would love a baby girl this time, even if she was unhealthy". Health also remains a top priority for women that experience gender disappointment .

I guess if you have had no troubles conceiving healthy babies in the past, you do tend to be a little choosier with the sexes and justifiably so. Like I said, I don't pretend to understand it, but I wouldn’t lambast any woman for feeling disappointed at a specific gender.

I don't think OP meant it to be an insensitive thread. More just a chat about being pleased/not upset about having another baby of the same sex.
As we get so many silly comments from people assuming that we want one of each, or if you have 2 the same sex you'll be disappointed if you have another of the same sex etc etc.

Like I said, I personally don't get people that come out of sonars bolting their eyes out because they are disappointed with the sex. In fact, I agreed with OP in another thread that many women set themselves up for gender disappointment, because many do.

However, when you say people should just be happy their babies are healthy, that does imply that those disappointed with the gender don't make health their top priority.

Don't wish to argue, but for the record I didn't make any comment on health of babies. I doubt anyone would put the sex of a baby over the health of him/her & I've cetainly never implied anyone would.

I was simply defending the OP - I saw this thread as simple celebration for those of us with 2 or children of the same sex.

Please don’t take any offense. When I said YOU, I didn’t mean yourself, but implied it generally. I also don’t want to argue, and hope it doesn’t come across like I’m picking a fight with anyone.

 

[ChubbyCheeks]

Well i'm your typical example cos i have 3 boys already & another boy on
the way

I'm over the moon he is another lil man, my hubby wants his own 5 aside anyway LOL

 

[Mommy2Kian]

I have a boy, kian...and when pregnant with my second i admit i was hoping for a girl, just so i could raise both genders...my 2nd was a boy kaden...i went home and told my partner i was hoping for a girl, i even brought a pink coat before hand and i felt sad...i got taught a huge lesson, and i got taught in a way no mother should. At my 23 weeks scan we were told kaden had many things wrong with his brain. Kaden is now my sweet darling angel...one lesson i learnt in life, be bloody greatful for what u have, because id do anything absaloutly ANYTHING to have him back, a healthy little boy. If i have 6 children, i wouldnt care if they were all boys. Gender is not the improtant thing, it's the health, and i was being a naive little brat!!!

 

[silver_penny]

I better be happy with 2/3 children of the same gender, as I want 6-13 kids!

 

[louise1302]

i have 4 boys and no girls however id be more thn happy if this baby is a boy too, a healthy child is what matters not what flavour they come in

 

[ladykara]

I really want one of each sex, i already have a son and so does my OH (both from other relationships) So we both would prefer a little girl but a healthy baby comes first, of course.

GD is a very delicate subject, those women cant help how they feel. Every single one of them would put a healthy baby in front of their choice of gender im sure. A lot of women dont like to be honest because of peoples views on this subject, but its very common. There is also different degrees of GD.

I always worry about posting on this subject, i understand everyone has their views and i respect them x

 

[ladykara]

I better be happy with 2/3 children of the same gender, as I want 6-13 kids!

Wow !!!! xmas time is going to be fantastic at your place ..

 

[MrsJ08]

I can honestly say hand on heart I don't mind what gender my baby is and I just hope I will be able to have another one in a few years time, never mind what sex it is. I'm conscious of my biological clock so just being able to have another one would make me happy.

My step-sister made no secret of the fact that she (and her DH) desperately wanted a boy the second time around as she already had a girl and she got her wish. I have a step-daughter and when I was in 1st Trimester my step-sister asked me if I was hoping it was a boy because my DH already has a girl, not very subtly implying he wouldn't want another girl. (I've put up with a lot of catty comments regarding my SD over the years, it's like she thinks my relationship is inferior to her's because my DH already had a child when we met) I was absolutely livid with her and I'm so glad my DH wasn't there as I think he would have ripped her head off. When I told her I honestly didn't mind she just raised her eyebrow at me, as if she didn't believe me!

I often hear people making this kind of remark at my volunteer work with children and it makes my blood boil. One of my friends recently had her 3rd boy and throughout her entire pregnancy she had people saying to her "I bet you hope it's a girl this time" and when the baby was born they seemed almost disappointed it was a boy, whereas she was over the moon. It's for the person having the child to have an opinion on which gender they would prefer, if they have any preference at all that is. I do sympathise with people who suffer from GD and it opened my eyes when I watched that Ch4 programme 7 Boys Wanting A Girl. It just drives me mad when other people try to impose their own preferences/assumptions on you.

 

[silver_penny]

Only cause of all the wrapping paper and boxes! Always amuses me how the kids find more joy playing with the wrapping than the actual toy

 

[mummygiraffe]

i'm actually very happy with having two girls. Will suit me perfectly!

 

[SophiasMummy]

ive been told im having a girl but i wouldnt care even if she did turn out a boy as long as LO is healthy then i dont care either way x

 

[vaniilla]

I don't mind if have only one gender as the other ladies have said as long as they're healthy and happy that's the main thing

 

[emmad339]

I'm ever so lucky because I have boy/girl twins, but if I had had 2 boys or 2 girls i couldn't have cared less

 

[v2007]

I have 3 girlies and im so happy, and if im ever blessed with a boy i will be as happy as i was when i had my girls.

V xxx

 

[Essjay]

I have a boy, kian...and when pregnant with my second i admit i was hoping for a girl, just so i could raise both genders...my 2nd was a boy kaden...i went home and told my partner i was hoping for a girl, i even brought a pink coat before hand and i felt sad...i got taught a huge lesson, and i got taught in a way no mother should. At my 23 weeks scan we were told kaden had many things wrong with his brain. Kaden is now my sweet darling angel...one lesson i learnt in life, be bloody greatful for what u have, because id do anything absaloutly ANYTHING to have him back, a healthy little boy. If i have 6 children, i wouldnt care if they were all boys. Gender is not the improtant thing, it's the health, and i was being a naive little brat!!!

Its stories like this ladies that made me make this thread.

When i hear things like this it confirms even more that if i were the kind of person that sat and cried my eyes out because my baby was not the perfect gender i would be utterly ASHAMED of myself. when this poor lady would like nothing more then her little boy back.

i know some woman cant help feeling a little down if your on your 3rd or 4th baby of the same gender, but if u knew you would be THAT upset if the baby was another girl/boy then why even take the chance? i'd rather not have anymore babies then be so depressed that the child i was carrying was not the gender i'd perfer.

i'd never wanna feel like that about any of my babies. just my opinion. not out to argue with anyone! all i wanna do is get girls to celebrate our healthy babies no matter the sex....

 

[silver_penny]

I think that is one of my reasons behind not finding out the gender of my LOs. I'm not saying its wrong to find out, it just doesn't really matter to me. They are what they are, and I love them no matter what gender they are.

 

[MommyKC]

I am having my second little girl, and I couldn't be happier!
Part of us wanted a little boy, since this is our last pregnancy (we agreed a long time ago that two children was our limit), but I really didn't care either way, as long as baby is healthy!
Now, I cannot wait to meet her. And see if she's anything like her big sister, or completely different! And while sisters can sometimes fight like crazy, I think they will be closer too because they are the same gender!

I know for me, growing up with a brother, there were MANY times I wished he was a girl!
I cannot wait!

 

[coccyx]

We had 3 girls and then a boy. A fourth girl would have been just as welcome. Do not understand gender disappointment, well maybe hoping for a certain sex, but not crying and feeling depressed

 

[trumpetbum]

I wasn't bothered in the slightest. After two girls i'm having a boy but I'm just excited to be having another baby. My mil and dh's family are sooooo happy it feels a little weird. I don't really 'get' it tbh. I could see myself with 3 girls no problem. People keep telling me how 'different' it will be, and how glad they are that I 'got' my boy but aside from the clothes I can't say that i'll treat him any differently from the girls. My girls are so different to each other anyway I always wanted dd1 to have a sister as i didn't but no one warned me they would fight as much as they do

ETA: I experienced a pregnancy loss at 20 weeks and it was the worst experience of my life. I think this and the time i spent working in paeds has really put things into perspective for me.