Whos Paying ??

[mummytobe]

I know traditionally its the Brides Father, but nowadays weddings are SO expensive and i know people that pay for it themselves as their father cant afford it. Well My dad has given me £6000 which i am happy about hes not the richest in the world, has been in the same job for bout 30 years which is in a shop. He does have savings but this is for when he retires as he will be basically getting zilch, and im not one to take his savings which HE worked hard for. To be fair my dad did offer me £10000 but i only wanted £6000 as me and my OH can pay the rest. Right im going off subject now Basically do you mind telling me whos paying for your wedding ?? Its pissing me off that my OH dad is saying that MY dad has to pay EVERYTHING and getting in a huff about it. Im not being funny but like i said, my dad isnt rich, My OHs dad is in a well paid job and is very well off and expects my dad to be the same. So just wondering whether it is still the case that the brides father still pays for everything. I feel myself babbling now

 

[sapphire20]

My mum and dad and OH mum and dad are splitting everything right down the middle so half each....its my mum and dads third wedding to pay for so trying to stay within budget but OH parents are more than willing to pay any extras so its great!

 

[Jemma_x]

my mum an dad are paying for the wedding

 

[kitty1987]

Me and OH are paying for our wedding. We chose to get married so I wouldn't ask anyone else to pay lol. To be fair though mum keeps offering to buy little bits and bobs x

 

[dizzyspells]

We are paying for ours!x

 

[Vici]

We are paying for ours. OHs mum and dad will no doubt give us a wee bit, my mum is paying for flowers (and then doing them herself) and my dad said he will try and give us a couple of hundred £ but not def

 

[pinkmummy]

We are paying for ours too. My dad is paying £1000 towards it and OH mum has paid £700 towards it and we are paying the rest xx

 

[mrsraggle]

We paid for ourselves, but DH's parents gave us £1k towards the evening reception as our wedding gift. My parents didn't pay a thing.

 

[Squidge]

We're paying for ours.

 

[babybump2010]

My Mum paid for my dress. Mum and step-dad are giving us £4000 which will cover half of the reception,OH mum and Dad are giving us £3000 and we will have put £6000 to £7000 ourselves and my dad as said he will give us at least £5000 but will pay for whatever we want if we need him too!!
We are very lucky as we were intending to pay for it all ourselves but everyone offered and it means we can have exactly what we want and we can afford the honeymoon we wanted.

I think it is a bit harsh that your OH'd dad just expects your dad to be paying for it. I would just let him get on with it hun and try not to let it upset you. ( i know that is easier said than done tho!!!)

 

[Kimboowee]

Both sets of parents are giving us £1500 each as a wedding gift- thats going towards the reception but eveything else we're paying for

 

[sweetcheeks85]

We are paying for ours ourselves x x

 

[Mary Jo]

My parents gave us money a couple of years ago, when we got engaged - it was put into premium bonds while we decided what to do, and won about £100. At that point we had no idea what sort of wedding we'd have and how expensive, but it was going to pay for a sizeable chunk.

When we decided to take the plunge and set a date, we hoped to be able to not go over what we were gifted, and we haven't, really, but I have savings and can cover any extra. We could actually have paid for it ourselves but then have not much savings left, which are earmarked for moving, hopefully within the next 12 months.

OH's family have not contributed financially, which I feel bad about - I hate the fact that my mum and dad have basically paid for everything and how that isn't fair, because they are NOT wealthy people by any stretch of the imagination. OH's dad isn't in the picture and his mother can't afford to give us anything, but she is buying the cakes. I appreciate she is helping as much as she is able but it still rankles a little. I wish it didn't.

 

[xMissxZoiex]

Were paying for ours i wouldnt have expected any of our parents to pay unless they won the lottery of course lol x

 

[24/7]

My parents are paying for everything, and I appreciate it so much. However it is only an intimate family wedding, and if we had wanted to spend thousands I wouldn't have let them pay. They are absolutely loving planning things, even my Dad!!

 

[soon2 b wifey]

i feel so bad for my dad as he knows that some people expect fathers to pay. i didn't. me and OH are paying for ours. his mom is helping lots, as is his other mom and friend. my mom is helping a little as is my dad a little. he just feels bad like its his responsibility i don't think it is. i love me and OH paying ourselves.

 

[soon2 b wifey]

I forgot to say my dad has been at his job at 23yrs. He makes good money but he has a 300K mortgage to deal with among tons of other bills. He even got another job so he could give me some money here and there. and finish paying for the reception. Although he says he wont quit, i asked him too he's 56, not until he pays for the price of my dress $950

 

[xxleannexx]

my mom and dad are giving us £7,500 and OH mom and dad are giving us £7,500. so weve got £13,000 for the wedding and hoping we can save a few grand. also both of our parents are putting £1000 each and so weve got £2000 and they are booking us a suprise holiday of a lifetime they have saide..... we are extremely lucky.

 

[aidensxmomma]

As of now, my OH and I are going to be paying for everything. His mom has offered to help out with little things (like the guest book and stuff like that), but otherwise it's all on us. Honestly, I would like my dad to help pay, but I'm not expecting it.

The reason I wish my dad would help pay has nothing to do with tradition, though. It's just that everyone else in my and OH's families have done so much to help us when we were struggling and my dad didn't. Just thought I should add that in there.

 

[aly888]

We fully intend to pay for ours ourselves!!i know that my mum will chip in a couple hundred and OH's parents will help out too,but I dont expect my dad will help out financially.just because he never does really!!
I know what you mean though coz my OH's parents seem to think my dad is gonna pay for the majority of it coz 'thats how its done' and doesnt matter how many times I tell them,they dont believe me that he wont!!some ppl are just stuck in their ways when it comes to tradition,but these days I think most people are just greatful for whoever wants to help out (coz like you say,weddings are very expensive now).