I had my son when I was 20, and had a horrific labour in all honesty. I was not massively prepared but I had been to classes, read a few books and knew my options during labour. However, when things decided to go a bit wonky, I felt unprepared, scared for my life and that of my unborn son.
Most of the problems were due to lack of care whilst in labour from the team in the maternity unit, which has now lead to a bit of distrust in the whole system if Im honest.
I am not naive enough to believe all are the same, but I have opted to have my LO at a different hospital, I shall go in there with a birth plan and an openmind and I shall hope for the best.
Yes it is one day of your life (more like 3 with my son!) but it can be incredibly traumatic. I suffered PTSD and a type of PND, mainly in the form of anxiety attacks. Only in the last 12 months have I been able to stop medication for it. These problems have been a major issue in my life for 6 years now. I was normal before - honest!!
Seriously, I hae been affected by the trauma of a bad labour, but I am ready to do it again.
I think a big problem is that you do only hear bad things about it. Maybe we need to read more positive labour stories??!! I am hoping to go through it this time and come out the other side sane. However long, or whatever happens during I dont mind as long as I am informed - and its a little bit late learning coping techniques when you are in agony screaming at your midwife..
The best plan is know your options, understand that things dont always go to plan, have an open mind and good support.
xxxxx