ellie
Mum to Kalden
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Hello, I am new to this site, so apologies if this has been discussed elsewhere, I'm still working out what's on here! myself and partner have been together for 6 years and just managed to move from a tiny flat to a lovely big (comparatively!) house ... we always said we would want to have a house to have a baby in ... but the move took a year and a half! and in the meantime I couldnt' wait (i am 36 now he's 37) i was so desparate for a baby (have been for about 5 years but he wasn't ready so was having to wait) - he reluctantly agreed to try about a year ago, it worked straight away but that caused argyuments (we didn't have the room, my job was insecure, etc) and then sadly m/c'd at 7 weeks - we were both devastated and it's only now it feels like we're 'over it' (do you ever get over it?) - anyway long story! but in the meantime i've got a better job with more £ and longer term prospects, we've moved to our lovely house and are going on holiday the 1st week of jan so have agreed to TTC after the holiday ..... however we are both very scared of it happening again, I also worry because he smokes 1 - 2 a day (2 - 3 a day at weekends) which isn't much but he will not give up, nor will he recognise that he may have to think about his part in it! To be fair we do eat healthily, he hardly drinks, he cycles to work and takes whatever vitamins i tell him he needs (!!) .. but over the past couple of years we have 'got together' less and less, so i am also worried that again i will have to put pressure on him 'at the right time' of the month ... sorry if tmi ...!
Sorry for the long note especially as i'm new, i just wondered whether anyone had any tips or experience of any of these things! i am really trying to think positive and visualise us with a baby, trying to eat more healthily and am starting acupuncture ... only 2 more months to go until we can ttc, i hope ... exciting, but nervous because of the m/c and our age etc.
wishing everyone the very best luck and news ....
Sorry for the long note especially as i'm new, i just wondered whether anyone had any tips or experience of any of these things! i am really trying to think positive and visualise us with a baby, trying to eat more healthily and am starting acupuncture ... only 2 more months to go until we can ttc, i hope ... exciting, but nervous because of the m/c and our age etc.
wishing everyone the very best luck and news ....