Will you go back to the TTC section when you start trying again?

[susan_1981]

Just wondering because I'm not sure I can. I may change my mind but I think that if and when I next get pregnant, I want to jump straight into the second trimester. With this experience, by being so obsessed with getting pregnant and coming on here so often, it made my pregnancy feel like it was taking forever. I was only 12 weeks but it felt like forever.

 

[Happy]

I had a mc in May and after that I never went back into the TTC section, we just tried to forget about getting pregnant and concentrate on other things. 8 weeks later I found out I was pregnant again and I avoided the 1st tri board because I was petrified of looking forward to the pregnancy in case things went wrong. By the time I got to 8 weeks I started to relax and popped onto the board more often.

Please dont give up hope, you will get your BFP just like I did. x

 

[susan_1981]

I really hope so. I didn't really have any trouble falling pregnant this time so hopefully this time will be quick again. I'm really hoping to get pregnant again straight away. As I've heard that you are more fertile when you miscarry, we plan on trying quite hard after I stop bleeding (which will start on Monday after the D&C) and if it doesn't happen that month, then we will just try around my fertile days and try and enjoy sex rather than it just becoming about making a baby.

 

[honey08]

u go when u feel ur ready to go bk in2 ttc, every one is different....i dont think u will have any problems getting ur super sticky susan, i totally understand wot u mean bout the 1st tri
u go where ever u feel u want to hun, and when ur ready aswell, tell u the truth we tried straight away uknow, after af came in may then got pg in oct ,wishing u all the best

 

[samzi]

Im not sure what i will do. But atm theres no chance of anything cos im abstaining from sex until i i get my next AF so i know where i am with it all etc. And tbh im so scared of it happening again, that even after that i may make sure we use something cos im just so so scared

 

[Snowball]

I did go back to ttc after our stillbirth and first m/c. However now I've stopped bleeding from our 2nd m/c I tend to dip in and out, I don't do sticks anymore either. It's up to you when you are ready

 

[susan_1981]

I think at the moment because it is all so raw, I just can't face the fact of going in there again and I definitely feel I don't want to go into the first trimester again because all I can think about is the girls who have had their scans and are so happy. This should be a really happy time for me but it's turned into the worst time of my life. I suppose I will see how I feel in a while but at the moment it's just too hard.

 

[Lyns]

I feel exactly the same as you Susan and for now I'm sticking to here, and the journals. The journals are a nice place as you can share stuff with a few close friends, but not be 'out in the open' so to speak.

For me, and this is probably awful of me to say this, but I can't be doing with the 1001 basic threads of "I've been trying a whole month and why didn't I fall immediately"....I've come to realise that are a lot more tragic things than a BFN. And I know its utterly gutting at the time, but I just can't cope with it...I can't objectively offer sympathy right now.....and it does make me feel bad to be like that, so I'm staying away!

And I never really liked first tri...I feel like it was all expected doom and gloom, and there's a tiny voice in inside me sort of wonders if if it all went wrong for me, as I was surrounded by people talking about being totally scared of miscarrying at every turn. I never went on any forums in my first pregnancy and never had any problems...I loved my first trimester, despite the MS, and then bang, I go in one this time, and start to hear of all the problems, and look....its probably totally silly, but it did feel maybe sort of a slightly self-perpetuated prophecy IYKWIM!

Stick with me chick....we'll hold hands together in here or come join the journals

 

[JASMAK]

I stuck to the loss forums for quite sometime, but now I am back in the longterm ttc forum. The ladies are all very supportive in there.

 

[susan_1981]

Lyns, I feel exactly the same as you. People saying they still aren't pregnant after about 3 months of trying - it isn't a long time, the way I looked at it was that you had only tried 3 times. It took me about 3 months to get pregnant this time after coming off the pill and I never felt like it was that long a time. I'm just going to stick in here for now. Who knows, I might change my mind but I don't want to go back to the first trimester again because, it's true, it just fills me with worry. And it just made this pregnancy feel like it went on forever and I think that was because I just obsessed so much over this. If I hadn't of come on here, I wouldn't have worried at all about miscarriage but, saying that, I'm glad I do know and am grateful to this site for all the information I've been given.

 

[Rumpskin]

I am not ready for the TTC forum yet - I am quite happy in here for a while x

 

[Omi]

Hiya,

i have to admit i do dip in...but my problem is (im so gonna sound like an old harpy, lol) but having done this for a while (!!) i pretty much already know 98% of what goes on in ttc and i cannot bear the incessant nit picking and frankly...silly questions..im not being mean, far from it, but ive been there done that and it just bores me now

Anywhoo.. as far as the 1st tri..oh, no. Ive already told myself i will try to forget im pg next time (good luck with that one Omi, lol) but ykwim? I dont wanna get super exited, writing a pg journal etc, etc until i know the next one is staying put, so i'll stick with my ttc journal until i get out of 1st tri...

Here's hoping for 2009!!

, Omi xxx

 

[susan_1981]

I completely agree with you Omi. On the one hand, I do want to know if and when I get pregnant again as soon as possible but I think it's better for me not to find out. After my ERPC tomorrow, my periods may not return for 6-8 weeks, possibly longer. I've always had regular periods and I've had this procedure done before and my period came back pretty much 4 or 5 weeks later. If my period doesn't come back within that time, I'm sure I'll be wondering if I'm pregnant again but I'd rather find out I was as late as possible. That will mean I won't spend so much time worrying. One of the main reasons I kept testing last time was because I was still smoking and drinking and didn't want to be doing that if I was pregnant. Obviously it didn't do me a lot of good anyway giving up because I've miscarried but this time, I'm doing it properly. No smoking, no drinking (or at least minimal drinking) when TTC and then if it happens again, I can't blame myself.

Roll on this time tomorrow when my op will be all over!

 

[becky77]

i feel exactly as you ladies do, it breaks my heart that i am even having to ttc,let alone talk about it,and i think i will feel like i am jinxing myself if i go into first tri again, and your right it is a bit of a worry fest, its strange but i feel kinda safe in here.
x

 

[Omi]

I completely agree with you Omi. On the one hand, I do want to know if and when I get pregnant again as soon as possible but I think it's better for me not to find out. After my ERPC tomorrow, my periods may not return for 6-8 weeks, possibly longer. I've always had regular periods and I've had this procedure done before and my period came back pretty much 4 or 5 weeks later. If my period doesn't come back within that time, I'm sure I'll be wondering if I'm pregnant again but I'd rather find out I was as late as possible. That will mean I won't spend so much time worrying. One of the main reasons I kept testing last time was because I was still smoking and drinking and didn't want to be doing that if I was pregnant. Obviously it didn't do me a lot of good anyway giving up because I've miscarried but this time, I'm doing it properly. No smoking, no drinking (or at least minimal drinking) when TTC and then if it happens again, I can't blame myself.

Roll on this time tomorrow when my op will be all over!

There is obviously no way for me to know you're period will come back....but if you're anything like me- and im mr even stephen, let me tell you! The odd day here or there but pretty much every month since i got my first period...geesh, thats a loong time ago, lol! And last time mine was only 5 days or so out, so not bad, all things considered!

Anywhoo..i think the good thing with this procedure is that it does remove all and any tissue so all you really bleed after is just from the actual procedure- which for me, both times was very little. Sort of spotting for a week and then back on the ttc horse, lol! I actually really enjoyed the ttc again after cause a) i knew i could get pg and b) it was nice to feel normal after all the trauma, you know?

Im living it up large at the moment ..well, it is christmas and i dont see a reason why not. But i shall switch into 'being good' mode come 2009, however, i dont believe in giving up your life completely as its better for all and sundry if you dont. I nice little drinkie on ov night is better than none...but thats just me, lol!

Im sure you will be back to bigger and better things in no time, hun!!

All the best, Omi xxx

 

[Barneyboo]

Just wanted to say I to dip in and out of m/c and now cos its been 2 years secondary infertility with 2 m/c!

I would also like to add that no matter which section I have been on everyone has been just lovely and I do feel lucky to be part of this forum because some days I don't know if I'm coming or going....

Take care sweetie x x x x

 

[moomoo]

Hey susan, first of all good luck for tomorrow..my thoughts are with you. Also i do go in ttc forums, but tend to only comment on what i feel as though i have had personal experience of. And i hate saying it, but it feels like a big kick in the gut when someone leaves to go to pregnancy forums. Ive had a "month off" this month, and although ive been dipping in and out of ttc, i feel so much better!! fingers Xed hun Xxxxx

 

[charliesmom]

I don't really visit the TTC section as we get pregnant right away. It's the first trimester section I won't be posting in. BFP announcements, early MS symptoms discussions, etc etc... I will not be starting any of those types of posts. It's not that I don't want to acknowledge it, but I've learned after two tragedies to not obsess over it. It's harder to cope when you invest too much emotions on it. I'm going to just let it happen in the background while I focus on other things in life. When it's safe and here for keeps, then I'm going to freely obsess over it!

 

[honeybunch2k7]

At the moment, I can't say. I don't mind WTT, but I don't know how well I'd handled the TTC forum.

 

[samzi]

We have decided to actively TTC after my AF comes and goes, after my mc a few weeks ago. But i wont be going in any forums or announcing anything to anyone until i know all is safe etc. Im also going to try to 'forget' to so i dont obsess over it/go crazy!