You teen mummies!

[EmyDra]

I'd have loved to go into any sort of medicine, nursing, midwifery or veterinary, but my grades just weren't good enough in science x

Awk, you can do nursing with English and Maths, so long as you have 5 or 6 GCSEs? That's what I'm doing anyway...well...eventually!

Really?! I did well in my GCSE's, got 12 A-C passes but only got C's in sciences and I remember my careers advisor saying that I wouldn't be able to do anything in medicine as my grades needed to be A's How are you going about it if you don't mind me asking? Are you just doing straight into a nursing degree or is it another route? xx

I applied to a Suffolk University on Campus, for a Nursing DipHe.

Entry requirements
You must be least 17 and a half years old
You should have 5 GCSE grades A-C
OR
Intermediate GNVQ plus one GCSE/ GCE O' Level at grades A-C
OR
Successful completion of Cadet Course
OR
Access to HE (at pass grade)
OR
NVQ Level 3
OR
NVQ Level 2 plus one GCSE at grade A-C
OR
Advanced GNVQ at pass level

I have 6 GCSEs (A and Bs) and they liked me - but the course was full . They did assure me I was considered though - and I will apply again and get to the interview.

Once you are a nurse you can train 18 months to become a qualified midwive without having A levels

GCSEs are funny, I was on a stupidly hard exam board because of my stupid school. I like to defend my academic achievements because I think I was a little robbed. I failed French on an E, Physics and Economics on a D. In my old english school they didn't even make you take a language...and I could've done subjects I actually liked. Oh well.

 

[aob1013]

I don't think we even should explain our situation really, i couldn't give a shit what other people think to be honest, they can judge all the like! x

 

[vhal_x]

I don't yet get the disapproving stares as my bump is tiny, so I just look a tad chubby, but I know I will get them as I look extremely young for my age (unless wearing makeup).

My 'story' thing will probably not be as nice and stuff as most of yours, but it's my story and I wouldn't change anything that happened for the world...

I was in a 3 year relationship which I was unhappy in. My boyfriend was rather controlling, always read through my texts, bugged my computer (I kid you not!) and was constantly trying to check up on me whilst I was out.

I grew close to my current OH after meeting him in December 2009. Strangely we went to school together for 4 years (between 2004 and 2008), and despite the fact that I was friends with his friends, we never spoke (we knew of each other, just didn't know each other personally).

In early January 2010, I split up with my boyfriend after months of drama, and me and my OH continued to get closer - eventually leading to us starting a relationship at the start of February.

Whilst in my previous relationship, stupidly we were NTNP (throughout the entire relationship), despite the fact that I was only 14 when we first got together (and lost my virginity with him, sorry if TMI). I know that this will probably cause a lot of you girls to think things about me and stuff, but whatever, I can't change it now and I know that it was extremely stupid as I'd have hated to have him father my baby (not that he wasn't nice at all in the relationship but towards the end he wasn't as nice and then after we split, he got into drug dealing and knife crime, etc... so thank GOD I'm away from that!)

Obviously due to the fact that in the 3 years we were together, I never conceived, so was led to believe that I was infertile (my mum struggled for 7 years to have me). So once I started the relationship with my OH, who is the FOB - I explained to him my "fertility problems" as I knew how much he wants to have children in his life. He said that he loved me anyway, and that we'd try and try and try, and hopefully one day we'd have the children we both wanted so much. So we started trying right away - and then a month later, we discovered that I was pregnant

We honestly could not have been happier. Yes we're young, but we both believe that we'll be amazing parents. He has a job, and I have just finished my schooling. Unfortunately, as I was already pregnant by the time school ended, I have been unable to get a job as nobody wants to hire a pregnant teenager. Or maybe just pregnant women full stop? I don't know.

However I am not on benefits, I will be in a few months time just to keep me going until the baby arrives, but everything will be spent on my LO.

Both me and my OH still live with our parents , he desperately wants to find a house, but I want to wait until after the new year so that we'll have had experience with our LO before moving out of our homes, as obviously it will be tough.

I want to do something with my life, I'm just unsure what I want to do at the moment - probably something in the childcare region, or midwifery and/or ultrasound technician, but I will no doubt be working part-time in a shop or something once LO arrives as I obviously want to spend as much time with him as possible.


GOD! I apologize for the length of my post. Got a tad carried away x

 

[youngmum2b]

Hey, well i'm 18. Me n fob have been together on n off since we were 13(we've spent about 1 1/2 - 2 years apart all together).
I was in the final stages of finding work when i found out i was pregnant n oh was just finishing his sports industry course, I'm currently on JSA but don't intend on staying that way as i want to be able to provide for my family myself + i have no intentions of being a full time stay at home mum(of course i love lo but i want to give him the best start that i can), Oh started looking for work, once he'd finished his course(the course hours where so messed up) he now starts work in aug as a football coach + teaching assistant, I'm still studying to complete my NVQ level 2 in hairdressing but i'm guna have to wait untill bubs is here before i can fully finish it as no salons will hire me due to pregnancy n the damage that could be caused to bubs by the constant inhaling of all the chemical fumes, So i can't study in a salon or college atm, idealy i want to be off all forms of goverment aid by the time bubs is atleast 1, if we can acheive it before then for me thats even better.

Please do not judge me or label me as a bad mother or stupid teen due solely cause i'm on jsa.

 

[vhal_x]

Hey, well i'm 18. Me n fob have been together on n off since we were 13(we've spent about 1 1/2 - 2 years apart all together).
I was in the final stages of finding work when i found out i was pregnant n oh was just finishing his sports industry course, I'm currently on JSA but don't intend on staying that way as i want to be able to provide for my family myself + i have no intentions of being a full time stay at home mum(of course i love lo but i want to give him the best start that i can), Oh started looking for work, once he'd finished his course(the course hours where so messed up) he now starts work in aug as a football coach + teaching assistant, I'm still studying to complete my NVQ level 2 in hairdressing but i'm guna have to wait untill bubs is here before i can fully finish it as no salons will hire me due to pregnancy n the damage that could be caused to bubs by the constant inhaling of all the chemical fumes, So i can't study in a salon or college atm, idealy i want to be off all forms of goverment aid by the time bubs is atleast 1, if we can acheive it before then for me thats even better.

Please do not judge me or label me as a bad mother or stupid teen due solely cause i'm on jsa.

I wouldn't ever judge someone who's on JSA out of necessity, I'm going to be on it from September (apparently I can't until then as my parents still get money for me being their child or something, idk).

So once September comes I'll be in the same boat as you , I won't be on it forever either because I don't like the idea of hard working people having to pay for me, but until someone will employ me then I'm afraid I'm gonna have to claim it.

And JSA in itself does not make anyone a bad mother in my eyes - no type of benefit can make anyone a bad mother, it's the people who spend that benefit money on drugs and alcohol instead of their LO and their rent, etc.. and who neglect the needs of their child for their own pathetic needs who are the bad mothers.

I'm sure you'll be an awesome mum

 

[brunette&bubs]

I'd have loved to go into any sort of medicine, nursing, midwifery or veterinary, but my grades just weren't good enough in science x

Awk, you can do nursing with English and Maths, so long as you have 5 or 6 GCSEs? That's what I'm doing anyway...well...eventually!

I'm a nurse and just wanna let you know the only science classes you need to take to be a nurse is basic chemistry, microbiology, and anatomy. It's not too bad. I think some can get by without taking any maths or english classes.

Anyway....

Well I'm 22 and actually married my boyfriend of 5 years last year. I got TONS of grief from a lot of friends about marrying so young.

Then when I became pregnant this year my parents were DELIGHTED and so excited!

My husbands parents looked down on us and didn't give us the support we expected. They believe you should live your life partying and traveling until at least 30 or 35 and then think about having children. They think we will be missing out on our youth or whatever (even though I had all of my college years for that).

All of my friends are so happy and supportive but some of my husbands friends have said some not-so-supportive things like "i'm scared for you" or "good luck (in sarcastic tone)" or basically "you're f*****"
I just don't get it

My husband and I are excited so I guess that is all that matters!

 

[samface182]

i am 19, my OH is 21 next month. me and him have been best friends for 5 years. we got together in august last year after constant flirting and realising we actually were in love! lol. i fell pregnant unexpectedly to him in november. our little boy is due in 5 days

we now live together in a lovely 2 bedroom flat, and are so excited about aiden arriving. we may have only been together for a year.. but it seems longer cos we have been SO close for years and grew up together. he works 12 hour shifts as a waiter and i'm on benefits. we do struggle a bit with money, but we have enough to get by.

i am a qualified nursery nurse, but i am going to be a stay at home mum.. and go to uni and study midwifery when aiden goes to school i would rather be a stay at home mum, as my baby only grows up once and i want to be there everyday for him. my career can wait

im the happiest ive ever been in my life. and i cant imagine not having my little boy, even though he isnt here yet!

xx

 

[rainbows_x]

I'm 20, OH is 28.
We met when I was 17 & he was 25.

We worked together and he was one of my managers, we became boyfriend & girlfriend in August last year, sadly a month later I had a misscarriage. We moved into his mum's house a few days prior.

I became pregnant again in November & we are over the moon.
I am currently not working & not claiming anything. OH works 45+ hours a week on a minimum mangaer wage.

I am gong back to work when our LO is around 9 months & hoping to start a career in floristry/catering.

x

 

[mayb_baby]

Hey, well i'm 18. Me n fob have been together on n off since we were 13(we've spent about 1 1/2 - 2 years apart all together).
I was in the final stages of finding work when i found out i was pregnant n oh was just finishing his sports industry course, I'm currently on JSA but don't intend on staying that way as i want to be able to provide for my family myself + i have no intentions of being a full time stay at home mum(of course i love lo but i want to give him the best start that i can), Oh started looking for work, once he'd finished his course(the course hours where so messed up) he now starts work in aug as a football coach + teaching assistant, I'm still studying to complete my NVQ level 2 in hairdressing but i'm guna have to wait untill bubs is here before i can fully finish it as no salons will hire me due to pregnancy n the damage that could be caused to bubs by the constant inhaling of all the chemical fumes, So i can't study in a salon or college atm, idealy i want to be off all forms of goverment aid by the time bubs is atleast 1, if we can acheive it before then for me thats even better.

Please do not judge me or label me as a bad mother or stupid teen due solely cause i'm on jsa.

I wouldn't ever judge someone who's on JSA out of necessity, I'm going to be on it from September (apparently I can't until then as my parents still get money for me being their child or something, idk).

So once September comes I'll be in the same boat as you , I won't be on it forever either because I don't like the idea of hard working people having to pay for me, but until someone will employ me then I'm afraid I'm gonna have to claim it.

And JSA in itself does not make anyone a bad mother in my eyes - no type of benefit can make anyone a bad mother, it's the people who spend that benefit money on drugs and alcohol instead of their LO and their rent, etc.. and who neglect the needs of their child for their own pathetic needs who are the bad mothers.

I'm sure you'll be an awesome mum

I also cant until sept xox

 

[Babydance]

yous are all doing fab!! And (not starting a benifits debate!!) but you ladies who are on benifits for genuine reasons have no reason to be embarrased!! benifits are there for the reasons each of you have given!!
Only reason i mentioned benifits in the OP was i read in a mag recently a girl who said her Mum brought her up on benifits so she would live off benifits till she was collecting her pension. She had no aims or goals in her life career wise she said if her money stopped she would just have another baby. And she wanted atleast 5 so she could get a big council house.

xx

 

[youngmum2b]

yous are all doing fab!! And (not starting a benifits debate!!) but you ladies who are on benifits for genuine reasons have no reason to be embarrased!! benifits are there for the reasons each of you have given!!
Only reason i mentioned benifits in the OP was i read in a mag recently a girl who said her Mum brought her up on benifits so she would live off benifits till she was collecting her pension. She had no aims or goals in her life career wise she said if her money stopped she would just have another baby. And she wanted atleast 5 so she could get a big council house.

xx

Thats degusting, to a point i'm ashamed to be on benifits as i had no intentions of ever going on them, but you hear about all these teens that are having kids just for the benifits n a council house n they think its all guna be so easy n everythings guna be handed to them on a plate, when those of us who don't want to be tarnished with the same name are dragged down with them. Arhh it really ticks me off that some teenagers have a kid just for the sake of having 1 like their a fashion crazy.

 

[Nov2010Momma]

Well my story started out pretty rough. My dad died a couple years ago and my mom remarried (i'm not a fan) and I had been best friends with my husband for about 4 months before we dated. He sort of stole me from my ex My parents did not like him at all because he has tattoos and is 21 now, I'm 18.

We had only been together about 4 months when we got engaged...yes we moved fast but we were both so in love and so sure we were meant for eachother that we didn't care what anyone else thought.

We were engaged about a month, not even. When I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. I was so terrified because I was still in my senior year of high school and didn't get the best grades as it was and my parents still didn't approve of me being with my FOB. It took me about a week and a half to tell my mom and she didn't talk to me again for 3 days.

Things settled down a bit after I started homeschooling and we decided it would be better if we moved the wedding sooner because of insurance and money reasons. I graduated and got married the same month (in June). A week after the wedding I moved in with my husband and his parents. My husband has been laid off from his job for months now and is still having the hardest time with getting hired anywhere.

It feels so wrong being married and having a baby on the way and living with parents but it's the best we can do until jobs start hiring. I have just recieved WIC and in the process of getting Medical Assistance so we go off that and wedding money.

Hopefully by November when the baby is due, my husband will have found a good job and provide for our new family and so we are able to move out on our own.

I love hearing all of your girls' stories and problems and concerns, I'd love to get to you all better and compare things that are happening with ourselves and our babies. Thanks everyone for being so nice

 

[shellie_a]

It angers me how shallow minded people can be toward us just because we're young, But just because we're 15/16/17/18/19 etc etc why does that make us any worse parents then someone who is in there 20's or 30's? Or even if thy're married? My son is an amazing, intelligent, gorgeous little boy and so many pepole comment on how much of an amazing job I have done bringing my him up. In a way it's better being young, We have a lot more energy to raise a child, some people have children at late 40's/50's/60's but you don't see people raising there eyebrows at them? Atleast we can play with our child all day long without having to sit down and rest, we know what toys are good for our them, we can take them to the park for hours on end and to mummy meets, take them different places and show them the world.. We'll be alive for almost all of there lives! Me and my son will be OAP's together! So yes, we're young but that's NO reason to be judged, People just need to get there head out of there stuck up ass's and stop being so shallow and closed minded!

 

[Babydance]

Very true! (although im 23 and need to sit down whilst playing with LO sometimes! hehe)

 

[shellie_a]

Very true! (although im 23 and need to sit down whilst playing with LO sometimes! hehe)

Lol but you know what I mean babe, We don't have to have our hips replaced or sit down every 5 mins etc

 

[Babydance]

Very true! (although im 23 and need to sit down whilst playing with LO sometimes! hehe)

Lol but you know what I mean babe, We don't have to have our hips replaced or sit down every 5 mins etc

lol i know hun im just pulling your leg!
People are far to quick to judge and its funny about 30-40 years ago you were an "old Mum" if you were over 20 having your first!
I think its a shame for the children of older parents as their parents may not be there to see major events in their lives, which is really sad. My friends Dad is 84 and she's 24? My other friend had her first baby at 15 and is a truly wonderful Mum who's hubby works hard to pay for his family. They have a lovely house and her children are wonderfully behaved and well manored.. HOWEVER my friend who's Dad is 84 was out drinking ALL the time by the age of 13 and didnt go to school dropped out at 16 and has no goals or desires with her life.
So clearly the young parents are the bad ones in ALL situations... hmm xxx

 

[Tanara]

im Tanara.

When i was 15, I was dating this guy (tayes fob) for 2 months, and ending up getting pregnant. After struggling to maintain a relationship since it was purely based upon our son I moved back home. I struggled for a long time, atempted to move out 3 or 4 times, which i sustaned living with roomates for about 3 months at a time (until people didnt pay rent or just moved out...) So finally i gave up moved with my mom. And I addmit went out and enjoyed being 18 (maybe one night on the weekend) I would go over to my gay bestfriends house (him and his boyfriend lived pretty close to me) and they would throw a party every weekend. I was at my wits with finding a mate, since every guy i was interested in was an ass. Anyways turns out my gay bestfriends boyfriend is my OHs cousin, so I would see the Oh at their parties, we clicked (i met him in april 09) I mean everytime we seen eachother we would just sit there and mindlessly chat. Anyways one day i added him on facebook he invited me over and we just fell hard for eachother, we ending up dating not long after.

We moved into out own place together ( i lived with him pretty much at his old house, without my stuff being there as his cousin didnt mind and loves Taye) This past April, which we must have been to excited that we were living in our own place together, we concived our little blessing.

I dont bring in much as im a SAHM, i bring in about 650 a month, and will be making just over 900 when the babies here. But the Oh has a great job, and we both have good credit so we will be buying a house next year some time.

 

[mommieoftwo]

Luckily I look older than my age so I didn't used to get too many looks when I was just out with Abbey but now I have Lanie I do get a lot more.
What I hate though is that people give you looks even after your married. Me and Lucas got married 9 months ago after my parents agreed that we could.
I do admit even though we both work, his parents do pay half our rent.
I am in the middle of doing my a-levels at the moment and have had to study for most of them at home because of Lanie's birth. I want to train to be a neonatal nurse and Lucas is a fully qualified plumber.
The sterotypes can be right but they can also be very wrong. Most teen moms want to better themselves