Why does it hurt?

[Sophe]

Just logged on to ace book to see another friend pregnant, she got pregnant with her first 1st cycle after her wedding, the babies now 1 and she is pregnant again. I doesn't effect me, doesn't change anything for me, so why do I feel sad? I am not normally a jelous person poretty happy with my DH and home etc, never have feeling of envy about people richer than us or anything else... but this ttc its getting to me and don't know why, its sort of like making me feel it'll never happen cause it happens so easily for others so it feels like it should be so easy and proves theres something wrong with me? so confussed

sorry needed to tell someone

 

[tryingntrying]

Don't worry. You are not the only one who feels this way. Everytime I hear the news that a friend, acquaintance, or family member is pregnant--I try to be happy for them-- but it hurts so much. You aren't alone. My stomach drops if I so much as see a pregnant woman or a baby out in public.

 

[tryingntrying]

Oh, and I have found something that could potentially help with Facebook posts. You could always choose not to see newsfeed updates from that particular person. Hover over the right upper hand corner of the post on your newsfeed, a little "x" should appear. After that, click "Hide all by ____".

 

[mama d]

I feel the same way. I attempted to post a rant yesterday about this very thing. I have a friend who just found out the gender of her LO. She's due about the same time we would have been (mc in January). I broke down when I saw it. It sucks. That's all there is to it. I'm considering boycotting FB just because for some reason I'm to unreasonable to handle other's good fortune.

TTC can be so hard. Here's hoping that soon it's our turn.

 

[By the Grace]

Been there. I not only have the t-shirt, I run the t-shirt factory. lol

When my friend told me she was pregnant, I felt the most horrible feeling ever! I had to smile and congratulate her, but when I got home, I just felt so depressed.

I've tried to move past it, and I do wish her well, but right now I need space. Luckily, my DH understands and is being very supportive of me.

So, lots of

Hang in there.

 

[By the Grace]

Oh, and I forgot to mention...

I deleted my facebook account over a year and a half ago, and I've never been happier. I feel closer to my DH and my friends and family. Instead of reading about their lives online, they have to tell me about them. It's old-school, but I feel like we have such better interaction.

 

[Fritty]

hey I feel the same this TTC is hard going. I am on my 3rd cycle of clomid and have just ovulated so heres hoping for third time lucky but then again I have bein saying this for quite a while now. I hope everyones well and fingers crossed we will all get there soon xx

 

[Sophe]

I think the face book account might have to go! its not worth me feeling down about!

 

[snd80]

I completely feel you!!! My BF just found out she is preggo (after only one month of trying) and I swear I cried for a week straight (behind closed doors, of course) just like she had died!!! My hubby thought I had lost my mind! I can't even be around her right now, and I know she has noticed a change in me over the phone when I dance around the subject of getting together or when she starts telling me about her doctor appts. I just have to change the subject or be like I'll call you back in a min. Am I the only one or have I really lost my mind???

 

[Lily7]

agreed....I am totally feeling the same

 

[Sophe]

Its strange how we all feel like this, nothing else seems to make so many people feel like this it must be something deep down inside us women.. I hope it goes away soon i don't like feeling like this

 

[newgirl79]

I'm right there with you girls. Since we started trying at Christmas I have had three friends announce their pregnancies- two fell pg after a couple of cycles and one apparently only DTD once!! AGHHHHHH!!!! I had to literally leave the room when I found out and I ended up being a total wreck the rest of that weekend. Have decided I can't keep doing this to myself every month though, especially as I've just found out that in my local area there's no way you'll even be referred for fertility investigations until after two years of trying!!! Keep strong everyone xxx

 

[happythought]

I know how you feel. I have gone so far as to unfriend some people just becasue I couldnt stand seeing all there pregnancy posts and pics. Its very hard and can leave a lot of feelings raging. I just hope we will all GET OUR BFP in the next few months

 

[Fritty]

one of my best friends told me on friday that she was pregant with her second child. I am obivously happy for them but I did have to hold back tears and then once I was home had a cry. To be fair she was very nice when telling me as she knows how long we have been trying. I am on CD21 so got a week to wait to see if cycle 3 has worked. Its so hard as I find it very difficult to concentrate. At least we have 2 bank holidays to help the time past xx

 

[Kadan82]

I so know how you all feel. It seems that everyone is pregnant right now. The most difficult one for me is my sister in-law. We have been so close since she married my brother 2 years ago. She is 5 years younger than me and I just always assumed I would be pregnant before her. After my Hubby and I had been ttc for 8 long months, they came to us on valentines to tell us that they were expecting after 3 months of "ntnp". I was completely heartbroken. I actually felt like they did it on purpose just to prove that they could make it happen before us because they have always been so competitive with us. For the first month or so after that I pulled away from her, couldn't stand to talk, look, or even think about her which is hard because we see them almost everyday. Finally I decided that I couldn't be that way anymore. It's still hard but I knew if I continued to be that "hurt" it would be a LONG 9 months. Although it's still pretty difficult I have decided to be happy for them and even told her I would plan a baby shower for her. I don't understand why life has to be so hard sometimes! But hang on, stay positive...our time is coming!

 

[Tattoo]

If it makes anyone feel any better, I've just got home after starting to cry in Lloyd's Chemist. The (heavily pregnant- of course!) shop assistant wouldn't sell me any baby aspirin without a doctor's note! When I explained that the doctor won't see us for anything to do with TTC until we've been trying two years, I just started to cry. I pulled my sunglasses down over my eyes and walked out. I'm such an idiot

 

[Lily7]

awk don't cry Tattoo (altough I would prob be exactly the same) I was just saying to my Husband last night that I seem to see pregnant women everywhere now, I don't know if I just notice it more now and they have always been there or if God (if there is one) is SERIOUSLY trying my patience!!

 

[countrylass]

I know exactly how you all feel, and I wish our emotions came with an off-switch.

My best friend had a baby a week ago, and I handled the whole pregnancy thing reasonably ok (it pissed me off that she got pregnant within 2 months of coming off the pill, but I moved on from that). Since she had the baby, I just want to smack her round the face (my friend that is, NOT the baby!).
I went to visit yesterday and whilst holding the little one I commented that her legs were all scrunched up, only for her to answer that the babygro she'd got her wearing wasn't actually big enough so little one couldn't stretch her legs out.
I pointed out that she'd be better wearing slightly too-big clothes rather than too-small clothes. But naturally, got the "what do you know, you haven't had a baby" response.
Gah!

 

[Lily7]

How rude! Don't worry, maybe it was heat of the moment, like out of her mouth before she realised what she said, hopefully now she would have had time to think over it she will realise she was quite abrupt

 

[nickyjl]

Totally get how you feel. My SIL got pregnant by accident and has her 12 week scan this week. I can't stand her or her husband and its killing me to know they have what I don't have. She is due 4 weeks before I would have been due if I hadn't miscarried.

I also found out my 19 year old colleague has got pregnant by accident by her waster of a boyfriend who dumps her on a regular basis.

Facebook is an absolute killer so I'm not using it, I haven't been on there for days and I feel so much better for it.