Why didn't I know about this...?
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Schmelly
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Oh hun, I'm sorry. It must be so frustrating and saddening to find this out 'too late'. Massive 
I'm waiting for my bub to come out still. I'm terrified that I'll see him. It also sickens me to think that he'll probably end up in the toilet...He may only be an inch long, but it just feels wrong.
I'm waiting for my bub to come out still. I'm terrified that I'll see him. It also sickens me to think that he'll probably end up in the toilet...He may only be an inch long, but it just feels wrong.
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Sorry for being ignorant here but I haven't suffered a miscarriage personally and I am a bit shocked by what I am reading so I need to ask this. If one decides to miscarry at home, do the hospital or doctor tell you/advise what to do with the remains/baby etc or is it left to you to decide what to do with it?
LeaArr
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I wasn't given a chance to "choose" how to do it. I had been for an ultrasound the day before and everything was OK, baby's heart was beating and was measured a day less than I had thought. I woke up in the middle of the night the following day and it was over.
LeArr! *hugs*
So sorry you're in this position! It's hard enough dealing with the loss let alone the frustration of finding out things too late
Like you said earlier, remind yourself that LO's spirit is safe.
Maybe you could do something in memorial. I am making a video but there are lots of things you could do, i think i saw some suggestions on that website but i think its really important for you to grieve and do what feels right to you, no matter how other people perceive what you are doing. How you mark the loss of your little one is very personal and important for your healing.
Thinking of you x
So sorry you're in this position! It's hard enough dealing with the loss let alone the frustration of finding out things too late
Like you said earlier, remind yourself that LO's spirit is safe. Maybe you could do something in memorial. I am making a video but there are lots of things you could do, i think i saw some suggestions on that website but i think its really important for you to grieve and do what feels right to you, no matter how other people perceive what you are doing. How you mark the loss of your little one is very personal and important for your healing.
Thinking of you x
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Awwww
I know how you feel... I found out about this too late, it devastates me that I could have done something properly for my little one. x x
I know how you feel... I found out about this too late, it devastates me that I could have done something properly for my little one. x x
I'm so sorry for everyone's losses.
It's a week today since i miscarried my angel and i had to deal with it at home. It is really is heartbreaking, i couldn't let them just 'disappear' down the toilet and so have buried the remains in the garden with a new plant we bought called a heartbreaker
to all, sarah x
It's a week today since i miscarried my angel and i had to deal with it at home. It is really is heartbreaking, i couldn't let them just 'disappear' down the toilet and so have buried the remains in the garden with a new plant we bought called a heartbreaker
to all, sarah x
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I'm so sorry for everyone's losses.
It's a week today since i miscarried my angel and i had to deal with it at home. It is really is heartbreaking, i couldn't let them just 'disappear' down the toilet and so have buried the remains in the garden with a new plant we bought called a heartbreaker
I just couldn't imagine how hard that must have been, to choose: do I let *disappear* down the toilet or not.. So sorry
.. This is a nice option that they are offering. They don't do that here in the states I don't believe I have never heard of it. to all you ladies who have to take this on @ home by themselves
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I'm so sorry for everyone's losses.
It's a week today since i miscarried my angel and i had to deal with it at home. It is really is heartbreaking, i couldn't let them just 'disappear' down the toilet and so have buried the remains in the garden with a new plant we bought called a heartbreaker
I think thats great what you did, sorry for your loss.
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I know how you feel hun, I had nothing to show for the loss of my LO, I meant to do something in memorial but in the end nothing I could think of seemed right or fitting somehow so I just hold my memory inside. You will never forget but I think if you can do something in memory it may help 
