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yet another friend is pregnant... when will it happen to me?

I don't really feel jealous, I am happy for them...but sometime I feel that maybe I am doing something wrong...It makes me question myself. Last night I found out from my DH that friends are pregnant with their 2nd son...they went the IUI route straight away...it made me feel like maybe we needed to get more proactive about this...and that I needed to stop procrastinating the testing and interventions route, etc...
The first step in testing is usually the male partner to have a SA done. Easy peasy. That's where I'm at so far. I have to wait until August til my specialist appt but hoping to get blood tests for hormones, ultrasound / pelvic exam to find anything obvious (such as ovarian cysts, but my GP already did a pelvic at my annual physical) etc before moving on to more invasive testing.
 
He has an appt on Monday but now we are thinking of rescheduling since he used the hot tub at the conference hotel the other day...
 
He has an appt on Monday but now we are thinking of rescheduling since he used thle hot tub at the conference hotel the other day...


:dohh:
I bet you were annoyed at him!!
did you call and ask if it alters the test?
 
No...I have not called...asked him to reschedule the appt but I don't know if he did....
 
My DH and I have been TTC for 2 years so alot of my old TTC friends have had their babys some which are now toddlers ,and I am completely happy for them, I have to say the only time I really got upset/jealous is when a friend of mine who was TTC got pregnant then her marriage went downhill and she told me she dident want the baby anymore and wanted to try and cause a M/C by stopping her progesterone the doctor had prescribed. just because her husband was mistreating her. I understand that even women who TTC can have times of doubt when they are going though pregnancy but I dont understand wanting to M/C after months of TTC.


I had lost hope of it ever happening for us last year and then I got a surprise BFP in october which ended in M/C. which gave me hope we can still conceive.

I will also keep a good attitude like you :thumbup:. The story about your friend is sad. So what happened to the baby? did she have a MC?
Good luck to you!!!! lots of baby dust your way!!!:baby::baby:


Thank you , she was suppost to continue the progesterone until 13 weeks and stopped taking it at 11 weeks,
luckily she did carry to term anyway and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on easter weekend.
she ended up leaving her abusive husband and moving back to her hometown.
we dont speak anymore because she informed me she does not care to hear about my TTC woes.
Good luck to you as well.:dust::dust:
 
it is absolutely ok to feel jealous, im exactly the same.Every time i hear that someone is pregnant i could :cry:, every magazine i read some celeb is pregnant too. We have to stay positive !!!

Good Luck :dust:
 
Thank you , she was suppost to continue the progesterone until 13 weeks and stopped taking it at 11 weeks,
luckily she did carry to term anyway and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on easter weekend.
she ended up leaving her abusive husband and moving back to her hometown.
we dont speak anymore because she informed me she does not care to hear about my TTC woes.
Good luck to you as well.:dust::dust:

Wow, that's definitely not a friend you need. I'm sure I've bored a few of my girlfriends with the talk about TTC (I see their eyes glaze over! Esp the single ones!) but not one would refuse to listen to me. :hugs:

Indigo He went in a hot tub?!?! What was he thinking! I'd kick my DH's butt if he did that. He really misses his hot baths but too bad!:haha:
 
Thank you , she was suppost to continue the progesterone until 13 weeks and stopped taking it at 11 weeks,
luckily she did carry to term anyway and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on easter weekend.
she ended up leaving her abusive husband and moving back to her hometown.
we dont speak anymore because she informed me she does not care to hear about my TTC woes.
Good luck to you as well.:dust::dust:

Wow, that's definitely not a friend you need. I'm sure I've bored a few of my girlfriends with the talk about TTC (I see their eyes glaze over! Esp the single ones!) but not one would refuse to listen to me. :hugs:

Indigo He went in a hot tub?!?! What was he thinking! I'd kick my DH's butt if he did that. He really misses his hot baths but too bad!:haha:

She was bipolar and I think that had to do with some of the rudeness. I am over it now .:hugs:
 
one of my closest friends just called me to tell me the great news. She is expecting a baby! she is 7 weeks this week... they started trying last month and voila! it is so frustrating to go through 6 months of TTC and nothing happening... while all of my friends are either having babies or raising kids. Don't get me wrong, I am very happy for her and her husband (she is btw, getting married this weekend) but it just makes me nervous, even jealous (s it ok to feel jealous?):sadangel:
any one out there feeling the same? :cry:


I completely understand how you feel. My DH have been TTC for years and nothing, my SIL goes off BC in December and gets a BFP in January. I'm happy for them but also jealous. Its so unfair and she keeps joking about how quick it happened for them and here I plod along month after month, negative after negative. I don't understand why it has to be so easy for some yet so very hard for others. My MIL is the worst too, she blames me and says she doesn't understand my "priorities", apparently unexplained infertility is a choice I made. Had to delete my FB account because I couldn't handle any more sonogram and baby bump pics. Its hard enough to go through it but when your family and friends aren't supportive its even worse.
 
I completely understand how you feel. My DH have been TTC for years and nothing, my SIL goes off BC in December and gets a BFP in January. I'm happy for them but also jealous. Its so unfair and she keeps joking about how quick it happened for them and here I plod along month after month, negative after negative. I don't understand why it has to be so easy for some yet so very hard for others. My MIL is the worst too, she blames me and says she doesn't understand my "priorities", apparently unexplained infertility is a choice I made. Had to delete my FB account because I couldn't handle any more sonogram and baby bump pics. Its hard enough to go through it but when your family and friends aren't supportive its even worse.

For the past 7 years, I've heard my MIL telling DH & I that we aren't having anymore kids, that I should be happy with what I have. I mean seriously? It's not that I'm not happy with what I have, I just want kids! I think she secretly blames me for my sons premature birth & complications........heck, I kinda blame myself too.
Last cycle the day I got AF (seriously within 30 minutes, no lie!) my SIL called DH to tell him she was pregnant with her 3rd. I cried for hours :cry:

We're not telling anyone that we are TTC. Honestly, I don't want to hear the nasty comments from the in laws
 
one of my closest friends just called me to tell me the great news. She is expecting a baby! she is 7 weeks this week... they started trying last month and voila! it is so frustrating to go through 6 months of TTC and nothing happening... while all of my friends are either having babies or raising kids. Don't get me wrong, I am very happy for her and her husband (she is btw, getting married this weekend) but it just makes me nervous, even jealous (s it ok to feel jealous?):sadangel:
any one out there feeling the same? :cry:


I completely understand how you feel. My DH have been TTC for years and nothing, my SIL goes off BC in December and gets a BFP in January. I'm happy for them but also jealous. Its so unfair and she keeps joking about how quick it happened for them and here I plod along month after month, negative after negative. I don't understand why it has to be so easy for some yet so very hard for others. My MIL is the worst too, she blames me and says she doesn't understand my "priorities", apparently unexplained infertility is a choice I made. Had to delete my FB account because I couldn't handle any more sonogram and baby bump pics. Its hard enough to go through it but when your family and friends aren't supportive its even worse.

How are you doing SnowyBaby? How is TTC going? :hugs: to you and hope everything is going well!

well, I found out the other day that my cousin is pregnant also... and also she wasn't trying.. she is not married or anything... and she asks me "when are you going to make my uncle a granpa?? isn't it time??" I swear I wanted to scream!!! but I didn't :growlmad:
 
I completely understand how you feel. My DH have been TTC for years and nothing, my SIL goes off BC in December and gets a BFP in January. I'm happy for them but also jealous. Its so unfair and she keeps joking about how quick it happened for them and here I plod along month after month, negative after negative. I don't understand why it has to be so easy for some yet so very hard for others. My MIL is the worst too, she blames me and says she doesn't understand my "priorities", apparently unexplained infertility is a choice I made. Had to delete my FB account because I couldn't handle any more sonogram and baby bump pics. Its hard enough to go through it but when your family and friends aren't supportive its even worse.

For the past 7 years, I've heard my MIL telling DH & I that we aren't having anymore kids, that I should be happy with what I have. I mean seriously? It's not that I'm not happy with what I have, I just want kids! I think she secretly blames me for my sons premature birth & complications........heck, I kinda blame myself too.
Last cycle the day I got AF (seriously within 30 minutes, no lie!) my SIL called DH to tell him she was pregnant with her 3rd. I cried for hours :cry:

We're not telling anyone that we are TTC. Honestly, I don't want to hear the nasty comments from the in laws

sorry to hear that your in laws are driving you crazy.. how are you doing these days?
:hugs:
 

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