Yes, stranger, I am pregnant - please do stare!

[OhMJH]

Bit of a ranty one but please tell me I'm not alone in loathing the stares being pregnant comes with. I'm 20, and pregnant with my first but have always looked a few years you get than I actually am which probably doesn't help things but my god, people like to look and pass comment!

As if trying not to keel over in this heat wasn't bad enough, I am bombarded daily by people staring at my bump, then my face, then my bump, doing a full 180 when I walk past them and other lovely things - I was even told by a woman serving me in Sainsburys the other day that I'm 'far too young to be a parent'. I'm so very tempted to get myself a t-shirt saying something along the lines of 'yes, I'm pregnant, no, it isn't any of your business' written across it. It seems like pregnancy is a perfect excuse for people to be downright nosey and rude. Has anyone got any tips for dealing with the oh-so lovely onlookers?

 

[cookette]

I would have just winked at them and said "If only you knew how young I REALLY was!"

 

[Rcx]

That's shocking!! I never understand people's rudeness!
I get the "are you sure there aren't two in there" comments constantly, I feel like telling them to F off lol. Honestly, don't you think that at nearly 27 weeks they would know if I was having twins!!

 

[pLadyBug]

That's a big fat yes! For some reason people lose all boundaries of person space and their own tongues when they see pregnant people. Unlike you I am not on my first so people see me with my kids and feel the need to stop and ask me, are they all yours? So annoying. I get a lot of dumb ones but the one above is currently my favorite.

 

[immie]

Yes yes yes! I am young too and pregnant with my sexond, I was in tesco yesterday deciding which pizza to buy and this bloody stupid woman kept looking me up and down and turned around like twice just to gawk a bit more at my tummy! It infuriates me! I felt like turning around and saying 'look love, it's not my problem that I'm 6 months pregnant and still half your size, no need to stare though back fat betty!' Because to be fair, she was pretty huge! Suppose that's a bit of a low blow though. But I definitely feel you on this one!

 

[N27murray]

That's shocking!! I never understand people's rudeness!
I get the "are you sure there aren't two in there" comments constantly, I feel like telling them to F off lol. Honestly, don't you think that at nearly 27 weeks they would know if I was having twins!!

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.....I've also had this comment, but from a coworker. Oh and my mil driving me nuts saying "see, I told you she's actually a month ahead...look how big she is...theres no way she's going all the way to her due date" . Yes she said all that to my grandmother in law with me sitting right there! Hmmm I actually know when I got pregnant...and no, I'm not off by a MONTH! So don't say u knew I was pregnant in November when I KNOW I didn't conceive until late December.

I haven't had any crazy comments or stares from strangers (that I know of) but people I know have sure had some crazy things to say.

 

[mommy2be1003]

Yup I used to get those stares all the time when I was pregnant with my daughter, and I was 23 when I had her, yet a lot of people say I look like a teenager still. I can't imagine what they will think once my bump grows while I also have a toddler around my leg too lol

 

[Gizzyy]

I got this a few times but now I'm just past caring.

 

[Yo_Yo]

How rude!

My poor sister (11 yrs younger than me) is only 17 (no kids ) and when she takes my kids out for me, she gets dirty looks and comments. One actually came up and asked of she was their mum!

People like that will always look for someone to look down their noses at, and it says more about them than you.

 

[shelleyzeus]

I had it with my first pregnancy and i was 20 then and i get it now and im now 30 but still look young (still get id for alchol before i got pregnant)
When i go shopping now with my two girls and my big bump i get people looking at me like im discusting but ive learnt just to ignore it.

 

[Hoping4Four]

I get all sorts of comments. "You look far too young to have so many kids" or "hang on, how old ARE you?!". You wouldn't ask that to an older mum so why is it socially acceptable to belittle younger parents? Age is irrelevant!!

 

[Kezzybear]

I'm 32 but I look 22 and people always look at my bump and then at my face with judging eyes! I'm not yet married but engaged and people think they have a right to say "oh you're not married yet? And having a baby first? Oh....I guess it's a new age"

Fek off! So annoying! I'm so hormonal that I'm pretty sure ill Start vocalizing my irritation soon.
I remember when my sil was pregnant and yelled at someone in the shop "do you want to get your phone out and take a picture?! It lasts longer!!" I couldn't believe it, but now I know how she feels!! Lol

 

[jhughes0709]

I was 19 when I was pregnant w/ my first. I was 20 when I had him. And I got lots of comments. I still get comments now and I'm 27! I have always looked younger than my age. Just try to ignore them. Some people have no tact. If we don't have our boys with us everyone just assumes that this is our first baby lol The look of shock on their face when I tell them it's our 3rd...priceless...it gets even better when I say '3rd boy...' haha Enjoy your pregnancy. It's such a precious time!

 

[Gizzyy]

I'm 32 but I look 22 and people always look at my bump and then at my face with judging eyes! I'm not yet married but engaged and people think they have a right to say "oh you're not married yet? And having a baby first? Oh....I guess it's a new age"

Fek off! So annoying! I'm so hormonal that I'm pretty sure ill Start vocalizing my irritation soon.
I remember when my sil was pregnant and yelled at someone in the shop "do you want to get your phone out and take a picture?! It lasts longer!!" I couldn't believe it, but now I know how she feels!! Lol

I'm also engaged but not married as we haven't got the money for our wedding yet but people do tend to look down on you a little.. Especially if you're a single mum. Kind of sucks but it's unfortunately true because people tend to always 'assume' that the pregnancy wasn't planned, it was a one night stand ect.. but I suppose if you worried what you thought people were thinking about you, you'd go insane.

 

[qe76]

I was 18 when I was pregnant with my first- ( now 38 pregnant with my second!)
I still went to church every sunday with my first- Oh Im sure people looked but I didn't give a shit lol - My Son's father was the one who took off- I stepped up as a mom and have done a great job-
there are perks to being a young mom- like lots of energy and less old age pain lol and there are perks to being an older mom- just simple wisdom for being older..
things you can only learn from living-
both are great- age doesn't make you a great mom- who you are does-
my first son's father is still an asshole- 20 years hasn't helped him any- he abandoned his second kid too- now does lots of drugs and lives off much much older rich women.
So yeah- age doesn't equal good parenting..

Just smile at people who say stupid stuff-

 

[hannah berry]

yes i had the same thing im married and i can't wear my rings due to swelling but i look young like 18 or so due to asian gens. today a woman at the blood place kept staring at me when i was taking my glucose test. then she said to her friend that its a shame that young people are getting pregnant when they should be in school. i wanted to stab her in the head i had been sitting there for 2 hours and i was sick of the stares and comments!!!!

 

[Meljenn]

I confess. I caught myself judging pregnant bellies. I am 16 weeks and no bump so I stare at others bumps wondering how far along they are. Now I feel like I should explain myself if I get caught lol

 

[AMB1216]

I've just started getting stares, I'm kind of at the is she pregnant or fat? (I am a bit overweight still even thought I've lost a good amount just from pregnancy) but I feel like my tummy is definite bump since it's pretty round and higher than a "fat pouch" It makes me a little self conscience and I start rubbing my bump or placing a hand on it. Which Probably brings in more attention, I think the only reason I am kind of iffy on it now is because I'm not noticeably pregnant. I think when its obvious I probably won't mind the stares because well I do the same thing. I stare at Big pregnant bellies with awe, I try not to make it noticeable though. Definately have not had any strangers ask about my belly (again because they are trying to decide pregnant or fat xD) I am married but I also look 15 so I'm sure that's got some curious eyes.

 

[Unexpected212]

The other day an old man shook his head and tutted at my bump and It made me cry!! I hate people sometimes.

 

[staceymxxx]

I'm 25 and before i was pregnant i got asked for i.d all time so i think its put years on me lol! But... i'm sick of people smiling at my belly then looking up and smiling at me, its so obvious and freaky!