Worried about after labour 2nd time round

[lov3hat3]

First time I was completely oblivious to it all. My mum went on about how horrific giving birth was and the pain bla bla and I just ignored it was like whatever. No one told me about after the birth, though. Which is something i'm very worried about this time. I couldn't physically pee after birth, they said that it happens a lot where you just don't feel the need to go and you cant go even though you have a full bladder. So they had to empty it with a catheter for first day and even after that I couldn't go. I even had some bitchy midwife sit in the toilet with me waiting for me to go, and kept upsetting me telling me I was gonna have to stay in 7 days if I didn't go then like I was not going on purpose. Then I had to have a 24hr catheter so had to stay in longer. Has anyone had this after birth? is it likely to happen again? it caused me a lot of problems after I left hospital. Because with the catheter I couldn't really move around a lot because it pulled quite bad, I was bleeding quite bad and had stitches from when I gave birth. So I left hospital with a nice infection and ripped stitches could barley walk and nearly had to go back to hospital because the infection was so bad. After a week with a lot of pain killers and antibiotics I felt normal again. Im just sooo worried about it happening again, id take giving birth over it any day!

 

[Misscalais]

Sorry you went through that, I had no trouble peeing I just leant forward to help the flow.
Popping on the other hand was extremely painful for me for a few weeks after I was actually scared to poo lol
Hope you don't have to go through that again

 

[femalecyclist]

I had to have a catheter as well for a whole week after birth because the first time I peed, it was so much, had been holding it in. It was not so bad having a catheter. It did not cause any problem with healing or anything so it is not always as bad as you had it.

 

[KimmyLou]

Sorry you went through that.
With my first son, I had some pretty awful trauma down below, I ended up with a catheter too. Thankfully, with my second birth. Everything was totally different. I went for a wee within a few hours of birth. If you explain your worries to the mw, they should hopefully reassure you a little xx

 

[Eleanor ace]

. I had surgery after having DS and had a spinal and catheter. When they took it out it took me a couple of days to be able to control peeing- I'd sit on the toilet and do a wee but wouldn't be able to feel it, very strange sensation! I was told that that's quite normal after having an epidural or spinal. With my 2nd I just had a straight forward delivery and had no problems peeing afterwards .

 

[RUBY2122]

This could have been written by me! I had a catheter for a week but still couldnt go. Had to learn to self cath. Fortunately only for another week and then things started working again. Absolutely dreading doing it all again.

 

[lov3hat3]

I'm hoping its a lot different this time, and hope I get to go home earlier as I HATED staying in hospital and wasn't treated the nicest in my opinion. So its good to know other peoples experiences