Would you lie to your doctor about how long you've been TTC?

[Lucinda82]

I have been TTC for five months now (although AF is irregular and cycles are long). I've seen some older posts on here from people who had been TTC for the same amount of time as me but who went to the doctors and lied saying that they had been TTC 12 months so that the doctors listened.

When I read these old posts I immediately felt as though those people are being really selfish pushing ahead of those people who have been patiently TTC for much longer than them...but then the more I think about it the more I am unsure about how I feel...!

I'm a rubbish liar so I don't think I could actually do it and it would just feel wrong to me but I just wanted to know what other people thought about this? Is this something that people do a lot? Surely the doctors can spot a fibber straight away!?

P.S. I know this could be a bit of a controversial one!

 

[littleprinces]

it can take normal couples a year or so to concieve, we have been trying for 9 months on and off, we took a ttc break to reconnect over the summer because it was so stressful. I have found myself thinking if we had to go to the doctor would i tell them we took a break over the summer meaning that we have only tried for 6 cycles, though we did have sex over the summer it wasnt timed. We had a NTNP approach..... probably best to be honest at the end of the day, best thing to do is relax and enjoy the BD, enjoy being together. Try to forget about making a baby, try not to try to hard if that makes sense

 

[katherinegrey]

I personally wouldn't lie unless I had a good reason to, for example, I spot every cycle in my luteal phase and they won't listen to me or run any tests to see what might be causing it just yet, and even then I haven't done it yet and don't think I'll have the guts too, besides I'd much rather conceive naturally so I'm waiting until the 12 month mark personally, so if you're both healthy I would just wait hun, good luck!

 

[Mazzy17]

I couldn't lie, its written all over my face if i do.

 

[Allyson11]

My doctor asked me at least 4 separate times how long we have been ttc because we are dignosed with difficulties and I told the truth, less then the sixth month mark to require referral with PCOS. I just couldn't bring myself to lie when my sister has been trying and has waited 'her turn'. I'd perfectly understand people who do though especially when my doc sometimes asks us what we'd do

 

[Hopingforabub]

I would but i'm hopeless! I'd say something like "we have been trying 12 months now and nothing's happened" and then 10 minutes later if asked how long have you been trying i'd reply "about 4 months so it might just be too soon"

 

[Bunnylicious]

I lied a little bit, but by a month only.
I told my doctor that we'd been seriously TTC for 12 cycles/months, but actually it was 11 cycles.

 

[inpghttc]

Not sure if I would lie but let me share my story...I am 34 and TTC#1, I came off of the pill in June and am in my 6th cycle of trying. I did my research and was concerned something was wrong because every month I spot 4 days before af. I told my OB/GYN about it and she brushed me off like what happened to you. Well, here in the states there are some fertility clinics that are more willing to see women if they think something is wrong and they are at a higher age. I called one in my area because the one my OB/GYN suggested couldn't see me until December and I feel like every month counts now that I am 34 and don't have any children yet. The place I called in my area agreed to see me and so far, I am really happy about that!! They found a bacterial infection that wasn't giving me any symptoms and so I would have never known that I had it!!! I also had multiple bloodwork done and an endometrial biopsy (OUCH) which told them that my progesterone levels ARE low, just as I suspected! I just started clomid yesterday and am having an HSG on Friday to make sure my tubes are clear. I am not sure how old you are and if you have any reason to believe you have any issues, but if you do....I say maybe don't lie, but research places and see if someone will see you! Heck, if I wouldn't have, I would have wasted at least another two cycles with low progesterone and a bacterial infection!

 

[MummaWells]

I wouldn't lie, and didn't, but did manage to get looked after quite quickly because I was complaining of pain: namely VERY painful Os and BAD pain while BD. Doc treated me with a few things, but it didn't go away, so I got bumped up and in for a Lap at only 8 months ttc, along with all the fertility blood work. I guess the pain got me bumped up the fertility help ladder, even though I wasn't trying for that at all... Not complaining at all, but it wasn't my goal. So... lesson for today: if you have any pain, speak up!!

 

[MummaWells]

double posted... woops

 

[Swangrl]

i went for my yealry check up and said i had been trying for 6 months and it had been 5 and she said if i hadnt got pregnant by Jan they would refer me to a specialist. I live in CA and for me its not covered, the testing part might be but thats it so there is no waiting.. We get cleaned out finicially for IVF my friend just went through it and it cost them $100,000 well worth it, but like i said there is no waiting for anyone.. So I think its different for us. I didnt feel bad about lying about a month because the testing takes a very long time her with an HMO..

 

[melfy77]

I did Told my doc we've been trying for 7 months (that was in september), but we were on our 2nd cycle. But so far, no BFP. Thing is, my mother had endometriosis, and I just worry i might have it. So our plan (yes, DH is involved LOL), is to wait another cycle, and then make an appointement (which should take a month to get), so that we roughly have 11 or 12 months of TTC (but 6 months in reality). And then ask for a lap, and check for everything else. We don't want to waste too much time, because yes, I'm ''only'' 26 and DH is almost 22, but tests take time, and even though IVF is now covored, there is maybe 1 year of waiting, maybe more, and we want at least two kids. But hopefully, everything will be fine.

 

[Mrs.B.]

The question the doctor asked me was when did I stop birth control, which is one year on the 15th, but we didnt really start trying until Feb as I knew it would take a while for the pill to come our of system. So no I didnt lie as I answered the question that was worded lol. But then we werent really preventing between Nov and Feb either. Turns out she doesnt think Im ovulating so shes sending me for blood tests.

I think a year is a suitable time to wait tho as many people do fall in those last few months before the year is up so saves wasting their time. But that being sed, I was sure something was wrong with me and then had to wait til the year point to be taken seriously so I do see both sides. But i think not to lie and wait the year off BC xx

 

[MurphyTaylor]

I lied a bit (as most people may guess from the info in my signature below).
My partner and I only used contraception for about a month when we first got together but we weren't trying to concieve when we stopped, we stopped using it just because.
But we've told the dr. we've been trying for over a year... really it's probably only about 7/8 months 'officially'.
We only did it though because we kind of expected me to have gotten pregnant by now due to us not using contraception... it's a bit of a complicated one but, yeah, I reckon there are quite a few people who would lie to the dr.

 

[mommytobe11]

i couldnt lie because i dont want bad karma
even if i ever say something negative about someone, OH always tells me not to be mean because we're trying to get pregnant and we dont want any bad karma.

 

[TheSmpsns]

I have thought about it, but I am a bad liar, and my husband is too. We are on cycle 9, so might as well keep truckin and wait the year (if it doesn't happen by then). As bad as I want answers, I would feel dumb spending the money on testing to try to figure it out, then to find out that nothing was wrong and I should have just waited longer.

 

[Rigi.kun]

it can take normal couples a year or so to concieve, we have been trying for 9 months on and off, we took a ttc break to reconnect over the summer because it was so stressful. I have found myself thinking if we had to go to the doctor would i tell them we took a break over the summer meaning that we have only tried for 6 cycles, though we did have sex over the summer it wasnt timed. We had a NTNP approach..... probably best to be honest at the end of the day, best thing to do is relax and enjoy the BD, enjoy being together. Try to forget about making a baby, try not to try to hard if that makes sense

LittlePrinces unless you used condoms or went back on BCP doctors still count NTNP as part of the TTC period. Because it only takes one determined swimmer to get pregnant.


As for the question: I personally wouldn't lie, but that's just me, what happen if they do the tests and everything is considered 'normal' I know I'd feel kind of silly

 

[Lucinda82]

Hey everyone, thanks so much for sharing your opinions. I think I am going to wait it out for a few more months and go see the docs around month 11. I don't know that I have any reason to be concerned but I just have a feeling deep down that something might not be quite right. I do feel that it's my duty to wait my turn so I guess that's just what I will do. Also, does anyone know if the general requirement is 12 months or 12 cycles ttc?

 

[Mrs.B.]

Hey everyone, thanks so much for sharing your opinions. I think I am going to wait it out for a few more months and go see the docs around month 11. I don't know that I have any reason to be concerned but I just have a feeling deep down that something might not be quite right. I do feel that it's my duty to wait my turn so I guess that's just what I will do. Also, does anyone know if the general requirement is 12 months or 12 cycles ttc?

I told my doc that I came off BC coming up to a year ago, 15 Nov and she aked some questions but none of them were if I had had 12 cycles.
She asked if they were regular, painful or not, heavy, any clots.Whether I have ever been pregnant, or ever had pelvic infection.
I had a list of my lengths and dates since January, but that was just 8 cycles in 11 months xx

 

[beccad]

I wouldn't. I just think it's a waste of publicly-funded resources, because it can take a little while anyway, and for most people it's just a matter of time and patience.

I can understand the frustration, though I had similar thoughts myself, but then got my BFP the very next cycle.