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Mrs R

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I accidentally ventured into the pregnancy forums and seen some of the girls that were in ltttc with me last year.

They had all their little scan pics and pregnancy tickers :cry:

Why did I do it? Now I feel crap
 
Aww hun, I didn't wanna read and run. big :hugs: for you hun. Hopefully it is your turn soon. :dust: to you xx
 
Having been ttc 10 years, I've seen lots of friends on various message boards struggle for ages and then get pregnant, and I could never follow what was going on with them, I always had to stay away. One forum I used to love, all my friends there got pregnant and had healthy babies except me, and I had to stop going there....
 
I am happy for all the LTTC who are now pregnant but I don't go in that section either - it's just too much. I just hope that one day I will get to be in there too. I wish I knew. :hug:
 
at one point they were on here thinking and feeling the same so hold on :hug:
 
I know how you feel ... While I'm happy that some of our LTTTCers have finally had their wish granted, I feel jealous and upset that it's not me. I very rarely go into the pregnancy forums as I can't relate to anybody in there - even the previous LTTTCers.
 
Well I'm the opposite to most, I'm happy for the LTTC's, they've been in our shoes before!
 
(Turned off my ticker for this thread)

:cry: I am sorry that you got upset (and I have felt the same way in the past) but on the flip side, when one leaves LTTTC, it is so sad to feel like you are losing friends that were such a huge support for so long. :cry:
 
Aww, thanks for turning off ur ticker hun. Much appreciated!

It's not that I'm not happy for those girls coz I am, nobody but them knows how we feel.

I'm just jealous and impatient
 
Feel the same. Bitter, upset, crap.

Not even going to lie about it. Have repressed how I feel too much recently and have decided to be honest with myself.

I'm jealous. I'm jealous that people got pregnant at the same time of me yet their baby survived yet two of mine died. I'm jealous that they're coming up to 12 weeks, the 'safe zone', yet I've known for almost four that it wasn't working out.

I've known that the implanted embryos were dead for as long as I thought I might be pregnant. That kills me.
 
I feel jealous that people have got pregnant and I'm still waiting but I love following their pregnancy journals as most LTTTCer's who have finally got their BFP's are so grateful and happy that reading their journals and following their journals is lovely. I will say though that I don't generally go into the general pregnancy forum parts as that is a little too much
 
I'm sorry, and I completely understand. :flow:

I've turned my ticker off for this thread too, but I was TTC for 21 long months, so I really do understand.

Even now the ones that choke me are the "I got pregnant my first month trying" threads.

I feel wicked hating them, but it never seems fair that they get their dream without the heartache some of us have felt.

Maybe our babies will be more blessed because we wished for them so long :shrug:
 
i used to feel how you do.. but iv got past that, my best friend on here recently had her baby and shes the only reason i went in the pregnancy part as i used to follow her around to check on her. i used to get mega annoyed thinking ppl will never have to experiance what i have to.. but remember for every inch of hurt, it makes that child of yours even more special... youl have a bond like no other because you, and you alone will no how much pain. hurt. and sacrifice went into having him/her.

itl all come right in the end
 
I know what you mean. I hate it. I wish I wasnt like this but I am. Its just me for now. And as Tracie said I think in the end we will be better mom's for it and really appreciate every aspect of it where others just take it for granted.

555 I too hate the 1st try ones they have no ideal how hard the process can actually be.
 
i completely understand the way your feel girls :hugs:being there myself...

i also do miss the bond i had here ..i have a little hard time to bond with the pregnancy forums girls for some reason...

but i do believe a person journey never end no matter what pregnant or not ...i did get very lucky to get my BFP ...but until couples weeks ago my preg journey hasn't being great either ...we just go via different journeys but we still are the same ladies ...:hugs:
 
This is one of the reasons why I hate IF. I make a lot of friends, but also lose a lot in the same process. I used to be in a buddy group with other women when I did my first ivf cycle. All of us that got pregnant formed a group and we all became very close through our pregnancy. Then our baby died and I had to leave - couldn't stay and watch their bellies grow knowing that is how I should look like. I did enter a few months later and for some reason felt peaceful seeing their u/s scans. Like I was thinking their pics was my pic, then I came back to reality and realize they will be having a baby at the start of Januray and I won't
 
555ann555 - when I was pregnant it really irritated me the women who got pregnant first try and the ones that said we didn't try this month or we weren't going to try until next season or next year, etc. I was even more pissed after our baby died and these women were still pregnant.
 
For me it is not like that, I have been with BNB going on almost 2 years now, and been TTC almost 26 months and everything i have went thru and experienced in my life, even with the fear of my system not coming right and me never Oing... I am trully happy that all my LTTC friends no matter how diffrent each of their journeys have been, from good to bad to amazing.. each and evey one of them Deserves to have gotten their BFP....

I see it as each persons needs, feels and blessings will be diffrent and i am happy even if it was TTC 1 month or LTTC for 10 years....

The bigger picture for me is i become a Cyber Mommy to many babies and i see the beautiful creation of new life every single day.....

:hugs::hugs::hugs:
 
jacky24 said:
For me it is not like that, I have been with BNB going on almost 2 years now, and been TTC almost 26 months and everything i have went thru and experienced in my life, even with the fear of my system not coming right and me never Oing... I am trully happy that all my LTTC friends no matter how diffrent each of their journeys have been, from good to bad to amazing.. each and evey one of them Deserves to have gotten their BFP....

I see it as each persons needs, feels and blessings will be diffrent and i am happy even if it was TTC 1 month or LTTC for 10 years....

The bigger picture for me is i become a Cyber Mommy to many babies and i see the beautiful creation of new life every single day.....

:hugs::hugs::hugs:
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jackie you are wonderful :hugs:
 
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