Why does everyone hate their dr and hv?

[sapphire1]

I can see why some people hate their drs TBH, there's lots of horror stories. My 30 year old BIL had been complaining of chest infections for 2 years, and various doctors kept fobbing him off with asthma. Finally, they decided to do tests and it was lung cancer. He's never smoked or done anything that would mean he's high risk. Thankfully, he has just had an operation to remove his lung and we're waiting to see if he needs any further treatment. If they had faffed about any longer, it could have been a lot worse

 

[Mum2Alfie]

I dont hate them. My dr is lovely and I was dreading meeting my health visitor, but she is really lovely!! Maybe I am the lucky one. Thing is in our surgery you dont really have a specific Dr, so I have seen a good few of them. There are 3 that I really like and ask to see now, so I always get one that I like. Apart from the horrid 38 week check up one with the locam! NEVER doing a locum again!

 

[NuKe]

my hv has been great! very supportive of our way of doing things, eg cloth nappies. and she had never heard of BLW so when i told her about it she went off to investigate and now recommends it as an alternative to TW! she was also brilliant when i was diagnosed with PND.

 

[starangel27]

the reason i dont like my doctor is because he is useless!!
my little boy was consiptated at 2 months & he suggested 4oz of water with 4 tablespoon fulls of sugar ever 3 hours.
If i go to the doctors becasuse i am worried about matthew he has a blank look on his face and asks me what i think is wrong with him??

My HV is lovely tho.

 

[dani_tinks]

I like my doctor and I liked Jacob's HV. They do the best they can!

 

[aliss]

My LO's doctor is also my doctor as a child. Well, was!

He told me to wean at 6 weeks with rice cereal and to leave him to cry at 3 months.

He's been a doctor for 30 years, what's the point in arguing? It's like telling my old former POW Nazi grandpa to stop hating the Russians... in another lifetime, seriously!!

 

[LittleBoo]

I love my HV she's lovely and we get on well, my Dr isn't bad either

 

[starlight2801]

I have to say I have a good relationship with the Drs and nursing staff at my GP surgery and a positive experience with the HV team. Some I get on with better than others but they have been nothing but supportive of me and my LO overall.

They seem more flexible in their thinking and more open minded than I expected too and were supportive of me when I chose to change from BF to FF my LO, which I really am grateful for as I felt bad enough about
my decision without the added pressure of their disapproval.

I'm actually looking forward to my HV coming to do a weaning /maternal mood visit next week as she's a really nice woman.

Thought it was just me x

 

[amy19604]

I dont hate them but i just think most gp's are useless when it comes to babies and any issues to do with breastfeeding, the ones ive seen are anyway. or they make you feel like you are a neurotic mother and make you feel stupid for bringing them in and wasting their time.
and alot of hv's are really patronising or give you stupid advice. although i have to say the hv's i had with this lo have been quite good, the ones i had with my other 2 i couldnt stand

 

[vaniilla]

I think they're too rushed and it doesn't feel personal anymore, at least in my personal experience, I don't mean personal as in becoming the best of friends but so that you feel your being listened to, my mum had a tumor the size of a football and had to have a hysterctomy because her gp ignored her complaints for over a year, it could have spread had she not gone private and it could have all been avoided. With Rowan we left hospital without his health check being done, the mw doing it had done less than half and completely forgotten about, I had OC in third tri and they only payed attention a week before I gave birth, I was put on the wrong medication twice in a row and had to give up expressing milk as I had to go on strong medication to counter their mistake, I can go on!

 

[bubbles123]

GP's know a little about a lot but are not experts so I can see why some people find their advice frustrating. Specialists and consultants on the other hand do know what they are talking about and should be listened to. If your LO has a real problem you need to fight for a referral most of the time before you'll get any answers. HV's are just there to offer advice really. There is no 'right' way to bring up a baby and usually they just say how they did it. They are useful to chat to but are not baby experts. Having said that both my HV and GP are really nice but we only started getting decent treatment for my Lo's eczema once we were referred onto a dermatologist.

 

[MissFoley]

i love mine and Jayden's doctor. he's fantastic.
as for health vistors though they made me feel like a bad mum :/ xxx

 

[T-Bex]

My old HV gave my bad breastfeeding advice, and told me to give her a bottle, everytime I saw her, even though she knew I was determined to breastfeed, that if I'd listened to, probably would have stopped me from being able to breastfeed. And my current doctor missed brochiolitus in Bethan three times, and she was admitted to hospital as soon as another doctor saw her (when I took her to the hospital) because it was so serious.

I know that there are a lot of good health care professionals, but I see no problem in b*tching about the bad ones - if nothing else, it makes us feel better!

 

[modo]

I stopped going to get Bobby weighed when he was four months old because I was tired of the HVs' patronizing attitude. They would weigh Bobby say "he is a big boy" look at me (I'm overweight) and say maybe you are feeding him when he is not hungry and I should let him cry and he will settle down. If they measured him they would have seen that his height and weight were on the same percentile (91%) and he was just tall like me. Because of my weight she judged my parenting and I think this is totally unacceptable I weigh him at home and he hasn't gained much weight since he started crawling and cruising.

 

[storm4mozza]

as a first time mommy i worry alot which i know is natural but im learning and my baby is absolutley fine, so i dont appreciate the hv's telling me one thing and then a different hv telling me its wrong and to do something else, this confuses me and i also dont appreciate hv's critising me for everything i do, its MY baby not theres and i think im doing a great job bringing up MY baby, most of these women at my centre arent even parents and have the cheek to tell me im doing something wrong all the time, even though im not,

also doctors tell me to come in if i worry about anything about the baby and then laugh at me when i come in. i dont appreciate being laughed at when im worried about my baby

though some doctors and hv's are great and should keep up the good work