qwk
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very good point!
Why do so many birth stories seem to involve poor care from health professionals?
very good point!
I think you don't hear the good stories
My OBGYN saved my baby's life, literally, during an emergency complication that would have killed him. It was too late for an emergency C-section, his head was already out. I am forever grateful to her and I had her sign the front of LO's baby book.
My OBGYN saved my baby's life, literally, during an emergency complication that would have killed him. It was too late for an emergency C-section, his head was already out. I am forever grateful to her and I had her sign the front of LO's baby book.
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Ozzieshunni
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Great info on c-section records! The infirmary where I am having LO has a 0% rate that's because they don't perform them there. They send you to the bigger hospital in the next town.
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Thanks for ur support girlies 
tbh I was a little worried at people taking my concerns the wrong way
I do understand that there are some fantastic people out there that go above and beyond their jobs. Its just the mistakes or the not listening that worries me. ur right birth is such a natural thing why is it that in the 21st century some women experience such barabaric births, it seems like we are still inequal and need the vote for better maternity care! lol
Perhaps if there was some kind of nhs public feedback forum where people could rate their experiences in areas across the UK then departments would look seriously into why they are getting poor feedback and the areas with positive feedback would know how good they are. - now ive said this someone will tell me that there is one!
Ur right though - reading up and learning about what to expect can certainly help and I intend to do just that.
I wasnt aware that you could have an independant midwife it does sound better, I wonder how much that would cost - probably more than the nursery im sure!
tbh I was a little worried at people taking my concerns the wrong wayI do understand that there are some fantastic people out there that go above and beyond their jobs. Its just the mistakes or the not listening that worries me. ur right birth is such a natural thing why is it that in the 21st century some women experience such barabaric births, it seems like we are still inequal and need the vote for better maternity care! lol
Perhaps if there was some kind of nhs public feedback forum where people could rate their experiences in areas across the UK then departments would look seriously into why they are getting poor feedback and the areas with positive feedback would know how good they are. - now ive said this someone will tell me that there is one!
Ur right though - reading up and learning about what to expect can certainly help and I intend to do just that.
I wasnt aware that you could have an independant midwife it does sound better, I wonder how much that would cost - probably more than the nursery im sure!
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kezhulme
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Just had a look at the link thanks LolaAnn, looks great
Would be a bit more useful for me if my local had some information - all the others you can click on and find out more but peterborough doesn't have anything other than.
Perhaps within a yr and 9 months they might update it
Would be a bit more useful for me if my local had some information - all the others you can click on and find out more but peterborough doesn't have anything other than.
Perhaps within a yr and 9 months they might update it
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I'm super new and all and I want to say thank you ladies for starting this and posting because it makes me feel not so crazy! My friends think it's insane that I'm already looking at places where I'd want to have my little one at, dh thinks its totally fine atleast! LOL
A good book to read is Pushed. It goes in depth on C-section rates and why they are so high. Alot of docs are doing them out of convience not out of true emergencies. I joined the group ICAN and they are advocates for C-section awareness and have alot of resources if you live in bigger cities. I have health issues so I don't qualify for a midwife, but my OBGYN is very pro-all natural childbirth, so I know I lucked out!
A good book to read is Pushed. It goes in depth on C-section rates and why they are so high. Alot of docs are doing them out of convience not out of true emergencies. I joined the group ICAN and they are advocates for C-section awareness and have alot of resources if you live in bigger cities. I have health issues so I don't qualify for a midwife, but my OBGYN is very pro-all natural childbirth, so I know I lucked out!
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well my story isnt a good one either. i didnt have an experience with midwives but i had one with the military hospitals.
I was due to be induced on march 24 because DH was leaving 2 days later to go to iraq. So we get to the hospital at 6am and they tell me to get a shower so i can be relaxed and all and what not. then they hook me up to an IV drip for pitocin. The nurses that morning were very nice and actually made me laugh. So about 10:30 the doctor comes in and examines me and says i am only about 2cm when the night before the doctor had told me that i was 3cm. so i was due in for a long labor. Then about a half hour later the nurse comes back and says well the doctor found semen in you did you and your husband have sex in the shower? DH and i had DTD 2 days prior to this which they had always asked me when i went to my visits if we had DTD before they checked me. but she didnt ask.
So she tells me that they wont be able to delay the antibiotic oinment like we wanted and that it will have to be put on right after the baby is born. ok no biggie. Then a few hours later the midwife that i had been seeing from the beginning of my pregnancy comes in and asks me how i am doing. at this point i am having mild contractions but they are still painful enough that they required counterpressure which worked great for me.
So then a few hours later i am screaming in agony because the pitocin is doing its job but i am not dialiting and the doctors gave me nubain to help with the pain. So i was finally able to get some sleep but everytime i would wake up i would start cussing dh out and then i would fall back to sleep. they had given me so much nubain that i was basically high. I had to get up to go to the bathroom and DH had to pretty much carry me because my legs buckled out from under me i was so high. and once i am in the bathroom i cant hear myself talk so i am shouting at DH.
Then the doctor comes in and says that they are going to put a bulb in my cervix to help me dialate and that it may be a bit uncomfortable. a bit my ass. I am screaming in pain because it hurts so bad. i actually at one point i screamed "son of a bitch stop!!" So then they get the bulb in and leave me alone for a while. about a half hour later they come in and give me more nubain. they gave me one shot in the butt and a shot through my IV.
I didnt want an epidural because i wanted to try to go as natural as possible. I made it 20 hours without an epidural. i was so proud of myself but the nurse kept pushing me to get an epidural because she couldnt stand to hear me scream in pain.
So basically what ended up happening was that after gryphon was born, the docs found out that i was mentally ill and decieded that they werent going to let me breast feed gryphon. they tried everything in their power to make it so that i couldnt hold him or breast feed him. they waited 2 hours before they handed him to me.
I have no respect for military doctors anymore. i really dont have much respect for the miltiary except for DH and one of my uncles.
If you made it this far in reading good for you. lots of stuff happened that day but gryphon ended up being born march 25 at 8:02am and now i have a happy health boy that i wouldnt trade the world for.
I was due to be induced on march 24 because DH was leaving 2 days later to go to iraq. So we get to the hospital at 6am and they tell me to get a shower so i can be relaxed and all and what not. then they hook me up to an IV drip for pitocin. The nurses that morning were very nice and actually made me laugh. So about 10:30 the doctor comes in and examines me and says i am only about 2cm when the night before the doctor had told me that i was 3cm. so i was due in for a long labor. Then about a half hour later the nurse comes back and says well the doctor found semen in you did you and your husband have sex in the shower? DH and i had DTD 2 days prior to this which they had always asked me when i went to my visits if we had DTD before they checked me. but she didnt ask.
So she tells me that they wont be able to delay the antibiotic oinment like we wanted and that it will have to be put on right after the baby is born. ok no biggie. Then a few hours later the midwife that i had been seeing from the beginning of my pregnancy comes in and asks me how i am doing. at this point i am having mild contractions but they are still painful enough that they required counterpressure which worked great for me.
So then a few hours later i am screaming in agony because the pitocin is doing its job but i am not dialiting and the doctors gave me nubain to help with the pain. So i was finally able to get some sleep but everytime i would wake up i would start cussing dh out and then i would fall back to sleep. they had given me so much nubain that i was basically high. I had to get up to go to the bathroom and DH had to pretty much carry me because my legs buckled out from under me i was so high. and once i am in the bathroom i cant hear myself talk so i am shouting at DH.
Then the doctor comes in and says that they are going to put a bulb in my cervix to help me dialate and that it may be a bit uncomfortable. a bit my ass. I am screaming in pain because it hurts so bad. i actually at one point i screamed "son of a bitch stop!!" So then they get the bulb in and leave me alone for a while. about a half hour later they come in and give me more nubain. they gave me one shot in the butt and a shot through my IV.
I didnt want an epidural because i wanted to try to go as natural as possible. I made it 20 hours without an epidural. i was so proud of myself but the nurse kept pushing me to get an epidural because she couldnt stand to hear me scream in pain.
So basically what ended up happening was that after gryphon was born, the docs found out that i was mentally ill and decieded that they werent going to let me breast feed gryphon. they tried everything in their power to make it so that i couldnt hold him or breast feed him. they waited 2 hours before they handed him to me.
I have no respect for military doctors anymore. i really dont have much respect for the miltiary except for DH and one of my uncles.
If you made it this far in reading good for you. lots of stuff happened that day but gryphon ended up being born march 25 at 8:02am and now i have a happy health boy that i wouldnt trade the world for.
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Wow...I have friends who are military wives and they told me the hospitals on some of the bases are bad, but I really had no idea! That's horrible! I'm soo sorry you had to go through that! No one should push you to do anything like that!
I had a brilliant midwife during my labour; she was excellent, professional, supportive and made my OH cups of tea throughout the whole time!!
Care on the post natal ward was rubbish and I feel the reason why I failed at BF : (
On the whole, I think most women in the UK have good care; with every labour there are going to be problems but not always down to poor Midwife care
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Care on the post natal ward was rubbish and I feel the reason why I failed at BF : (
On the whole, I think most women in the UK have good care; with every labour there are going to be problems but not always down to poor Midwife care
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I think its just the luck of the draw, i agree that midwives do a fantastic job but i also had a horrid experience with my labour and the midwife i had that evening.
The aftercare wasnt what i expected after having a c section i really thought you would get more support but nope. Not in my experience anyway.
i remember coming down to the ward after being stitched up and the midwife leaving my paracetomal at the table at the bottom of the bed. I remember looking at them thinking how the hell am i gona get them, in the end i rang for assistance and another midwife came and said who out of there right mind would put them tablets there and expect u to get them and i said that midwife over there. I was horrified.
But i must also say on the ward i had bad care and experiences from 2 midwives but the rest were adorable. like i say its just the luck of the draw.
The aftercare wasnt what i expected after having a c section i really thought you would get more support but nope. Not in my experience anyway.
i remember coming down to the ward after being stitched up and the midwife leaving my paracetomal at the table at the bottom of the bed. I remember looking at them thinking how the hell am i gona get them, in the end i rang for assistance and another midwife came and said who out of there right mind would put them tablets there and expect u to get them and i said that midwife over there. I was horrified.
But i must also say on the ward i had bad care and experiences from 2 midwives but the rest were adorable. like i say its just the luck of the draw.
