Wow! Seriously, how do you do it?

[Lena]

Just wanted to stop by and give my utmost respect for single parents. DH has been away for a week for work and I have been on my own with LO and Oh.... my..... god.... is it hard! Im busy every moment of everyday, even when he's asleep, Im tidying and doing stuff for the next day. Its so hard to keep the house clean, him clean, meals cooked, get his naps, do his bath on my own... just everything. I am a SAHM as it is, but DH comes home at lunchtime and usually he takes LO so i can tidy the house up and get ready to go out for the afternoon. Then when he gets home from work he takes LO and i cook dinner and get a break. I've just bought a load of healthy choice ready meals from M&S because i really don't have the energy to cook after running around after him all day. He's crawling and climbing on everything at the moment so i really can't leave him alone for even 1 second.

You mummies are soooooo amazing! I am convinced you have the hardest job in the entire world.

 

[kelzyboo]

It gets easier as you get used to it, i had no help from day one so its all i know really, you do work out how to find time for yourself as you go along lol

All SAHM's have a hard job, partner or not its still you on your own most of the time, you just get more oppertunity for a break with a partner lol it helps to have a supportive family really which i do have, having a child with ASD is hard work!

Sounds like your doing a great job while he's away, all mummy's deserve much respect wether you have a partner or not, your still amazing xx

 

[Lena]

Awwwwe, your so sweet kelzyboo. I suppose it is a struggle anyways because we have NO family around so DH is my ONLY break. DH's parents live hours away and all my family live in a different country. I'm glad you have a supportive family. Your daughter is soooo beautiful, all the best for the rest of your pregnancy. xxx

 

[kelzyboo]

Wow that must be hard having no family nearby!! I don't have a partner but i couldn't do it without my family to be honest, its so much easier when you have support from somewhere there are plenty that do it with no support at all, i don't mind admitting i couldn't cope without it lol

Glad your DH gives you a break, its priceless that little bit of peace time without worrying what they're up to now lol xx

 

[whoops]

I'm just glad I only have to look after LO and me... couldn't manage to look after a bloke as well

 

[Surreal]

I'm just glad I only have to look after LO and me... couldn't manage to look after a bloke as well

I'm with Whoops on this one! I'll stick to raising one baby -- Lord knows I have plenty of practice raising the last one! My ex!

 

[bloodbinds]

I don't know how you do it! Lol. Having to chase after a baby as well as tidy up after a man, deal with him farting, stealing the tv remote, refusing to do the night feeds as he has work in the morning, hogging the bed covers, only playing with LO for 10 minutes and thinks that means his duty as dad is done! Lol. We single mums have it easy really!! Lol.

Seriously though, i have no idea if it's 'hard' as i've never known any different, it's just normal in my eyes and i love getting my baby all to myself!

 

[Newdreemz]

Yea, it really does get easier after you do it for awhile. Its like it becomes a routine. Been raising my two alone since day one myself. Well, of course grandma helps so its not TOO BAD. but you adjust.

Only thing that really sucks is when you realize you haven't talked to another adult in like MONTHS. lol. I am sooo used to talking to my 8 year old! Its really sad. but they really do keep me company.

Hugs for all the mommies.

 

[Marzipan_girl]

I don't know how you do it! Lol. Having to chase after a baby as well as tidy up after a man, deal with him farting, stealing the tv remote, refusing to do the night feeds as he has work in the morning, hogging the bed covers, only playing with LO for 10 minutes and thinks that means his duty as dad is done! Lol. We single mums have it easy really!! Lol.

Seriously though, i have no idea if it's 'hard' as i've never known any different, it's just normal in my eyes and i love getting my baby all to myself!

I don't know what or who you're basing that on but clearly not all OH's are like that. I know from experience what i'd prefer--and being a single mum is HORRIBLE and lonely compared to being with my OH. Me and OH split when I was pregnant but got back together when LO was a few weeks old and now i've moved in with him. Obviously if your OH is as you've described, then it wouldn't be worth it, but my OH is amazing. He works his arse off for us, and there is nothing I look forward to more than him coming in every evening and giving us a kiss, and my LO's face lighting up when he see's his daddy. And OH then cooking for us whilst I sort LO into bed. And then us both snuggling down for the evening, cuddling and talking about our worries, laughing, watching a movie etc.
Don't assume all OH's are crap.

Edit: we broke nup because the pregnancy was unexpected and he couldn't cope with it at first. But he said he's stick by me, and saw me every week and was there with me at the birth. He wanted to be a good father, and then realised how stupid he was being and realised he loved me too and thats why we got back together.

 

[Lena]

^Not quite sure the girls in the Single Parenting section appreciate you coming in and bragging about how great your OH is.

 

[Surreal]

Don't assume all OH's are crap.

Not all OH's are crap, but, given the section your in, where most of the women here the men left for *good*, and didn't give a crap about their children... ? Yeah...

And if you read the jist of her post, she's joking, so don't assume she's being serious. Just like I am in my previous post.

I'm glad your relationship worked out, and your not lonely and having a horrible experience; but some of us know we would be worse off back in our previous relationships, then we are as single mothers. I am a *much* happier person, then I was in the abusive marriage I escaped from.

 

[lou_w34]

I don't know how you do it! Lol. Having to chase after a baby as well as tidy up after a man, deal with him farting, stealing the tv remote, refusing to do the night feeds as he has work in the morning, hogging the bed covers, only playing with LO for 10 minutes and thinks that means his duty as dad is done! Lol. We single mums have it easy really!! Lol.

Seriously though, i have no idea if it's 'hard' as i've never known any different, it's just normal in my eyes and i love getting my baby all to myself!

I don't know what or who you're basing that on but clearly not all OH's are like that. I know from experience what i'd prefer--and being a single mum is HORRIBLE and lonely compared to being with my OH. Me and OH split when I was pregnant but got back together when LO was a few weeks old and now i've moved in with him. Obviously if your OH is as you've described, then it wouldn't be worth it, but my OH is amazing. He works his arse off for us, and there is nothing I look forward to more than him coming in every evening and giving us a kiss, and my LO's face lighting up when he see's his daddy. And OH then cooking for us whilst I sort LO into bed. And then us both snuggling down for the evening, cuddling and talking about our worries, laughing, watching a movie etc.
Don't assume all OH's are crap.

Edit: we broke nup because the pregnancy was unexpected and he couldn't cope with it at first. But he said he's stick by me, and saw me every week and was there with me at the birth. He wanted to be a good father, and then realised how stupid he was being and realised he loved me too and thats why we got back together.

wow

Chill out....

Im pretty sure she was not saying 'all OH's are crap blah blah blah' She was just making light of a situation, saying she finds being a single parent easy. She was joking

And it really is not very fair to come into a single parent section and say how wonderful your OH is... perhaps saying that in a different part of the forum would be better!

Oh and edited to say: That being a single mum is not always 'HORRIBLE' and lonely... its what you make of it. You have to make the best of the situation you are in. Not all single mums find it such a 'horrible' experience.

 

[bloodbinds]

I don't know how you do it! Lol. Having to chase after a baby as well as tidy up after a man, deal with him farting, stealing the tv remote, refusing to do the night feeds as he has work in the morning, hogging the bed covers, only playing with LO for 10 minutes and thinks that means his duty as dad is done! Lol. We single mums have it easy really!! Lol.

Seriously though, i have no idea if it's 'hard' as i've never known any different, it's just normal in my eyes and i love getting my baby all to myself!

I don't know what or who you're basing that on but clearly not all OH's are like that. I know from experience what i'd prefer--and being a single mum is HORRIBLE and lonely compared to being with my OH. Me and OH split when I was pregnant but got back together when LO was a few weeks old and now i've moved in with him. Obviously if your OH is as you've described, then it wouldn't be worth it, but my OH is amazing. He works his arse off for us, and there is nothing I look forward to more than him coming in every evening and giving us a kiss, and my LO's face lighting up when he see's his daddy. And OH then cooking for us whilst I sort LO into bed. And then us both snuggling down for the evening, cuddling and talking about our worries, laughing, watching a movie etc.
Don't assume all OH's are crap.

Edit: we broke nup because the pregnancy was unexpected and he couldn't cope with it at first. But he said he's stick by me, and saw me every week and was there with me at the birth. He wanted to be a good father, and then realised how stupid he was being and realised he loved me too and thats why we got back together.

Haha, posting that on a singles thread - badddd idea. And not at all nice. Tut tut. Here comes the lynch mob.

I was just trying to have a bit of a joke and laugh, try and lighten up a little. I had a bad experience with my FOB, so naturally i'm a little more anti-men than you would be. However my BIL is amazing and a wonderful father and husband, so i do know that all OHs aren't as bad as i made out.

And i'm sorry that your experience of being a single mum was HORRIBLE, but for me it's pretty AMAZING. I guess some people just cope better than others

 

[Wobbles]

After a concern raised and after reviewing the discussion I think it is probably best closed. Ladies who are currently going through difficult times who use the single parenting section to reach out to others who have been or are going through the same motions may not be so understanding to the post (which I'm sure was not meant with any badness) ...as we can see already.

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