Worried

[pinkgem100]

Just want to get a few things off my chest. Ive got my 1st MW app tomoz, so its starting to feel real about being pregnant and now i am getting worried about it all. in dec 08 i had a mmc we found out at my 20 week scan, but i keep having feelings that i am going to start bleeding at any min or if i am not thinking that i think that i am blissfully unaware that there is something wrong with the baby and i will only find out at my 12 wk scan (16th March). i dont know how much longer i really can go on feeling like this. I even had a scan at 5wk+6days and it still does not feel real, i just cant stop worrying about it all.

x

 

[hopefulbump2b]

Hi hun. Sorry I can't say anything reassuring, only that you are not alone. Despite feeling sick, tired and heavy yesterday I still allowed the thought of going to a scan and there being no heartbeat to enter my head and could feel my heart pounding in fear. I am petrified, more stressed that I have ever been and there is nothing I can see to do about it. I am approx 5.5-6 weeks pregnant so a while to go. I hope you find some way to relax soon. Try to focus on the odds of a healthy pregnancy being in your favour.

 

[analyticalema]

Big hugs to you! I feel the same way completely...most of the time! I lost Jesse in October 09 and had complications that are still unresolved from that. The chances of me getting pregnant so soon were really small as a result so I feel like I should be happier than I am. A friend told me that it was a miracle and with the new bubs being due in October, Jesse was looking out for new bubs. I keep trying to focus on that in my rational moments!

I've had a scan (almost 6 weeks) and I have one on Monday (about 8 weeks) as I've been bleeding throughout, they think because of a hemmoragic cyst. I'm driving my partner mad at the moment. I keep reading into everything and when I'm not feeling sick or being sick I'm convincing myself something is wrong as last time I was throwing up continuously from conception!

I spent half an hour sobbing at my doctor the other day about the way I felt and he said that it was natural to feel that way and rationalised everything to me. He said a lot of the things my partner had but when the doctor said it felt easier to take...I suppose because he explained everything I was analysing in medical terms!...I really could do with a weekly session for him to just remind me that this pregnancy is different!! One of the most useful things he reminded me of was that our hormones will also be playing a huge part in intensifying our feelings and although the fear will probably stay until bubs comes...it will become easier as our hormones settle. He suggested making a list of all the ways this pregnancy was different to the last and take all of those things a sign of this pregnancy not going the same way...he also suggested making a list of all the similarities and seeing how many are "common symptoms of pregnancy"! Sort of journal in bullet point form...I'm doing it so that I have something more look at when I'm totally freaking out...The rest of the time I'm trying to distract myself!



Xx

 

[Stephandstu]

I know exactly how your feeling i am now 11+5 weeks and have my twelve week scan in six days but because of miscarriage last year i have been panicin non stop and constantly goin to loo expecting to see blood. I had a scan at six weeks and saw heart beat and that put my mind at ease for all of ten minutes! I guess its just natural so all i can say is try your best to stay calm and have faith x

 

[tabbicles]

I am also terrified! This 12 ww is the worst ever!!