Why do people have to be so mean about baby names.

[Betheney]

With my first pregnancy i told everyone we're not sharing baby names with everyone but shared them with close friends and family.

After she was born a friend told me, she was glad the final name we chose in the end was the one we chose because all the other names she never even liked and was only placating me this really hurt my feelings, as she was so positive about them during the pregnancy.

I also chose the name Penelope that my hubby agreed with until my MIL stuck her nose up at it, hubby also like the name Quinn until my FIL told him it doesn't go with our surname.

So this pregnancy i told my friends the other day that we're not sharing them and when they asked why, i told them because our mutual friend told me she was "placating" me and i'd prefer to just tell them the name the day the baby is born whether they like it or not. Then another friend butted in and said that she's sorry but Oscar (our chosen boys name left over from the 1st pregnancy) is a terrible name because it rhymes with our surname and that its CRUEL to do that to a child, no parent should ever do that to their child. I just waited for her to finish and said "and THAT is exactly why we're not sharing names this time"

Seriously.

What is wrong with people.

Do they think i have absolutely no feelings at all.

I can't stop thinking about it.

I'm just so hurt... this girl is one of my close friends. Fancy telling me that name is CRUEL to give to my child.

I'm not changing our boys names which are Oscar or Remy, despite her protesting because i could give two fucks what she thinks. But i'm just so hurt people are openly happy to attack your chosen baby names as if they couldn't possibly mean anything to you at all.

 

[MrsSmartie]

Grr people are very rude. Unless you are actually asking for their opinion on a name then it is none of their business! Once you know somebody as their name they always just become it anyway, nobody thinks about whether they like it or not.

My favourite boy's name is Caspar and both DH and I love it. We really love it and it is a proper name, easy to pronounce etc but when I mentioned it to family they turned up their noses. I don't care anyway! X

 

[lovemyDD]

lol..no offense, but just ignore them. They are your kids so you have all the right to choose the name. And I love the "Penelope". On my part, none of my family members had anything to say about our choosen name maybe because..
***my DH and I debated on the name already..lol
***I won't mind in their opinion
***Or they just dont have any idea...lol
Goodluck!! Dont stresses yourself!! Just be happy that the babies are healthy and alive that is what matters most.

 

[MorganEvans]

lol..no offense, but just ignore them. They are your kids so you have all the right to choose the name. And I love the "Penelope". On my part, none of my family members had anything to say about our choosen name maybe because..
***my DH and I debated on the name already..lol
***I won't mind in their opinion
***Or they just dont have any idea...lol
Goodluck!! Dont stresses yourself!! Just be happy that the babies are healthy and alive that is what matters most.

Completely agreed, thats the kind of attitude you should have! A name is a name, and they're cute. No matter what you name your children, no one has the right to judge it as it's fashion..

 

[GoldieLocs]

The reason they behave this way is because they think they should be able to name their kids what they want....and you should name your kids what they want too...didn't you know it was all about them?

 

[dan-o]

When people started being silly about our name choices, we said we were going to call Sidney 'flash' (our surname is Jordan )
... that shut em up

We did end up going with the family tradition of the middle name Michael tho, keeps em happy

 

[Hann12]

I competely agree! I didn't say to friends and family last time our name choices but after we had my DD I said that our boys choices would have been Harry or Rory. My MIL turned her noise up and said Harry as in Harold.....Urmm no, Harry as in Harry! And she just hated Rory! Then when we found out we were pregnant this time my DH (which annoyed me) told her I like the name Aoife (pronounced Eefa) and she told me it was awful. Now I feel like I can't chose that as she has made it clear she hates it! I've told DH he's not to share anymore names with anyone!
Oh and I love Oscar, obviously no idea what your surname is but how often is it that we say our full names quickly enough to notice they rhyme?!

 

[Stevensmummyx]

For this reason alone I shall be telling family and friends that I shall be calling my child either -Hamish angus McCallum
Or Senga betty sadie McCallum and I shall keep a straight face while doing so ! Really tho if I have a girl I want to call her Emily (mentioned this a while ago and my mum said 'that's a really old fashioned name and it reminds me of that spoiled brat Emily (a kid we know)) or Lucy (a male friend said every lucy he knows is a horrible person) or Abigail (Abbie for short). Lucas or James for a boy

Ignore stupid comments and tell them its your child and you will name him or her what you like and their negative comments are not asked for x

 

[Hann12]

For this reason alone I shall be telling family and friends that I shall be calling my child either -Hamish angus McCallum
Or Senga betty sadie McCallum and I shall keep a straight face while doing so ! Really tho if I have a girl I want to call her Emily (mentioned this a while ago and my mum said 'that's a really old fashioned name and it reminds me of that spoiled brat Emily (a kid we know)) or Lucy (a male friend said every lucy he knows is a horrible person) or Abigail (Abbie for short). Lucas or James for a boy

Ignore stupid comments and tell them its your child and you will name him or her what you like and their negative comments are not asked for x

I love your name choices!
I am thinking James, Benjamin or Joshua for a boy, and for a girl so far the only name we both like is Carrie

 

[Stevensmummyx]

For this reason alone I shall be telling family and friends that I shall be calling my child either -Hamish angus McCallum
Or Senga betty sadie McCallum and I shall keep a straight face while doing so ! Really tho if I have a girl I want to call her Emily (mentioned this a while ago and my mum said 'that's a really old fashioned name and it reminds me of that spoiled brat Emily (a kid we know)) or Lucy (a male friend said every lucy he knows is a horrible person) or Abigail (Abbie for short). Lucas or James for a boy

Ignore stupid comments and tell them its your child and you will name him or her what you like and their negative comments are not asked for x

I love your name choices!
I am thinking James, Benjamin or Joshua for a boy, and for a girl so far the only name we both like is Carrie

Thank you ! I like benjamin too but would use Ben Carrie is also lovely! X

 

[Hann12]

We would use Ben too - would give the full name though rather than shortened version, just prefer it that way!

 

[Betheney]

Great name choices ladies!!!

I like Carrie, i always liked the nickname Bella, but wasn't sold on Isabella or Maribell, but didn't want Bella on it's own. I thought i got lucky when i found Bellamy only to have hubby completely hate it!!!

I am falling more and more in love with Remy though for a boy and am getting excited about shocking the pants off of everyone who thinks we're only going to name baby Oscar.

 

[Betheney]

Hann12 much like you we shared names and people had these really negative reactions, my father actually stuck out his tongue as if he had a bad taste in his mouth when i said "Penelope" and then decided to strut around the room with his hands raised like a prissy, snobby girl :-/ It makes you think "well i totally can't use it now" so we've made the same decision now we're NOT TELLING ANYONE!!! Penelope is also back on the table but TBH i prefer Quinn.

My MIL is worse she turns up her nose and makes it obvious she doesn't like it but wont say anything negative she'll say "Ohhhhhh..... so what were the other choices" and i can't even tell you the amount of times she's said SINCE my daughter has been born "She doesn't look like a penelope at all you chose the right name". I've mentioned before in front of her "yes i know YOU don't like Penelope" and she plays the coy "no i never said that"

I would choose a name to spite her, she drives me insane. I would never not choose a name because she didn't like it. My hubby on the other hand is very impressionable with their opinion so i swear if he shares our current names with them i'm going to shoot him.

 

[Hann12]

Betheney I completely understand with the husband thing! They are ruled by their mothers!! My mil just says when she doesn't like it but my FIL sounds more like your mil in his approach! Def not sharing names!
I also love Bella, we ended up with Annabelle on the basis it could be shortened to Belle or Bella at a push.
I've never heard of Remy before but I'm liking it! I might throw Oscar into the hat for our boys names.
I also like mila for a girl but its probably too out there for DH. And I like Rosalie (Rosie, rose, rosa) but he turned his nose up at that too!

 

[Betheney]

oh i didn't notice you had an Anabelle! i'm so jealous you have a Bella. lol.

I loved Miller for a boy, but everytime i said it i pictured Mila for a girl and worried if i said "this is Miller" people would think i'm saying "this is Mila" because i know a little girl called Mila. lol. I must admit i do love Mila. I met another little girl the other day called Marley but they spelt it Mali, and i thought "wow i never would have imagined you could of shortened that named to only 4 letters but obviously possible"

Our other girl name was Xanthe, but i think it's possible getting into the less "different" and more towards "weird" category.

I don't know any Remys personally, but i've heard it here or there. There was an Xmen character with that name and a guy called Remi Guillard who makes HILARIOUS youtube videos but they pronounce it differently in France where it's more common they say Ray-me where as i would say Rem-me

I like rosalie, it reminds me of a very pretty name like pearl. A precious name for a little girl. Hubby unfortunately hates pearl.

 

[Lisa92881]

I got so sick of people giving unwanted opinions before we knew what we were having and I would mention some names I liked. So instead I told everyone jokingly that we are going to call him Josh, our last name is Bosh. Which obviously would be cruel! But some thought we were serious!! So for now people call him Josh, and we have just told everyone that we haven't decided on a name - even though we are like 99.9 % decided on Alexander.

 

[Betheney]

lolololololololol josh bosh!!!! when everyone started ringing saying "have you had the baby?" I got so sick of it I started saying "yes it's a boy his name is harry" I did this to my own sister who squeeled with delight that I'd had a baby and I had to say "idiot your my sister obviously I would of callers you if I had actually given birth"

We don't have a lot of people around to ask about baby names. So when my friends asked and I said "we're not sharing" the mean convo on post 1 happened. Family are visiting in November so I how it goes down better with them that we aren't sharing. I'm sure it'll be okay. My mum and my MIL (as much as she bugs me) are both pretty respectful women I don't think they'll mind we aren't sharing.

 

[cbbrankley]

My brother chose his daughters' name, which is Shelby, after the Shelby mustang. I didn't like it at first and told him he shouldn't name her that, but now I love the name and I think it fits her perfectly. Everytime I hear her name I think about the gorgeus little girl instead of the actual name. So I'm glad my brother ignored us and named her what he wanted.

 

[Bevziibubble]

We had a few people pick our baby names apart. We had a girls name and a boys name. We were going to use James as a boys name and people kept saying he would be called Jimmy, and that people would think he was posh or stuck up!

 

[Betheney]

I just don't understand how people can be so tactless about names. I dunno about you girls but i'm emotional enough during pregnancy and having someone attack a name that i planned on naming my child for their entire life, HURTS!

cbbrankley - My cousin is named Shelby and i definitly remember a few people didn't think much of it when she was born even though i was a child at the time. But now it's such a lovely name!! I always try and tell hubby to imagine a little girl with names when he's being difficult. Like the name pearl which he thinks is for old women. I said imagine a little girl running around with a dress on as you call her Pearl. It's very precious. But alas he still hates it. He's always saying with some boy names "A man could never have that name!" lol which i guess is something you need to consider but i always figure when men grow up with names it's never weird. It's not like they're born at the age of 50 (benjamin button is the exception)