Would you kindly fuck off please? :)

[amandapanda1]

Attempting to keep this short and stuff...

I'm not with FOB. However I was still bringing Leo up to him and his new girlfriend (he got with her the day after Leo was born!) and all I've had since is shit. His parents have called me up giving me abuse, shouting and waking Leo up when I'd only just settled him... FOB has spun a lot of lies about me.
I've always been as nice as can be, for Leo's sake and acted civil even though it was uncomfortable for me being there, watching him and his new girlfriend trying to play house with OUR son... I even left FOB and his girlfriend, reluctantly, to bond so I could go to the shop to get him formula, and came back to find Leo screaming on the floor, his girlfriend staring at him, and FOB had gone out to smoke a joint...

I was really mad, and told them to leave me alone...I heard nothing for a while until 3 weeks ago, when his girlfriend sent me an abusive text. It basically stated that I needed to get over myself, leave FOB alone and that they were engaged (IT HAD BEEN A BLOODY MONTH!) and that she was gonna be his wife, they're moving away, and she's also pregnant.... so I can guess why he wasn't at the birth! Anyways, I told her to do a pregnancy test for me, and it came back negative. I'm really pissed off as they both rubbed it in my face how they were gonna be a family, and take Leo off me etc. etc.

I'm not happy, I want them both out of our lives, as they make no effort to see the baby unless I bring him to them. So I told them to leave us alone, and now they're saying they'll make the effort and are gonna come down Wednesday...
I just want them gone. :/ I don't need this, Leo doesn't need this and it's stressing me out...

 

[Jem_x3]

There is no way in hell I would be letting FOB's girlfriend "bond" with my son if he were only 2 months old. YOU need to bond with him, and look after yourself. Tell him to do one. Do not let him come to your house, tell him he needs to get some legal representation as you will not be verbally abused by him, his family or his girlfriend. You don't need to put up with it hun, put your foot down.

Make sure you save any abusive text messages or phonecalls. Keep a record. Do not keep taking your 2 month old baby out to see him at his house. If he doesn't want to make the effort then he won't get to see him - simple. You don't need to put yourself in that situation. I know it hurts and you want him to be a dad but to be perfectly honest, he sounds vile. And I'd make him work for it, because that's what he bloody well should be doing! He should be walking over fire to see his son, he should be leaving his girlfriend out of it too. Unbelievable. Get on to the CSA aswell, don't let him keep walking all over you. He should be paying.

If you need to talk PM me, I've been there. I know it's hard. Stay strong for you and your baby he's the only man you need!

 

[jenfirstbaby]

Hi hun,

I totally agree with the previous poster. Tell him your no longer putting up with his abuse and from now on he will have to have contact through some sort of mediator.

It sounds like you'd be better off without them. My sister done the same with her ex,. He was advised by a legal advisor he had to contact my mum instead of my sis, she changed her number etc. He came to see his daughter a few weeks then all of a sudden stopped contact. Hasn't seen her for a year now. He's on Facebook spouting all this shit about getting a lawyer to get custody etc., he's been saying that (not to us,, to his fb friends) for months and nothings ever came of it.

It sounds like ur ex would prob be the same, and it might be better off for U and ur LO if that happened xx

 

[emalou90]

Stop bothering.
See what happens then.
Theres no way you should let your son be with FOB and his girlfriend, especially if he's smoking drugs.

RIDICULOUS.

Draw a line, be civil and dont argue back and stoop to their level.