Why don't they warn you?

[orange-sox]

It makes me terribly angry that they let you go through this alone without giving you the proper information, or fully preparing you for what you'll experience.

 

[todteach]

I'm so sorry for your loss hun.

I too was taken off guard when I miscarried. My doctor told me that I would have something similiar to a heavy period.

I asked if I would see my baby......her response......"no".

Miscarried naturally at home. Advil and tylenol with codeine wouldn't even come close to taking the pain away. She forgot to mention that I would have contractions for seven hours, and yes I did see the baby.

 

[hannah88]

I didn't realise i was pregnant until the day i had a miscarriage, so obviously they couldn't warn me, but i do agree!
After, i went to the doctors was seen by a doctor, a nurse then by a doctor i also went to hospital the next day, but from my expierience they do not warn you about the after effects, it has been 5days now and i feel ok now but everyday is a strugle i never know how i am going to feel in an hours time, i stopped bleeding then started. I get cramps sometimes and sometimes not, i feel like crying for no reason, then i am fine again, i feel drained and i look awful! I feel more pregnant now than i ever did!
I was on the pill when i fell pregnant but no-one ever warns you of that either, the pain, hurt and illness i had endured, the shock when my baby fell in to the toilet, the torchure we have all been through.
After the miscarriage, no-one evr tells you, how far you have gone? How i fell pregnant, why i had a miscarriage? will it happen again?
When does it all end?

 

[Schmelly]

to you all, and thanks. I think I'd have gone proper loopy if it weren't for this forum.

So we have agreed to put him in the garden. I feel a bit better now that the decision has been made. Hopefully we will do it today, though dh is at work. I just want to begin healing and feel I can't do that until he has been put to rest.

I'm so sorry to hear all of your horrendous experiences. I have been thinking today about how misunderstood the term 'miscarriage' is. It sounds such a minor thing...but the impact it has on our lives and our bodies is tremendous. I really hope you all have families and husbands/partners as supportive as mine have been.

 

[toby2]

Schmelly i think that sounds like a lovely thing to do.
Hopefully it will help things to settle for you like you say

 

[Farie]

thinking of you honey, will you put a little tree/plant beside him in the garden?

 

[Naughty_Pink]

Having read all these I’m really sorry you all had such awful times with lack of professional support, concern and information.
I had a MC 2 weeks ago and apart from the emergency DR on the phone “oh yeah sounds like a MC, if it gets worse you might like to go to your GP”…..Well it did get worse and the next day I rang for an emergency appointment, these are like gold dust no matter what is happening to you. Anyhow I get there, obviously upset and in pain, I waited an hour and asked how long till my appointment…response was “well you are in an emergency slot, they know you’ve checked in”….maybe I should have said why I was there but couldn’t face admitting it, I just sat in the corner crying…..Anyway point to this story is that after that, everyone I came across from my GP to A&E receptionist to various DR’s and nurses treated me with compassion and care (I was put in a Geriatrics ward as no other beds…rather amusing but that’s a different story) What I wanted to say was sometimes, only sometimes, you can get a positive story. I was heart broken but everyone made it that bit easier for me to deal with……..i hope more people come on with more positive stories so things aren’t that scary for others.

I’m really sad to hear how many of you had such horrific times when a bit of information and compassion could have made things that bit easier to deal with xxxxx