Would you say I was wrong to suggest this?

[Abz1982]

Today on the bus there was me adn another buggy so was talking to the other mum as her baby was the same age as Emma. She was asking about if I breast fed and I told her that I do both - BF last thing at night and in the morning then she has formula during the day. And she said how she had been told by her HV that you shouldnt do that.
Now my HV said that it was ok, and especially for the reasons I had - in that she was eating almost non stop all day and I was i pain.
This mum said that her LO was eating almost every hour and that as she had a 6yr old son she had no time to do anything and was getting exhausted and fed up.

So I said to her that she should maybe really think about 50/50 feeding as I have found that I am less stressed, in less pain (as it was painful for me to feed her) and actually have time to do things like the washing etc as Emma will now sleep for 3-4 hours and that there is no way I could have provided the amount of milk she is taking (she can take over 300ml in a feed!)

This mum told me the lenght and weight of her baby and it was the same length as Emma, but it was 3lbs lighter - and to be honest it did look a lot skinnier than Emma - but even at nearly 14lbs Emma is not fat at all.

My sis said that I was bad to suggest to this lady she try 50/50 feeding. But why? I never said she HAD to do it. I just said that I was in a similar situation (minus the 6yr old ) and that it worked for me and that I had a ver yhappy and healthy baby and that my HV had said that it was perfectly fine.

 

[Vickie]

I don't think it was wrong of you to give your experiences to her. She can make of it what she will and decide for herself what is the best course of action

 

[Abz1982]

Thats what I said! I only gave her my experience.

However, I am hoping she was joking when she said her HV had told her she cant/shouldn't 50/50 feed.

 

[dippy dee]

i think you did right hun, you gave her your opinion as a mummy and the way i see it is that you may of helped this lady to continue bf for longer with your advise cause she could of thought o well get the bottles out but now she knows that she has another option to try and if 50/50 works for her then she may well go on to bf her baby for months.
Good on you for listening to her and giving advise to a fellow mom xx

 

[Bingo]

This lady asked what you do and you shared your experience which is wonderful of you. You've done nothing wrong in suggesting she might try the same.

 

[techi_girly]

Theres nothing wrong with that hun, I spoke to a BF counciller yesterday as Oliver is getting very fussy so was thinking of weaning onto bottles and she said lots of mums feed thier babies both and if I wanted I could feed all formula and BF a day if that was right for me, as Bingo said you were simply sharing your experience with the lady and she was prob very grateful for that.

 

[Logiebear]

I agree with the others. Sharing your experience is fine. I just hope she looks into it further befor she does it so she understands the cons about 50/50 feeding. But that is up to her xxx