Will people think I'm insane?

[orange-sox]

OH and I are very private stress free (as far as possible anyway) people, so we've decided to let all plans for a UK based wedding fall by the wayside. I wasn't too keen on the idea of an overseas "beach" wedding, well because that wasn't us really... you know the couple on the sandles adverts (no offense to couples that are... it's just we're not! ). I have a terribly difficult parent situation (divorced, dad remarried, mum still would chop my dads head off if she ever saw him) and it would make what's supposed to be the happiest day of my life incredibly stressful and miserable!

So we've decided to get married on a cruise! Just us two, no guests - two members of the crew as witnesses!

Obviously we'll have a million squillion pictures taken on-board to show everyone, and we plan on having a "Yay we're married" party once we get back - which means I get to wear my dress again

Is everyone going to think we've completely lost our minds? More to the point will it cause untold misery from parents?

Btw, sorry if my posting comes as a shock to anyone, we're not "officially engaged" as we're only going to do that about 6 months before we get married (which won't be till we've saved enough money to pay for our mammoth caribbean cruise ). Again... because his mother got in enough of a tizz about his cousins wedding, I just couldn't deal with that for the next 2-3 years! (if I see one more lavender pashmina I will kill myself!)

 

[24/7]

I think it sounds perfect, and is exactly what me and OH would do if we had a choice that was influenced by guilt.... x

 

[Panda_Ally]

Sounds absolutly perfect to me!!!

Me and OH are very tempted to do the same thing, taking LO aswell...

 

[sparkle]

I think thats a wonderful idea!

 

[bky]

We took the low stress wedding option. Wouldn't have had it any other way.
We snuck off and told people later as we knew too many people would fuss at us.
The family got to have their wedding fuss at my poor cousin's wedding.

 

[indy and lara]

Great idea! It is you and your OH special day, you do what is right for you. No-one else.

 

[Vici]

Personally i could never ever do it. We have certain family issues but theres no way i'd not have at least my mum and sisters at my wedding. But if its best for you hun, do it x

 

[lollylou1]

after having the big wedding and enjoying every minute of it i wouldnt do it again, i was so stressed leading up to it and spent all my time efforts and money doing things to please everyone else so i think your idea is perfect do it for you not what anyone else wants its whats important to u

Lou
xxx

 

[Tegans Mama]

Do it!! I would love it.

 

[lozzy21]

I would love to do that. Your not insane at all

 

[Pops]

You have to do what is right for you and your OH hun, no one else.

We have booked "our" hotel exclusively for 40 of our nearest and dearest (won all round as we wanted it small and there and that is their max numbers) and have paid more for it than we would have anywhere else but they sort EVERYTHING that we want them to.....and to be honest, planning a big wedding is just not us. We will do the important bits but the rest of it, they can sort and we will show up and just have a fantastic day.

Plus, for us, it isn't about the wedding, it is about the next 50 years after that and the marriage.

xxx