BeesKnees
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This is my first pregnancy. Its the 2nd child for my OH but he was not invited to be a part of the pregnancy and/or birth of his first. He says he is happy and sometimes, usually after a couple beers, he actually shows excitement for the baby but on a day to day basis he doesnt show much interest or is not that supportive.
The biggest problem has come with me moving into his house. He has hardly helped me pack and move. He will carry in boxes from my car if I ask but he doesnt volunteer any help, even after I have told him about my pregnancy exhaustion. He certainly isnt the doting type and a lot of times he is just downright ignorant, purposefully disagreeable and unhelpful. I guess I have seen too many movies where the daddy-to-be is all excited and eager to help the dear woman who is carrying his child. If I said, Im hungry for ice cream. The kind of response I would get would be, We dont have any in the house.
I have tried to get him excited for this baby. I keep him updated on its approximate size, what is developing on a weekly basis, gave him a list of all the Dr. appointments thus far and even bought a baby beanie that looks like a football. He wants to come to every appointment as long as it doesnt interfere with a certain element of his job. Its almost as if he just can wrap his mind around the fact I am actually pregnant.
Do you think it will really sink in for him once I have an ultra-sound? Perhaps when I start showing? I am 8+4 now. I feel like I really need his support because we have not announced the pregnancy to everyone yet. I have always been a fiercely independent woman but just for once I would like to sit back and be taken care of, just once in a while, especially after a long day.
The biggest problem has come with me moving into his house. He has hardly helped me pack and move. He will carry in boxes from my car if I ask but he doesnt volunteer any help, even after I have told him about my pregnancy exhaustion. He certainly isnt the doting type and a lot of times he is just downright ignorant, purposefully disagreeable and unhelpful. I guess I have seen too many movies where the daddy-to-be is all excited and eager to help the dear woman who is carrying his child. If I said, Im hungry for ice cream. The kind of response I would get would be, We dont have any in the house.
I have tried to get him excited for this baby. I keep him updated on its approximate size, what is developing on a weekly basis, gave him a list of all the Dr. appointments thus far and even bought a baby beanie that looks like a football. He wants to come to every appointment as long as it doesnt interfere with a certain element of his job. Its almost as if he just can wrap his mind around the fact I am actually pregnant.
Do you think it will really sink in for him once I have an ultra-sound? Perhaps when I start showing? I am 8+4 now. I feel like I really need his support because we have not announced the pregnancy to everyone yet. I have always been a fiercely independent woman but just for once I would like to sit back and be taken care of, just once in a while, especially after a long day.