You teen mummies!

[Babydance]

Hello ladies

I was just thinking alot of you teen mummies/mummies to be get alot of flack for being young having babies and the stereo typical stigma that goes with it...assuming youre all thought-less, self centred, alcho pop loving, smokers and will live of benifits for the rest of your lives without trying to better yourselves?! lol ofcourse not!!

So i thought it'd be nice for you to explain your situation?

Im a tween lol i met DH when i was 15, bought out first detached house at 18, got engaged at 21 and married at 22 (fully paid for by us) and had LO at 23. We work hard, have no debts cos of this, we're fortunate enough to have 2 cars in the drive and can go holidays when we fancy (not so much now LO is here!) and even though im not a teen now i still get dirty looks when im out on my own with LO.. Why?! and i must say people's opinions change when i say im married or mention my husband, now for me i always wanted to be married before i had children but some people dont WANT to get married so regardless of age your opinion of someone shouldnt change just because their married?
I cant imagine how degrading it is for yous when people go on about stereo typical "teen mums" when you are a teen mum and i think people should open their minds a little.

xxx

 

[Eabha'sMum]

thanks... I look young, so no matter what my story I find people do look down, but that is my motivation to prove people wrong, and be the best mummy and wife... xx

 

[divershona]

Me and FOB have been really good friends for nearly ... gosh 4 years!!!!! .... and we got alot closer since i moved (odd i know but still) and we ended up getting together etc, and I'm now 23+4 with our yellow bean

although i don't work at the moment (i have been looking since i moved a year ago), i am a full time college student doing the international baccalaureate diploma and i will be when LO is born too. I'm hoping to go to university and do midwifery but i guess i'll have to see what grades i come out with at the end of my course next year

 

[Sarah10]

I'm 18, and o/h lost his job a few months ago so we were on benefits for 8 months but every penny went on the house/bills/baby's things, none of us smokes or drinks/does drugs etc. Now o/h has gone self employed so hopefully things will start looking up on the financial side.
I met o/h when i was 15, and we moved in together when i was 16, i went on a college course last september but had to quit because of really intense all day sickness/fainting etc.. but i want to start college again in January when LO will be about 5 months old.

I look really young for my age so i often get horrible looks off people but i try not to let it get me down

 

[Sarah10]

Me and FOB have been really good friends for nearly ... gosh 4 years!!!!! .... and we got alot closer since i moved (odd i know but still) and we ended up getting together etc, and I'm now 23+4 with our yellow bean

although i don't work at the moment (i have been looking since i moved a year ago), i am a full time college student doing the international baccalaureate diploma and i will be when LO is born too. I'm hoping to go to university and do midwifery but i guess i'll have to see what grades i come out with at the end of my course next year

I've become really interested in being a Midwife since i've become pregnant, i used to want to be a vet before lol

 

[Sophiiie]

I've been quite lucky in terms of getting the "looks" because I live in a very small town and everyone knows everyone elses business, and so they know that me & my OH have been together for 4 years, lived together for 2, and are engaged to be married. They also know that we both have good jobs and that this was a natural progression for us.

Obviously when we go into town and other places, I do get those glares and conclusion-jumping shakes of heads, but at the end of the day the love I feel for my LO surpasses any feelings I get from seeing peoples' reactions. Of course naturally, they do bother me at the time, but all I care about is being a good mum and if I can get through this pregnancy and get through giving birth, then I can sure as hell ignore a few judgemental peoples' opinions.

Thanks for your positive view though and for sharing your story xx

 

[Babydance]

I'm 18, and o/h lost his job a few months ago so we were on benefits for 8 months but every penny went on the house/bills/baby's things, none of us smokes or drinks/does drugs etc. Now o/h has gone self employed so hopefully things will start looking up on the financial side.
I met o/h when i was 15, and we moved in together when i was 16, i went on a college course last september but had to quit because of really intense all day sickness/fainting etc.. but i want to start college again in January when LO will be about 5 months old.

I look really young for my age so i often get horrible looks off people but i try not to let it get me down

Dont blush for being on benifits for those reasons! Thats what theyre there for!! And booo for all the sickness/fainting! I felt SO faint at the start of my pregnancy and fainted on a packed bus in Vegas on our honeymoon lol

 

[divershona]

Me and FOB have been really good friends for nearly ... gosh 4 years!!!!! .... and we got alot closer since i moved (odd i know but still) and we ended up getting together etc, and I'm now 23+4 with our yellow bean

although i don't work at the moment (i have been looking since i moved a year ago), i am a full time college student doing the international baccalaureate diploma and i will be when LO is born too. I'm hoping to go to university and do midwifery but i guess i'll have to see what grades i come out with at the end of my course next year

I've become really interested in being a Midwife since i've become pregnant, i used to want to be a vet before lol

i've always wanted to do something to do with medicine ... i really wanted to be a peadiatritian up til about 2 months ago when i realised having a baby mid-course and having to deal with all the sleepless nights was probably not going to be the best thing for me to get the grades i need, i think i'll still apply to do medicine at uni and have the midwifery as backup, although i think midwifery is going to be my likely option. Plus ive always been fascinated by pregnancy from when i was two years old and my sister arrived, i just couldn't believe that in the future my tummy could grow a baby ... thats why my mum always said that i shouldn't eat the pips in my apples and oranges incase i got a boy one and a girl one and they decided to make a baby in tummy ... well i know differently now obviously

 

[Sophiiie]

I'm 18, and o/h lost his job a few months ago so we were on benefits for 8 months

That's the bad thing about the negative stereotype of teenage mums...when teenage parents do genuinely need benefits, a lot are automatically labelled in a certain way (as for why I'm guessing you put the embarrassed face ) and it really annoys me because your OH can't help the fact that he lost his job, people of all ages are losing their jobs at the moment, yet nobody thinks anything of it when they claim benefits. They're there to be used when people need them (like in Sarah's situation) so people need to stop assuming that teenage parents on benefits makes them some sort of Vicky Pollard!

Mini rant over x

 

[stephx]

I think the difference is when you want to work etc, rather than choosing benefits as a lifestyle choice. They are meant for situations like Sarahs- but the steriotypical view is that all teens choose to be on benefits to get out of working which is craziness

Anyway, OH and I have been together 3 years, lived together that whole time and are engaged We have a 3 bed house, good jobs and im doing uni part time I still get looks though, but I really dont care what people think

xx

 

[Eabha'sMum]

i don't think we should start another rant about people being on benefits, it is no one elses place to judge, no one knows anyone elses story!
xx

 

[Sophiiie]

i don't think we should start another rant about people being on benefits, it is no one elses place to judge, no one knows anyone elses story!
xx

Agreed x

 

[Sophiiie]

Me and FOB have been really good friends for nearly ... gosh 4 years!!!!! .... and we got alot closer since i moved (odd i know but still) and we ended up getting together etc, and I'm now 23+4 with our yellow bean

although i don't work at the moment (i have been looking since i moved a year ago), i am a full time college student doing the international baccalaureate diploma and i will be when LO is born too. I'm hoping to go to university and do midwifery but i guess i'll have to see what grades i come out with at the end of my course next year

I've become really interested in being a Midwife since i've become pregnant, i used to want to be a vet before lol

i've always wanted to do something to do with medicine ... i really wanted to be a peadiatritian up til about 2 months ago when i realised having a baby mid-course and having to deal with all the sleepless nights was probably not going to be the best thing for me to get the grades i need, i think i'll still apply to do medicine at uni and have the midwifery as backup, although i think midwifery is going to be my likely option. Plus ive always been fascinated by pregnancy from when i was two years old and my sister arrived, i just couldn't believe that in the future my tummy could grow a baby ... thats why my mum always said that i shouldn't eat the pips in my apples and oranges incase i got a boy one and a girl one and they decided to make a baby in tummy ... well i know differently now obviously

I'd have loved to go into any sort of medicine, nursing, midwifery or veterinary, but my grades just weren't good enough in science x

 

[mayb_baby]

Ok my story I'm 19 and I'm just awaiting my A Level results in 3weeks time, me and my OH have been together since I was 15 and this was a surprise pregnancy, as I was due to go to uni in September.

I had the implant in and it made me really ill my blood levels dropped from 12(normal) to 4 so I was in line for a blood transfusion; however I was able to up it on a triple dose of iron tablets. So I got it removed and had to take the pill which a drunken night messed up but I miscarried at eight weeks
This pregnancy was a result of the last as I went on the contraceptive patch due to my skin pigmentation it wasn’t working but I didn’t know and I had no periods at all and my doctor told me this was a possible side effect of the hormone. Then I felt odd (sore boobs...camps...light bleed after none in ages ...etc) so I went into A&E and yup 7weeks pregnant.

I'm still for university in September 2011 deferring my entry as a secondary school English teacher and my OH works from 6.30am-5.30pm and has a good income so I will be on benefits in September until November when we move into a house (well private accommodation) then I will be on benefits but not a lot Family Tax I think.

xxxx

 

[Sophiiie]

I'm still for university in September 2011 deferring my entry as a secondary school English teacher

That's exactly what I'm doing x

 

[EmyDra]

I'd have loved to go into any sort of medicine, nursing, midwifery or veterinary, but my grades just weren't good enough in science x

Awk, you can do nursing with English and Maths, so long as you have 5 or 6 GCSEs? That's what I'm doing anyway...well...eventually!

Since I split up with my ex I couldn't afford the rent of the house by myself and knew that with being pregnant I'd need the space and it was really unlikely I could get a full time job now.

I'm not at all ashamed to be on housing benefits. At the end of the day, if I wasn't, I would have to go into refuge, lose my job (as I dont drive and I'd be too far away) and then get rehoused completely on benefits with no job in a tiny flat or undesirabley area etc.

I certainly do not intend to always be on housing benefit though

 

[reiller]

Im with my OH 4 years we live together now but didint before I got pregnant.. We broke up for a few months about a year ago but realised we still loved each other and got back together...
I just want to say to Sarah who's OH lost his job and that she is on benefites .That's the real reasaon the benefits are there,,, and you should use them and not be embarrased your doing the best you can and in this climate you cant help it if your let go
I get horribel looks when I'm out and most of my extended family are all mortified Im pregnant but I just roll with it because I will have a gorgeous baby soon and that all we care about.
XX

 

[Sophiiie]

I'd have loved to go into any sort of medicine, nursing, midwifery or veterinary, but my grades just weren't good enough in science x

Awk, you can do nursing with English and Maths, so long as you have 5 or 6 GCSEs? That's what I'm doing anyway...well...eventually!

Really?! I did well in my GCSE's, got 12 A-C passes but only got C's in sciences and I remember my careers advisor saying that I wouldn't be able to do anything in medicine as my grades needed to be A's How are you going about it if you don't mind me asking? Are you just doing straight into a nursing degree or is it another route? xx

 

[charlotte-xo]

Im 19 and expecting my first bubba which is a boy =) I get some really funny looks because i look about 15-16. I just smile though because i find it quite funny that people can be so judgemental towards teenage mums just because were young it doesnt mean were going to be bad mums..I say stuff them there just silly billys =) and should mind their own business anyways....

=) x

 

[mayb_baby]

I got 9 A-C we only did 10 gurr my school lol

you can do nursing with GCSE DA Science DD or SA C xxx