WTT with a view to TTC in Sept/Oct/Nov - looking for a TTC buddy!

[mazndave]

Hey everyone,

Well, I'm in a bad place today, feel like crying

Someone I know has just told me that they're a week late for their period. Now normally I'd be happy for somone, but not this person! They have spent the past 3 years arguing with their OH about how she doesn't want more kids, they even practically came to blows over it! They nearly split up over it. Anyway, she has spent the last 2 or 3 months asking me when I'm going to start TTC, and it's always felt as though she was fishing for information, like she wanted to make sure she beat me to it! I know this sounds really paranoid, but she did the same with her wedding, booked it 2 months before mine (waaay after mine was sorted) and 4 months before someone else we know, and at the same venue (she had been with her fella only a year, and they argued constantly!)

I know it could be a coincidence, but you'd have to know her to understand how certain I am that she's done this on purpose because she thinks everyone else is trying, or they have recently had a baby/got pregnant (we mutually know 6 or 7 people in this position) She has to have what everyone else has (even to the point if someones ill, she's got the same, seriously!)

She REALLY did not want a baby before AT ALL! And then suddenly after asking me when I'm trying, this happens? She reckons she forgot to take a pill, but she religiously takes them every day (I've seen her) so how likely is that. And does that even happen anyway, if you forget to take one? I've had a strange inkling for a while that she's not been taking them.

I probably sound so bitchy for being annoyed/upset about it, but honestly I just feel sorry for the poor baby (if she is preggo), it's not wanted, it's just a bloody accessory that everyone else has got and she wants to match!! She can't stand her husband, and can't look after the kid she's already got, so this one will likely be palmed off on relatives once the novelty has worn off and she's bored of it!!

Really sorry for the long rant on here ladies, it's just that I'm so upset today and nobody else knows I'm TTC apart from hubby, nobody else to moan about it to!

 

[Emz1982_in_uk]

I know it's frustrating but try not to worry about it. It will happen for you when the time is right and she may not even be pregnant yet. But yes, I know two people who used the pill and both got pregnant through forgetting/being ill, so it can happen.

Just concentrate on you and your OH and let her get on with it. It was your first cycle trying and stressing about things won't help your cause. Try not to let people like her annoy you. When you get your BFP it will be one of the greatest moments in your life and you will cherish your subsequent pregnancy and bubba at the end of it.

You never know, you might both end up having LO's at the same time and it might bring you closer? Just take one day at a time

 

[PreshFest]

Hey ladies! I hope you are all doing well. I am not 3dpo and I've managed to still remain calm! It was about this time last month when I started going crazy, and I think I took my first test at 4dpo...insane. So I'm pretty proud of myself I'll test one week from tomorrow.

 

[almosthere]

GL PRESHFEST!

And maz I know EXACTLY how you feel, although my story ended sadly, as my best friend got an A...I don't even want to type the word as I am very against it in most all situations...I felt so much paint from it, so as much as you want it to be your special time, be happy because you can have a friend around the same age as your little bundle when he/she comes, just think of all the positives!

AFM I am going to the store with DH for clearblue digi opks....I just have to make it work this time, omg I just don't know how much longer I can handle this waiting game! I just told DH how ttc is harder than my hardest semester in college, which is right now, ugh! I am dying to wait to O, can you imagine how I will be for my tww? OMG! haha

 

[sunshine82]

hey ladies, hope you are all ok. I feeling better in myself but i have been getting more symptoms today and I thought i'd test- im only 7dpo so what was i thinking- now feel because of course it was bfn! its one of the 10mui internet cheapy tests but i thought they are meant to pick up really early! Im not doing anymore now until at least 12dpo! Dont know why I did that, definately feeling more symptoms or maybe its just coincidental to this bug i have had.
Sorry for moaning and know im not out yet.
Hugs xx

 

[almosthere]

GL Sunshine! Way too early to know right now!

 

[sunshine82]

Thanks Almostthere, yes agree its too early to be anything really, just such an uncomfortable pain, hope it eases off lol! x

 

[BabyBumpHope]

Mazndave - sending hugs.

Good luck to everyone else and hope you are all ok


Well, I'm now CD21 and 9-10DPO and started spotting yesterday (TMI alert). Went to the loo and noticed pinky browny streaks on the loo paper? Has now stopped though?? *Do you think that means I'm out? This is my second cycle after stopping BCP. From my withdrawal bleed to first AF was a cycle length of 26 days. I know my hormones will be all over the place but a cycle length of 20-21 days seems too short? I've had on off cramping since ovulation.

Really don't know what to think?

Any ideas girls?

X

 

[miss malteser]

From my withdrawal bleed to first AF was a cycle length of 26 days. I know my hormones will be all over the place but a cycle length of 20-21 days seems too short? I've had on off cramping since ovulation.

Really don't know what to think?

I think the length of the luteal phase (Ovulation-AF) is more than important than the length of the whole cycle. 14 days is best but I´ve read that anything above 10 days isn´t too bad. So, although you´re spotting today, AF may not arrive for another couple of days (I´ve recently been spotting for 2 days) which would make your luteal phase 11-12 days which isn´t too bad at all.

I´ve had two cycles since coming off BCP and I´ve no idea about the first cycle as I didn´t temp or use OPKs but in my second cycle my luteal phase was only 10 days.

Or.....it could be implantation bleeding! Here´s hoping!! x

 

[Soniamillie01]

Agree with miss malteser. I think the Luteal phase is more important, generally they say 14 days but anything 10-14 is sufficient to implant, anything less and may have difficult implanting but have also read that endo tissue quality is more important. Not sure on my first cycle in terms of l phase, 28 day cycle but second one was only 9 days. I'm going to monitor till Xmas and if no improvement will take b6 to try and increase it. Other option is to take soy isoflavones to bring on ovulation and adding the days gained to the Luteal phase - well that's the theory!

Sorry been quite. I'm so busy at work with our national conference next week which somehow has turned into my event! Back and forth to London daily is not nice

I'm now cd8/9 and have had some sticky cm today but - opk, although v v v faint line so guess on it's way we were due to bd every other day from menses finish but haven't been home till late and DH normally asleep so hope to get back to normal soon.

Good luck all x x x

 

[almosthere]

Hi ladies, how is everyone doing, anymore BFP's to be announced?! I started taking OPK's after my period ended, it was a short 2 days of spotting and 2 days of light flow. Here are my OPK's, first one was my first day after my period ended which was at 8pm, the second was last night at 7pm. Today I am on CD 5. Does the second line look really dark for me only being on cd 5?! Hope I will OV on DH birthday, the 16th!

 

[Soniamillie01]

Hi hun. It is very visible but definitely negative, I wouldn't say too dark as mine were like that last month, I would say that you may ovulate early ish x

 

[almosthere]

Yes I know they are not positive, but I would love to O early this month! Weird thing happend just now, when I wiped in the bathroom, I had pretty dark pink, hmm....and I had very painful shooting cramps in my V a couple hours prior to this incident not sure what is going on =( Hoping it is just pink from a tear as we had sex last night and the night before....hmmm

 

[Soniamillie01]

Oh hope your ok as hope it shifts x

 

[almosthere]

I think/am hoping it is just from BD last night, I have a very sensitive V

 

[MissBroody]

It definitely looks like it's going to be turning positive in the next few days!! Did you say you had a 25 day cycle the first time round? Which would put your ovulation at around CD 11? So if you're CD 5 then it makes sense - it should be a really dark positive 24-48 hours before O, so in the next couple of days get BD'ing!!

Xx

 

[almosthere]

Hi ladies. So I ran out of my dollar store cheapies and bought the CVS opk strips. The line is very, very light! So I am not sure if they were darker with the dollar store because the dollar store ones were more sensitive, or if it is just because it is a different brand I am using. Here is a pic if it helps try to figure this all out!

Oh yes, also, I took this OPK 2 hours earlier (5:45) than the other two, so perhaps that could make a difference? And also, oddly enough (as what I have learned with OPKS afternoon/night urine is better than FMU), the opks I bought say to use FMU, what?! hmm!

 

[Emz1982_in_uk]

MissB how r u feeling? X

Can somebody explain the OPK's. I know they tell you when you're ovulating but what do light/dark lines mean? I'm not planning on using any but am curious about what you're all talking about lol

 

[almosthere]

No line or a light line means you are not about to OV. However, if you get a line the same color as the control, or darker than the control, you are 24-36 hrs away from ov!

 

[PreshFest]

Ugh. I had pms mood swings yesterday. Pretty sure af is on her way. Now I'm debating if I should even test or just wait for af