I've heard recently that co-sleeping can increase the risk of SIDS....but I heard a lot before that it will reduce it so...
Just suggesting that that might be the source of some of the negativity?
Our bed is so not big enough to co-sleep, our MWs are very supportive of co-sleeping and say 'that is where the baby is meant to be'...Well for us it wasn't really an option and we didn't feel comfortable with it, in part because there's such a limited space with all three of us in the bed and in part because we want to remain a 'couple' as well as E's parents, so we wanted to keep it OUR bed, iykwim?
Mind you when she was first home and not sleeping well, DH, me and E were laying in the bed and all fell asleep (we all needed it!) and that was one of the best naps ever!!
I bring E into bed with me in the mornings, 6am til 11am usually (after DH has gone to work) and breastfeed her and we just nap together all that time. It's nice
I do wake with a start every so often because I get scared that the covers are over her or I'm suffocating her or something (another reason why co-sleeping at night just wouldn't work for us, I wouldn't sleep well!) but it means I can catch up on some sleep and so can she, because I cannot nap during the day!!
If it's working for you and you're doing it safely then go for it. I agree that there is an instinct there as a mother, so you know where baby is and don't roll onto her etc... I read that siblings/fathers etc shouldn't be RIGHT next to the baby as they are not as aware of the baby's presence as the mother and I think that's why a lot of 'outsiders' (other family members, friends etc) might not quite understand and think it's dangerous.
My mum co-slept with me because it eased the sleepness nights - you just have to wake up and pop baby on the boob instead of getting out of bed to get him or her and then getting out of bed again to put him or her back in THEIR bed. In all parenting situations, whatever works best for
you and
your baby is the right thing!!