Why can't I stop being worried about a blighted ovum??

[IzzyAnt88]

It's driving me crazy because I just can't relax and be happy about it - I am so afraid of getting my hopes up and then being "tricked"

My BFP was a barely-there line, my betas were low in the beginning (but tripling), and so this whole pregnancy so far has kinda been like "is it really? is it really?"

I had a scan today but it is too early so I have to wait TWO more weeks for another u/s and I just don't know how I am going to wait all that time!

I was on Clomid so I was doing monitoring - and on Feb 4th I had a scan and was told I was going to ovulate. So that night we BD and by the next morning my BBT was already starting to go up. So I was pretty positive I was 5w5d but she said I am measuring 5w3d I don't know if that is bad. But then she said my due date is October 29 and isn't that in line with the 5w5d?

She saw a gestational sac & a yolk sac and thought she maybe saw a speck of a fetal pole but could not tell yet. I asked her if I could be excited yet and she said that yes but it is still early and my risk of miscarriage is still 30% and hopefully in 2 weeks she will be able to see the heartbeat and can tell me it is only 5%. And that we probably shouldn't tell people yet. I asked her specifically if I was in the clear in regards to a blighted ovum since she saw a yolk sac and she basically said no I wasn't and it was still too early to be sure. But then again she did say during the scan that everything was "perfect so far"

I don't know how I will ever be sure until the next u/s in 2 weeks. But how can I go through 2 more weeks not knowing for sure? How do you girls do this? Am I the only one feeling this way? I am so scared of being "tricked" and getting my hopes up over something that is not there.

 

[tryn42mel]

I feel the exact same way you do. I just keep telling myself there's nothing I can do though. Worrying is no good so I just try to occupy my mind with other thoughts.

 

[Nat0619]

Hi

I am with you, am very nervous rather than excited. I have taken eight HPTs so far because I just can't believe I am pregnant!! All my tests have come out good, ie they have got progressively darker and my three clearblue digis went from 1-2, to 2-3 and then 3+ so seem to be going in the right direction But it's just such early days isn't it?

What exactly is a blighted ovum though and are there any symptoms of this? Also, what is the fetal pole?

x

 

[Aquarius24]

Try not to worry hun it's not good for baby. I've had a bo last sept followed by another mc so u can imagine how worried I am!! But... I tell myself what will be will be and no amount of worrying is gonna change that. Try n take each day at a time.

The thing with having early scans is it can cause this unnecessary worry, which is why I waited till at least 7 weeks before having one this time

Good luck xx

 

[Aquarius24]

Nat a blighted ovum is where the egg doesn't develop but the sac continues to grow, Yr body still believes you r pregnant

 

[IzzyAnt88]

A blighted ovum basically means that even though the egg was fertilized & implanted the baby never really developed .. if you have an empty sac after 8 weeks I think is when they diagnose you for sure. so it's a bit different than a miscarriage I think.

As far as I know there are no symptoms and no way to know other than just waiting..

It just sucks. I try not to worry and for the most part I can accomplish that but then at the same time I am holding myself back from being excited soo much and trying so hard to push it out of my mind that I don't even really feel like I am pregnant or should be able to be happy about it. Then it's bad because I am not eating as healthy as I should or remembering to take my vitamins all the time.

Plus I feel horrible physically, I am sick and of course you can't take any medication for it, my back is killing me, and I am EXHAUSTED I don't feel like even leaving the house.

I just don't know why nobody ever tells you how hard these first few weeks emotionally are and how high the risk of miscarriage really is

 

[JamiePgh]

I know it's so hard, but try to relax at the thought that everything is measuring great so far. With my blighted ovum, my pregnancy tests never got darker over a 2 week time period, I had no pregnancy symptoms whatsoever, and my first ultrasound at 5.5 weeks only measured 4.4 weeks. So yours is definitely measuring good. Plus, they typically give a -/+ of 3 to 5 days at an early ultrasound. Remember too, ovulation - even w/monitoring - can be off by 1 or 2 days. I think your measurements are great! My first ultrasound w/this pregnancy was a day off, and I too was being monitored on Clomid. They said it was totally normal.

A first pregnancy test of a faint line is fine, almost everyone gets a barely there line at first. For me, it was the fact that many weeks into my pregnancy it still barely registered. So don't panic about the line. I think you're going to be fine.

 

[Lillismommy]

I am the same way as you. Around 5 weeks I started to spot a little bit, called my doctor, they got me in for an early scan. They saw the gestational sac & yolk sac and then scheduled me for another scan for 2 weeks. I go in for my scan tomorrow and i'm worried. I can't help it.

I have been having symptoms though. Very nauseous, tired, and sore boobs. Hopefully those are all good signs.

 

[IzzyAnt88]

Thanks!

Oh I know the faint line was fine, it was so early. It's just that from the beginning I was never really able to have that moment of "OMG I AM PREGNANT" even when the doctor called me with the positive beta results she was not very optimistic because they were so low. I kept having to go back every 2 days and then wait.. So it was always alot of suspense. I am so tired of suspense! lol

 

[Inky2006]

Hi I just thought I'd add to this, because I'm having the same worries. My clinic do not do week 6 scans because they say very often it is far too early to see anything. Therefore, I am having to wait until 14th March to get a scan. It could just be too early for you. I have also been reading about blighted ovums. I wish I hadn't. I wish I was ignorant of such a thing.

It sounds like, because you had clomid, it has taken you a while you get pregnant and I think this is what makes the worry worse. It has taken me 2.5 years to get pregnant, because my husband has such a low sperm count and we had to resort to assisted conception.

Hopefully things will work out okay for both of us.I'm just trying to keep myself busy up until the scan. For me, I've been thinking even if the worst happens, theres nothing I can do about it. All I can do is look after myself and baby the best I can now.

By the way I did read some research that suggested blighted ovum's usually happen alot more to people in their 30s, 40s. Thats because you are more likely to have egg abnormalities as you age. In your 20s there is a much lower riskxxx

 

[Tititimes2]

At 5 weeks 4 days you should see a gestational sac and the yolk so it sounds like you are right on target. I get the worrying though. Same with my history but I am trying to stay positive. It is better for you and the baby not to be stressed all the time.

Try to relax a little for the baby's sake hon.