•••January 2021 tww & test thread•••

[motherofboys]

@LauraLoo1612 hope you know one way or the other soon. Being in limbo is horrible.

That pencil thing seems really similar to the ring one. You know where you do it over your belly? Well if you do it over your palm then it tells you all the kids you've had, including losses, and future babies genders. Lots of people swear it was right for them, its changed for me the few times I've done it though. Only that one is shining back and forth for one gender and circles for the other.

 

[Rach87]

@JessaBear36 I did, another bfn suprise surprise. 3 days late, havent had a cycle this long since my first p.p period after my son 2.5 yrs ago. I hope I dont have to wait until 10 days late for my bfp like I had to with my daughter. Still lots of ewcm.

 

[Rach87]

If I missed adding anyone to the front page let me know

 

[JessaBear36]

@JessaBear36 I did, another bfn suprise surprise. 3 days late, havent had a cycle this long since my first p.p period after my son 2.5 yrs ago. I hope I dont have to wait until 10 days late for my bfp like I had to with my daughter. Still lots of ewcm.

I think you said before you had a few tests with shadow lines but I didnt see pics. Hope you get a answer soon. Wow 10 day late bfp that's crazy. Good luck hun

 

[loeylo]

Oh really. Maybe the same then. It wasn’t a straightforward mc either so maybe that has something to do with it. It had been going on since November. Hopefully we get our rainbows soon

Yes mine lasted from October to December! Normally my losses are quite cut and dry and my cycles are incredibly regular so this has thrown me for six! I’m hoping for number two now. My daughter was my first rainbow and I hoped that my pregnancy with her had sorted things out but no

 

[Suggerhoney]

@LauraLoo1612 hope you know one way or the other soon. Being in limbo is horrible.

That pencil thing seems really similar to the ring one. You know where you do it over your belly? Well if you do it over your palm then it tells you all the kids you've had, including losses, and future babies genders. Lots of people swear it was right for them, its changed for me the few times I've done it though. Only that one is shining back and forth for one gender and circles for the other.

The ring one is a classic but the pencil one i hadn't even heard of b4 until my 17 year old dd came up to me when I was pregnant with my son haha.

I was like what the hell is that lol.

So its saying I will have one more and it will be a girl.

It does give me hope that I will get my rainbow.

 

[loeylo]

I know how you feel, I now have 8 friends who are pregnant. At least half of them were not planned (not judging, these things happen, one of them her coil moved!) and the ones that were happened super quickly, and I have a history of conception taking years. I don't begrudge them their happiness but I do feel sad for myself.

You don’t necessarily know their stories. I know friends of mine felt the same because I fell pregnant really quickly and unplanned with dd. What people didn’t know was that I had two miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy before. Now, we have been ntnp/ttc for 6 months and nothing except another loss.

lots of my friends have just announced their pregnancies recently too. It’s annoying because we all planned to ttc together, I held off trying so we could be pregnant together and now they all are approaching second tri and I’m not even pregnant.

 

[Suggerhoney]

@JessaBear36 I did, another bfn suprise surprise. 3 days late, havent had a cycle this long since my first p.p period after my son 2.5 yrs ago. I hope I dont have to wait until 10 days late for my bfp like I had to with my daughter. Still lots of ewcm.

Sorry about the BFN hon and for being late.
I was 3 days late last cycle.
And its so hard knowing ure out and waiting for AF.
Sending u big hugs and fixed for next cycle.

I think I mite test at 10dpo on 17th jan.
Will see how I feel nearer the time.
I always feel anxious about testing, anxious it will be BFN and anxious that I'll get faint lines that never get really dark.
Its horrible.
I've gotten faint lines at 10dpo with all 4 chemicals the last one my tests got darker but then I hit 13dpo and they started getting fainter.

I had dark lines at 10 or 11dpo with my son so thats what I really want again.
Faint lines just give me so much anxiety.

 

[loeylo]

U sound like u have it all covered hon.
I had ewcm on cd 9 and loads on cd10 in morning. Then it dried up and then was ewcm again in evening.
Then cd 11 which is 1dpo it was snotty and still is.
So im really hoping I ovulated on the evening of day 10 because AF showed very heavy in the middle of the night so I wud of been close to cd11 if it was the evening on cd10.

I'm still doing opks and they were peak on evening on cd 9 and again all day on cd10.
Then negative cd11 and today very negative.
My temp is raised so I think I definitely already ovulated.

I was hoping I just had a random surge and wud go on to have another surge at my normol time of day 14 but with the temp rise I don't think thats likely.

I hope I don't ovulate early next cycle.
And I really hope that this early ovulation won't cause another loss.

I wanted such a stress free cycle this cycle thats why I decided not to temp and then my body goes and ovulates early.
So frustrating.
I just hope it will be OK.

Honestly, I got pregnant at the drop of a hat when I didn’t do anything. Been focusing on ttc for about 6 months now and nothing. Stress doesn’t help ttc.

 

[Suggerhoney]

You don’t necessarily know their stories. I know friends of mine felt the same because I fell pregnant really quickly and unplanned with dd. What people didn’t know was that I had two miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy before. Now, we have been ntnp/ttc for 6 months and nothing except another loss.

lots of my friends have just announced their pregnancies recently too. It’s annoying because we all planned to ttc together, I held off trying so we could be pregnant together and now they all are approaching second tri and I’m not even pregnant.

So sorry hon.

Its so hard because I've been in these testing threads since Feb 2020.
Seen so many ladies come and go.
And seeing how far they now are in there pregnancies with some even that have had there babies and im still here and still not pregnant.
It really is so hard.

Hugs hon.
Hope we get our BFPs soon.
And extra sticky ones

 

[Rach87]

@JessaBear36 im thinking those may have been nasty fake lines. I guess we’ll see how it goes if af comes. If its horribly painful they were probably true and I had a chemical, if its normal then I know they were bad evaps. Just the 3 days late is throwing me. No cramps or anything, just lots of ewcm which I dont get pre af. No idea whats going on. I guess I’ll just keep waiting. Lol

 

[Suggerhoney]

@JessaBear36 im thinking those may have been nasty fake lines. I guess we’ll see how it goes if af comes. If its horribly painful they were probably true and I had a chemical, if its normal then I know they were bad evaps. Just the 3 days late is throwing me. No cramps or anything, just lots of ewcm which I dont get pre af. No idea whats going on. I guess I’ll just keep waiting. Lol

Hope u didn't have a chemical hon.

With all my 4 chemicals the bleeding was really heavy with loads of clots.

My last AF was really heavy to with clots and im wondering if I've had a 5th chemical?
Esp now I've ovulated so early.

Really really hope AF comes ASAP hon so u can move on to next cycle.
Its horrible being in limbo.

 

[Suggerhoney]

Honestly, I got pregnant at the drop of a hat when I didn’t do anything. Been focusing on ttc for about 6 months now and nothing. Stress doesn’t help ttc.

I was the same hon.
I fell pregnant within the first month, the longest I've ever had to try was with my almost 10 year old soon and that was after a chemical and it took 3 months.

This is the longest I've ever tried for.
I know I have been pregnant 4 maybe 5 times but they just don't stay.

I think ure right hon stress really doesn't help.
I've been really getting into my novel reading again and watching movies so trying to stay as relaxed as possible.

 

[PinkCupcakes]

Did a FRER.... it’s BFN 10DPO 11DPT... sigh... this was the last trigger cycle, now they want to do a sperm analysis and IUI.. which is expensive if I was pregnant it should show by now on a FRER shouldn’t it?

 

[Rach87]

I would try in the morning when your urine is the most concentrated, or wait 2 days.

 

[Deethehippy]

Some women don’t get BFP on FRER until 12 DPO but like Rach said best to use concentrated morning urine or SMU at least two hours hold.

 

[PinkCupcakes]

Some women don’t get BFP on FRER until 12 DPO but like Rach said best to use concentrated morning urine or SMU at least two hours hold.

I’m just so sad, so much time trying and I get nothing out of it.

 

[loeylo]

Did a FRER.... it’s BFN 10DPO 11DPT... sigh... this was the last trigger cycle, now they want to do a sperm analysis and IUI.. which is expensive if I was pregnant it should show by now on a FRER shouldn’t it?

I personally won’t be testing before af is due again. IMO a faint positive actually just creates more anxiety. Out of all the months that I’ve tested, I’ve only ever had a really good bfp after my period is late - and that is from 6 pregnancies, 5 of which got as far as seeing heartbeats on scans (even saw a heartbeat on my ectopic)

 

[loeylo]

So sorry hon.

Its so hard because I've been in these testing threads since Feb 2020.
Seen so many ladies come and go.
And seeing how far they now are in there pregnancies with some even that have had there babies and im still here and still not pregnant.
It really is so hard.

Hugs hon.
Hope we get our BFPs soon.
And extra sticky ones

I get it. I was 21 when I was first pregnant and it took me until I was 26 to have dd (although we weren’t trying throughout; we were also not preventing for big chunks!) and obviously I was young, non smoker, my bmi was 22.5, I exercised 5 days a week, barely drank, didn’t smoke and so on. Now I’m 31, which is still pretty young, but I’m overweight and don’t exercise, and I like wine (I don’t go out drinking but I have a few glasses a few days per week with the occasional “drinking session” for special occasions)

now, people who were pregnant with me when I was pregnant with dd have 4 kids. People who had their first kids when we started thinking about #2 are now pregnant with their third kids.
We waited until we were 100% ready for #2. Our pregnancy will be less stressful because we have done everything “right” (no debt except our mortgage which we are 6 years off paying off, our house and garden are done up, our car is perfect for a growing family, we both have good jobs, our physical and mental health is good, and so on)

none of these things were in place for dd and everything still worked out good. We should have started trying 3 years ago.


On the other side, if we had ttc 3 years ago, by now I’d never be pregnant again. I love being pregnant (ask me again when I actually am pregnant though! I’ve romanticised it!)

 

[PinkCupcakes]

I personally won’t be testing before af is due again. IMO a faint positive actually just creates more anxiety. Out of all the months that I’ve tested, I’ve only ever had a really good bfp after my period is late - and that is from 6 pregnancies, 5 of which got as far as seeing heartbeats on scans (even saw a heartbeat on my ectopic)

Thank you, it still hurts seeing a BFN after so many tries when I see so many ladies get BFP at 10DPO