Will I regret this??

[mommytashaX2]

I have been having a hard time with putting Jaedan back into bed after feedings at night. For night feedings, I usually lay on my side and have him lay beside me in bed for feedings and I get so comfortable (and sleepy) with having him in bed that I don't end up putting him back into his crib. Me and OH love having him in bed with us and OH says that he wouldn't mind having him sleeping in bed with us forever but we both know that this is not realistic I had problems with my daughter sleeping in her crib and even now she doesn't like sleeping on her own.. I don't want to have the same problem with Jaedan so I have a few questions:

1. How are you ladies coping with feeding at night?
2. Is it too early right now for him to realize that he is sleeping with us? I don't intend on doing this forever, but should I stop now to avoid having issues with him sleeping in his crib later on?
3. Is it OK to put baby to sleep (holding him etc.) and then put him in his crib? Or should I be trying to have him fall asleep on his own in his crib?

I just don't want to run the risk of spoiling him or having a child that never wants to sleep in his own crib!! Any advice/comments will be appreciated.

 

[coz]

. How are you ladies coping with feeding at night? My baby sleeps at 11ish only has 15 min feed at about 3am then hes back up at 6ish but most times i cant get him back to sleep at this time.
2. Is it too early right now for him to realize that he is sleeping with us? I don't intend on doing this forever, but should I stop now to avoid having issues with him sleeping in his crib later on? Im not too sure if hel realise he prob will if he gets used to i think its best to try and get them in a routine of sleeping in the cot or moses basket my lil one would only sleep in his bouncer but now i keep putting him in his cot and he sleeps there for first part of night now.
3. Is it OK to put baby to sleep (holding him etc.) and then put him in his crib? Or should I be trying to have him fall asleep on his own in his crib? I have slept holding charlie a couple of times but i do get scared just incase they rolled off you but i wouldnt let him do it all the time again cos he get used to it and prob need to learn that they need to fall asleep on there own in his crib

your baby is quiet young still though hel prob get better as the weeks go by xxx

 

[Sara]

We're co-sleepers - meaning Indi will 'wean' himself out of the family bed when he wants.

We went to bed at 10.30 last night, he woke at 1.15 and 4.20 for short feeds then we got up with a happy, smiling baby at 8am

 

[coccyx]

My little boy has co slept with us since day one, I find it easier when breastfeeding and I enjoy it. He is now sleeping for 5/6 hours at night and I put him into his cot after his last feed around midnight, with no problems. I do not think you can 'spoil' a baby that is so young. Enjoy!

 

[oOKayOo]

I didnt do this with iether of my children as my OHS niece did this with her children and now has 2 kids in her bed ( 3 years and 4 months) cos she are so used to it.

I think its better to have them sleep on there own as if you keep him in the bed with you he will get used to the closeness and become clingy when it comes to bed time , this is my opioion though.

My kids have never had a problem sleepin from the age of 3 weeks, i would put them down once i knew they were tired and full , of course they cried abit but once they relise mummy wont pick them up when its bedtime then they will soon get the habit of just going to sleep and all through the night

 

[xCherylx]

We now have Jack in his own room so he gets used to his own room and his cot. However when he won't settle we do end up with him in our bed with us Has done him no harm and he is used to sleeping where we put him as in the day he sleeps either in his rocker or his cushion

 

[B4byAnge1]

The only way I can get ANY sleep at night is to have Skye in bed with me! (OH relegated to the couch when not working night shift!) Its so much easier to feed her, she sleeps for 2 4 hour spells then an hour or two once Im awake. I started taking her in after about 2 weeks, she just would not settle in her moses basket. TBH I know it will make it harder to get her sleeping on her own, but ill worry about it in a couple of months when she is a bit older...then I wont feel so bad about letting her cry! My little boy slept in my bed for 2 years...Im not letting her do it for so long!

 

[leeanne]

If you do co-sleep, try not to let it go longer than it should. I so understand feeling so tired at night etc. that it's easier to have baby in bed with you.

I posted my story a week ago.

https://www.babyandbump.com/girly-sanctuary/39523-my-confession.html

 

[TashaAndBump]

I love having Anna in bed with us, and so does MrBum, but we will start her with a bed time routine when she is old enough to understand because

a) DH and I will want our bed back eventually (preferably before child #2 comes along!) and
b) I believe that children enjoy and thrive on having a routine in place.

At the moment she sleeps from 10-10 - And that's only because I drag her and her Daddy out of bed at that time - I'm sure she'd sleep in till 12 if I let her! lol

She's such a happy and content baby, too... so we can't be doing much wrong!

Co-sleeping is only a problem if you don't want to be doing it... My mother has co-slept with all of her children up the age of about 6 months - a year and then set a bed time routine in place for them, which has worked really well for her, as once the routine is in place, if you stick consistently with it, it may take a little bit of hard work at the transition phase to get them into their own bed but it doesn't take long before they are looking forward to bed time and happily sleeping in their 'big boy / girl bed'! hehe - I plan to do the same thing with Anna as I have seen it work so well and I think I understand why. This allows you to have the best of both worlds; co-sleeping and comfy feeding now, bed to yourself and child still sleeping through later. Perfect! lol

Everyone does things differently, though - there is no right or wrong way! Do whatever works best for you...

I'm afraid I don't have any advise on getting your baby into their own bed so young as I don't know how you do it! lol I think it does just take a lot of consistently putting them down in their own cot - hard work basically! lol Really good luck with it - let us know how you get on!

Take care

 

[Margerle]

I have been having a hard time with putting Jaedan back into bed after feedings at night. For night feedings, I usually lay on my side and have him lay beside me in bed for feedings and I get so comfortable (and sleepy) with having him in bed that I don't end up putting him back into his crib. Me and OH love having him in bed with us and OH says that he wouldn't mind having him sleeping in bed with us forever but we both know that this is not realistic I had problems with my daughter sleeping in her crib and even now she doesn't like sleeping on her own.. I don't want to have the same problem with Jaedan so I have a few questions:

1. How are you ladies coping with feeding at night?

Just pushing through. Sleep when baby sleeps, I feed in bed during the night sometimes. We've got a pretty small bed for all of us though

2. Is it too early right now for him to realize that he is sleeping with us? I don't intend on doing this forever, but should I stop now to avoid having issues with him sleeping in his crib later on?

There is never a good time. Babies are learning to trust their caregivers in early life and attentive care in those first months are very important to that. A lot of studies have been done to see if there's a correlation between co-sleeping or "attachment parenting" and a spoiled child later and there is NO correlation. In other words, you needn't really worry about making your baby spoiled if you're co-sleeping. You'll have to work at getting him in his crib later, but you'd have to work at it now during a time when he's trying to learn how to ask for help and who to trust to give him love and care.

3. Is it OK to put baby to sleep (holding him etc.) and then put him in his crib? Or should I be trying to have him fall asleep on his own in his crib?

I personally think its fine to hold them. That's what I do for all my kids. It's good for me to relax with them, and it's good for them to feel the comfort I'm giving as they fall asleep.

I just don't want to run the risk of spoiling him or having a child that never wants to sleep in his own crib!! Any advice/comments will be appreciated.

Not directed at you, but I think it's sad the way our cultures work to make babies so independent so early. They're babies for goodness sake! They aren't born with self soothing techniques. They have to be taught that. But trusting their caregivers is essential for them to have a good basis for their independence (IMHO). My mother is one of those old-schoolers that tell me to let my DD 'cry it out' and put her to bed by herself.

It just doesn't seem right intuitively, and since I'm the mama... Well, I get to decide

Hope that helps.



BTW I think the 6-12 month guidline from Tasha is a good one. That's what I'm going to shoot for.

 

[TashaAndBump]

There is never a good time. Babies are learning to trust their caregivers in early life and attentive care in those first months are very important to that. A lot of studies have been done to see if there's a correlation between co-sleeping or "attachment parenting" and a spoiled child later and there is NO correlation. In other words, you needn't really worry about making your baby spoiled if you're co-sleeping. You'll have to work at getting him in his crib later, but you'd have to work at it now during a time when he's trying to learn how to ask for help and who to trust to give him love and care.

Very wise words, Margerle (as usual!)... This is kind of what I was trying to say, but you put it very well indeed!

 

[Holldoll]

I put Bella in her bed to fall asleep about 11 and then when she wakes up between 3 and 4 I feed her and she stays in bed with us until she feeds again at 6 and then we are usually up again around 8 or 9. I think she will be in bed with us until she's about 3 months, or sleeping through the night, which ever comes first. I also nurse laying down.