Baby Bell
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A little back ground.......my friend and I have been best friend since we were 15, we are to be each other's bridesmaids in our forthcoming weddings. My friends wedding is in October 2015 and mine january 2016.
My friend is getting married in a hotel 3hrs away and wants everyone going to the wedding to stay the night before and the night of the wedding (only 34 guests) initially she had said she would be paying for all the guests to stay there, but now (although she's not directly said it). I think they have changed their minds. It's a really nice hotel and I think she is trying to get a group discount, but still out of our normal price range. She's then having a reception in our town on the Saturday. So more money spent on drinks etc. I don't really mind any of this and under other circumstances would be able to save no problem, but we have our own wedding to pay for in the January after.
Anyway she's now set her heart on a hen weekend at Alton towers. Iv already saiid I'm having a quiet henna in dundee cause I can't afford anything more, so she's aware I don't have a lot of money to spend. Would you be mad if you were her and your best friend said she couldn't make her hen weekend, especially with so much warning? I just can't see how we can afford it, that plus it would mean we couldn't even afford yo treat DS to day trips next summer if I did go. iv got a decent enough job but OHs work is messing him around and my wages pretty much are paying for the flat, child are, our wedding all household expenses, and OHs the running of the car, food shop and council tax. And that's our money spent it's just causing me so much stress trying to factor in my friends wedding too. Our wedding is local, so she will just have to pay for drinks and kilt hire for her oh.
My friend is getting married in a hotel 3hrs away and wants everyone going to the wedding to stay the night before and the night of the wedding (only 34 guests) initially she had said she would be paying for all the guests to stay there, but now (although she's not directly said it). I think they have changed their minds. It's a really nice hotel and I think she is trying to get a group discount, but still out of our normal price range. She's then having a reception in our town on the Saturday. So more money spent on drinks etc. I don't really mind any of this and under other circumstances would be able to save no problem, but we have our own wedding to pay for in the January after.
Anyway she's now set her heart on a hen weekend at Alton towers. Iv already saiid I'm having a quiet henna in dundee cause I can't afford anything more, so she's aware I don't have a lot of money to spend. Would you be mad if you were her and your best friend said she couldn't make her hen weekend, especially with so much warning? I just can't see how we can afford it, that plus it would mean we couldn't even afford yo treat DS to day trips next summer if I did go. iv got a decent enough job but OHs work is messing him around and my wages pretty much are paying for the flat, child are, our wedding all household expenses, and OHs the running of the car, food shop and council tax. And that's our money spent it's just causing me so much stress trying to factor in my friends wedding too. Our wedding is local, so she will just have to pay for drinks and kilt hire for her oh.