would it be unfair?

[LilMama2be]

I'm 17, will be 18 when my precious miracle is born :]
And Me & his/her father are no longer, Nobody knows where he is.
I am pretty sure he's in jail or rehab.. but i have no proof.

Would it be unfair if i had a boyfriend or was dating someone at the time of the birth so the baby has some what of a father figure?
(I wouldn't be dating the person JUST for that reason though) more like just to have someone there because i know the biological father will not be.
and there's chances of me & my ex of 1 yr getting back together, because we just miss each other.
So its not JUST for the baby.

 

[Pyrrhic]

No, it's not unfair but tbh I don't think wanting your baby to have a father figure is a good enough reason on it's own to start dating someone.

It's only my opinion, but I don't believe a child needs a 'father' in their lives. A father figure, yes but that could come from a loving and supportive family, a grandfather, uncle, cousin, etc.

Plus your baby won't remember it's early years so I would say date when you're ready for yourself. Don't rush into it.

 

[.x.Abi&co.x.]

Dating somebody purely for that reason is not harsh on yourself and your baby but also on the guy. You shouldn't really get into a relationship and let this guy bond with your baby if you are not atttracted as he may leave and that will leave your little girl/boy with no father figure...you get what i mean?
xxxx

 

[elmaxie]

I would say its not unfair for you to want to have another relationship with someone other than babies dad, after all it doesnt appear he is exactly wanting to know how things are with you and his unborn child, even if he was in jail or rehab he could still contact you.

If you purely want a relationship so your baby has a father figure I would say it was unfair to all involved. If this is the only reason do you not have a close male friend or relitive who may be willing to spend "man time" with your child as an uncle figure?

If you would like a relationship for yourself and the other person involved then I say go for it! So long as you want to be and will love that person.



Emma.xx

 

[LilMama2be]

I wasn't going to start dating someone just because.
There's this guy i used to be with for like a year, and i think they're chances we might get back together.
Is it fair to the baby if he's there for a father figure, instead of his biological?
i guess whats what i was trying to ask

 

[Carolyn]

i don't see anything wrong with that?

 

[xJG30]

there's loads of people like that chick..
Tom's 'biological' dad never sees Tom and my new fella adores him.. so Tom won't know any different and far as we're bothered.. my new fella is his dad

 

[Jkelmum]

I wasn't going to start dating someone just because.
There's this guy i used to be with for like a year, and i think they're chances we might get back together.
Is it fair to the baby if he's there for a father figure, instead of his biological?
i guess whats what i was trying to ask

Nope go with what makes up happy as happy mum = happy baby and good luck xxx