AlwaysPraying
Mom of two!
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I'm a little weirded out at my own reaction. I just had a D&C two days ago after a fatal chromosome diagnosis at 14 weeks. I've cried over this time and been sad and upset, but now that its' all over I don't feel sad. I feel like I learned so much from this baby that it's made me stronger. I feel like this baby deserves to be honoured and remembered, not pitied. I almost feel like I'm glad that I went through all this because it was so incredibly powerful in every way.
I am relieved it's over, that baby is in a better place, I know that's a lot of it right now. But I also know that this was babies life and there's no changing that. He was here for 14 weeks, so I don't feel sad that he won't be born in November, or have a first birthday. He was never intended to do that.
It's just so NOT what everyone else is saying. I feel like I should feel this horrible grief and sadness. That I should want him to live, and of course I do! I wish that this baby was healthy and could have lived a full long life. I wish I wasn't carrying a sick baby, of course. But what happened to me and to him, happened, and it was the way it was.
Am I making sense, or has this experience made me loonie?
I am relieved it's over, that baby is in a better place, I know that's a lot of it right now. But I also know that this was babies life and there's no changing that. He was here for 14 weeks, so I don't feel sad that he won't be born in November, or have a first birthday. He was never intended to do that.
It's just so NOT what everyone else is saying. I feel like I should feel this horrible grief and sadness. That I should want him to live, and of course I do! I wish that this baby was healthy and could have lived a full long life. I wish I wasn't carrying a sick baby, of course. But what happened to me and to him, happened, and it was the way it was.
Am I making sense, or has this experience made me loonie?