Will it ever be good news? (Very long, sorry!)

[woowoo]

Hi ladies,

I should introduce myself with a little bit about me:

I’m 29 (30 VERY soon!), married and have been trying to conceive for a while… although technically we can’t actually TTC anymore as my DH has Azoospermia due to a birth defect (0 sperm is released at the crucial moment). We discovered this in June after 1 year TTC and after waiting 10 weeks for the NHS and receiving no appointment we had to pay for a PESE / TESE procedure. We were fortunate enough for them to retrieve and freeze some sperm.

So the only way there is a chance I can get pregnant is through ICSI.

Today we went for our first NHS IVF/ICSI consultation and spoke to a very ‘cold’ and somewhat pessimistic fertility specialist who basically told me I am too overweight to be funded through the NHS. She recorded my weight as 94kg (it’s 83kg), my height as 5.8 (it’s 5.9) and my BMI as 31 (it’s 28). I tried to argue with her (weakly due to tears) but to no avail. Basically she told me to come back when I’ve lost the weight and then I can join the waiting list.

She also told me I have to have a HSG because I have a small fibroid but I can’t have that until I lose the weight.

I know I’m not the only one going through all of this so I’m trying not to wallow but it’s very difficult sometimes to stay positive.

Well this was very long so thank you if you got this far!

All the best wishes to everyone x

 

[Dancingkaty1]

hi there woowoo....so sorry to hear you are going through a rough time at the moment.....ttc is such a difficult & very emotional rollercoaster at the best of times isnt it...then to top it off your specialist sounds very unkind!!! We saw our specialist for the 1st in aug....we went in thinking it was me with the prob ( had been diagnosed with polycysts on my only ovary at an earlier scan) & she blurted out...'no your fine...its your husbands swimmers...he has slow swimmers'.....we we so shocked the way she just came out with it...husband was obviously devasted!!! Had a hycosy done by the specialist on sept 28th...they were scanning my ovary & obviously couldnt find a left 1 as i only have the right 1....i was shocked they didnt already know this as i assumed she should of looked at my notes b4 i went in 4 the procedure....i said ' i havent got a left 1 as it was removed when i was a baby...it should be in my notes' she replied with 'oh u only have the 1 ovary??' she kinda sarcastically giggled & said' bad luck hey!' i laid there having the uncomfortable hycosy procedure done thinking what a bitch!!! seeing her again next thurs.....wish we could afford to go private as dont like her...but we cant so ive gotta bite my tongue as i want a baby so badly!! xx

 

[woowoo]

Thank you Dancingkaty1, I'm sorry to hear you are having a rough time too. How insensitive of your specialist! I really hope everything goes well next Thursday.

 

[BigFoot1980]

I am sorry that you have such a terrible FS. I mean its hard enough without having to deal with such negative attitudes from the doctors.