would you phone the police if a neighbours baby was crying?

[catty]

Sorry this stems from a thread I made last night but I cant get it out my head and only got a few hours sleep last night as its really got to me.

Our son was crying for approx 20-30 mins last night. For the first 10 mins of that he was screaming and would have been verry loud. For the next 10-20 mins I was singing lullabies to him, stroking his face and patting him amd he was crying but like any other normal baby would be. Then comes the knock at the door, 3 polivemen saying the neighbours are very concerned as a baby is crying.

Would you do this? I feel like going and telling them they have made me feel so low, its our first night out tonight and I just cant stop crying and dont want to go. I want them to know this, but I probably wont.

Im terrified he crys now and feel like I have to creep around

So is this a normal thing to happen???

 

[sue_88]

I wouldn't, no. I'm too busy with my own life to be concerned with others noise making.

 

[MummyMana]

Babies cry it's a fact of life! I know they were probably just concerned but obviously have no idea about babies :/ sorry you had to go through that!

 

[Pink Flowers]

No it's not a normal thing to do. I think I would if I heard a baby screaming and the parents shouting at it.

when we first moved here O was just under 2 and he screamed and screamed at everything, if you moved he screamed and my old neighbours called SS and said he was in distress, they came round and saw he was find and that was that. But from that day until my neighbour moved out I was scared of O crying or screaming, as I thought they would phone SS. As result O lost all boundaries (he was a lot older). and it has taken until now (his nearly 4) to set them back in stone.

 

[missusgee]

That's awful! Sorry you had to go through this. I would feel both upset and angry! Have you had any issues or arguments with this neighbour?

That's not a normal thing to do. Babies cry, tell them to get used to it. You should definitely confront them and tell them that's not acceptable!

 

[catty]

I guess the bit that upsets me is they must have phoned after about 10 mons as how could the police have got there so quickly. They had told them the baby had been crying for hours and hours which is a lie

 

[Miss_Cellany]

This is crazy! My lo screamed for hours in the evenings for the first month or so. It's getting better now but he still cries a fair bit. It's what babies do sometimes.

I've never heard of someone calling the police about a screaming baby and my DH is a police officer - I hear a lot of stories! Sorry you had to go through this

 

[catty]

No we dont even no which neighbour it is, we have a block of 6 flats the lower floor both have kids so cant have been them. The people right next to us would never call the police as we speak to them every day and there the type that would knock on the door if they thought we needed a hand. So must have been one of the students which is ironic considering I have to listen to their music but have never complained

Must add he is not much of a crier so its not like this has been going on for weeks, this was the first night I tried to crack down on the sleep problems but I dont think il try anything like that again

 

[Hevalouaddict]

This happened to me, my daughter is a head butter and she was head butting her cot on advise we had been told ignore her for 10mins if that doesn't work try controlled crying, after 5 mins someone was unlocking my front door ( I lived in a hostel at this point) I ran to the door panicking and it was a staff member who had had a complaint off a neighbour who claimed my dd had been screaming for an hour, she hadnt been in bed an hour =\ they then told me they would ring social services if my baby cried again. I rang them the next day explaining the situation and giving them my health visitors name to check. They told me they wouldn't get involved and although the neighbour kept ringing the staff I never got a visit from ss.

Some people have nothing better to do than get involved in other people's lives, babies cry I thought everyone knew that. Don't let them get you down x

 

[lozzy21]

While baby's do cry screaming for half an hour means something's wrong. While I'm sure your pissed off think about it this way, they had your child's best interests at heart.

For all they knew something could have happened to you, you could have passed out or something and that's why LO was crying none stop.

 

[catty]

Also forgot to mention there was no shouting, my boyfriend was doing the majority of it and hes a very calm person. When the police came I was in the middle of singing to him. I pray they have a baby thats hard to settle!!!

 

[Pink Flowers]

can I ask why he was crying for half an hour? Henry can cry when I put him to bed sometimes but never that long x

 

[catty]

While baby's do cry screaming for half an hour means something's wrong. While I'm sure your pissed off think about it this way, they had your child's best interests at heart.

For all they knew something could have happened to you, you could have passed out or something and that's why LO was crying none stop.

I do understand they could have been worried but I think it was more the fact they couldnt be bothered listening to the crying anymore and thought a visit from the police would scare us into getting him to be quiet. He did have something wrong with him, he was tired but fights sleep so much that sometimes nothing will soothe him. I think im going to go and see my health visitor for some advice

 

[missusgee]

My LO can cry for aaaaages some nights due either colic, reflux or just being over tired and super grumpy. Sometimes no amount of cuddling, rocking etc will sooth him. In which case I out him down and eventually he'll tire himself out.

I'm sure you were doing everything you could so don't feel judged just because he was crying a long time. You shouldn't have to justify yourself to anyone!

 

[catty]

can I ask why he was crying for half an hour? Henry can cry when I put him to bed sometimes but never that long x

Usually I rock , let him lay with me in my bed, let him stay up until hes tired but this can take until midnight so id decided to put him into his bed and every few mins wed go in and soothe him. It obviously didnt work and I wont be trying it again but it was a failed attempt at me trying to get him to sleep in his cot, he wasnt left for 30 mins however we were in there for most of it with him. (First 5 mins I wasnt)

 

[icklemonster]

That's such a horrible thing to happen, poor you hun
You don't say, but do you already know your neighbours?
Regardless, I would definitely go and knock on the neighbours door. I wouldn't do it in a confrontational way as if they don't know you, then they may think you are an aggressive person which could add fuel to the fire, but just explain how upset you are and ask what they heard, and what motivated them to call the police.
Then maybe you can come up with a resolution
xxx

 

[Emma&Freya]

Thats awful Our Mia will scream in the middle of the night, if shes with Sean will be longer as she screams for me!

Hope your Ok sweetie

 

[special_kala]

While baby's do cry screaming for half an hour means something's wrong. While I'm sure your pissed off think about it this way, they had your child's best interests at heart.

For all they knew something could have happened to you, you could have passed out or something and that's why LO was crying none stop.

This.

 

[catty]

I guess use are right it just makes me worry even more about nightime now as I dread it as it is. Knowing someone can hear everything we do just makes me feel uneasy.

 

[catty]

That's such a horrible thing to happen, poor you hun
You don't say, but do you already know your neighbours?
Regardless, I would definitely go and knock on the neighbours door. I wouldn't do it in a confrontational way as if they don't know you, then they may think you are an aggressive person which could add fuel to the fire, but just explain how upset you are and ask what they heard, and what motivated them to call the police.
Then maybe you can come up with a resolution
xxx

No, I dont no them iv seen them whilst leaving the building and they seem early 20's. I was going to maybe post a letter apologising for the noise but that my son is having a hard time sleeping and he is going through a stage where crying might happen. Just so they dont phone again but I dont know if it will look either rude or cheeky.