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I need your opinions...how should I do this?!

My daughter (3) has always slept with us but we are ready to move her into her own bed. She is just getting too big and tossing and turning at night bc she isn't comfortable in between us anymore.

So we tried last night, I read her a book, sang until my throat was sore (That's usually how she goes to sleep in my room), and then laid beside her bed, in a rocking chair until I thought she was asleep. I crept out and latched the door. (She has a beautiful inside princess screen door) and her room is literally no more than 3 steps away from my door. My husband came in my room and said "Are we really going to lock her in?" I said, "Unless you want to be up and down all night"...he then made me feel like I was Hitler or something. He said it hurt him so he went and unlatched the door. About 3 hours later, I hear her call out. I called back and reassured her that everything was okay and for her to go back to sleep. I heard her try the door and next thing I knew she was in the bed with us again. My husband called me this morning while I was at work...sounded really upset and said that we should put this on hold bc we are headed to the beach in a couple of weeks and we don't want to mess up the routine once we get it down. I feel defeated.
 

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Randa thank you!

Mwel is the screen opaque or translucent/transparent? The thing is I’m going to be using a stair gate on my daughters doorframe that will Iock but it’s only half the size of the door. I completely agree with what you’re saying, she kind of does need to be locked in for her own safety. If you were both asleep and she got out and tried to go exploring in the dark she might hurt herself. My daughters only coming two but even at three I would still lock the gate.
 
Randa thank you!

Mwel is the screen opaque or translucent/transparent? The thing is I’m going to be using a stair gate on my daughters doorframe that will Iock but it’s only half the size of the door. I completely agree with what you’re saying, she kind of does need to be locked in for her own safety. If you were both asleep and she got out and tried to go exploring in the dark she might hurt herself. My daughters only coming two but even at three I would still lock the gate.

Thanks! That's exactly how I feel! But I know others have different opinions and I want to hear them all bc I'm TRYING to understand my hubby's point of view. I posted a pic of it so everyone can see...she can see right through it and hear me bc I leave our door open as well. I just feel like she is safer and so is my baby. Gabby has been kicking in her sleep and she kicked my belly night before last and it terrified me.
 
I understand where your husband is coming from too. It does feel a bit weird and mean but their safety is obviously paramount.
You can’t have the baby being accidentally nudged either :(
He would get used to it in time I’d think? It’s never nice at first doing these things but it does get easier in the end I reckon. That’s just my personal opinion anyway
 
It depends, my daughter doesn’t get out of bed at all until morning. Even then she’s almost 5 and pretty self sufficient and won’t go hurting herself. She usually just pops her head into our room and let’s us know she’s awake. She never got up and wandered at night. We always had a gate on our stairs at the top, though, from about age 2-4. Just in case. Mainly for my peace of mind, it was never really an issue. We were lucky. Doesn’t mean she didn’t have her own set of sleep issues...but she never slept with us so the only advice I have is to know it’ll be an interesting road, it’s not gonna be bump free. There will be lots of nights where she ends up with you in bed. It’s a habit she’s had since birth...kinda hard to just break in one week...or one month...also just be kind and calm and okay with regression because, we’ll, that’s life with a toddler. Lol

Emsabub congrats on the girl! Yay!!
 
Ahhh ladies please share your scan pics!!! I can't wait until mine...a loooong 6 weeks away 😩 I'm thinking about seeing if they can move it up a week though :haha: i'm so impatient! I tried to book a private scan but no one will do it!

I'm not sure if I ever shared mine, but here's sprout at 13 weeks. I get my anatomy scan Thursday and I'm hoping for the best :) Hang in there, I was also surprised and frustrated at such long waits between scans, but I'm more surprised no one will do a private scan for you to be honest, did they explain why?
 

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Randa thank you!

Mwel is the screen opaque or translucent/transparent? The thing is I’m going to be using a stair gate on my daughters doorframe that will Iock but it’s only half the size of the door. I completely agree with what you’re saying, she kind of does need to be locked in for her own safety. If you were both asleep and she got out and tried to go exploring in the dark she might hurt herself. My daughters only coming two but even at three I would still lock the gate.

Thanks! That's exactly how I feel! But I know others have different opinions and I want to hear them all bc I'm TRYING to understand my hubby's point of view. I posted a pic of it so everyone can see...she can see right through it and hear me bc I leave our door open as well. I just feel like she is safer and so is my baby. Gabby has been kicking in her sleep and she kicked my belly night before last and it terrified me.

I can see the hubby's concern with her having the screen door locked, she's no way out if something happens or if she wakes in the middle of the night unable to get out it may scare her, which I know is totally not your intent at all as you are a great mommy and just trying to solve a problem. Instead of her screen door what about a baby gate? it still encloses but the top portion is open so she won't feel shut in and hubs can pick her up if he needs to? or maybe if she's nervous or needing a bed buddy through the transition DH can go in with her, because I completely understand the need to protect your belly. After my DD was rough with my belly I could not rest well until I had sprout checked out and have been very paranoid since then. Best of luck to you mwel :hugs:
 
That's so cute she's got her little duck lol!

Country-you got me in suspense with the tie breaker!
 
Ahhh ladies please share your scan pics!!! I can't wait until mine...a loooong 6 weeks away 😩 I'm thinking about seeing if they can move it up a week though :haha: i'm so impatient! I tried to book a private scan but no one will do it!

I'm not sure if I ever shared mine, but here's sprout at 13 weeks. I get my anatomy scan Thursday and I'm hoping for the best :) Hang in there, I was also surprised and frustrated at such long waits between scans, but I'm more surprised no one will do a private scan for you to be honest, did they explain why?

Looks like a little girly to me ;) any preference? I don't know why they won't do an extra scan. I have a regular ob appt next friday and may ask that dr..,but I've never met her so will have to feel her out and see if she'll be amiable or not.

I just don't get why, if i make an appointment and pay for it, they won't book it?

Anyway i hear my ob that predicted gender is extremely accurate so very likely boy 3.
 
Mwel is the concern the door is locked or he just feels bad about it? Maybe he's just not emotionally ready yet.
 
Mwel. I have had some sort of lock on my boys door since my oldest started sleeping in a big boy bed. It started with just a baby hate, but once they figured out how to take it down or climb over it it had to go. We now have a lock. Its the only way I can keep them....mostly my little guy now.....in the room to go to sleep at night. I can always hear them. We have never had any issues....and our rooms are on different floors at this point we unlock before we go to bed, but it has been a lifesaver to ensure everyone in out house sleeps.

And sorry to leave you all in suspense! I ended up having a crazy day yesterday. I blew up a tire and got stuck on the side of the road for 2 hours!! BUT..... the tie breaker goes to the.........



GIRLS! Im in shock...and i think hubby is too....i thought for sure we would have 3 boys...i dont know if either of us knows what to do with a girl!! Now to keep it a secret from everyone...you guys should feel special since you are the only ones who know what she is!!
 

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Wow country! Congratulations!!! Ahhh lovely, and hopefully she'll have her older bros to protect her <3
 
Mwel is the concern the door is locked or he just feels bad about it? Maybe he's just not emotionally ready yet.

He has a hard time doing anything that will upset Gabby. It's not like when she gets upset and tries to get out that I'm not going to ease her fears and tell her everything is okay but I refuse to lose sleep (especially right now) bc she is following me back to my bed every night. None of us are sleeping well. Gabby isn't ready to get up for school. Hubby is grumpy and I can't function at work bc I was already super tired before all of this. It's on hold for now though until we get back from the beach though. Last night was AWFUL. We all tossed and turned all night. I need a king sized mattress if this continues. :sleep::sleep::sleep:
 
Mwel. I have had some sort of lock on my boys door since my oldest started sleeping in a big boy bed. It started with just a baby hate, but once they figured out how to take it down or climb over it it had to go. We now have a lock. Its the only way I can keep them....mostly my little guy now.....in the room to go to sleep at night. I can always hear them. We have never had any issues....and our rooms are on different floors at this point we unlock before we go to bed, but it has been a lifesaver to ensure everyone in out house sleeps.

And sorry to leave you all in suspense! I ended up having a crazy day yesterday. I blew up a tire and got stuck on the side of the road for 2 hours!! BUT..... the tie breaker goes to the.........



GIRLS! Im in shock...and i think hubby is too....i thought for sure we would have 3 boys...i dont know if either of us knows what to do with a girl!! Now to keep it a secret from everyone...you guys should feel special since you are the only ones who know what she is!!

Yay! A girl! Congrats! You'll figure it out! I'll be the same way if this one is a boy so I feel ya completely!

And thank you so much for your opinion on the locks. Ours is a latch and honestly, she could break it if she ever needed to. But being that she is right beside our room, we would never miss her calling out. I would love to not have to use it but she is very strong willed...like her mommy.
 
Just a thought but what if you temporarily moved her mattress into your room? Then transition her into her room.
 
Ahhh ladies please share your scan pics!!! I can't wait until mine...a loooong 6 weeks away &#128553; I'm thinking about seeing if they can move it up a week though :haha: i'm so impatient! I tried to book a private scan but no one will do it!

I'm not sure if I ever shared mine, but here's sprout at 13 weeks. I get my anatomy scan Thursday and I'm hoping for the best :) Hang in there, I was also surprised and frustrated at such long waits between scans, but I'm more surprised no one will do a private scan for you to be honest, did they explain why?

Looks like a little girly to me ;) any preference? I don't know why they won't do an extra scan. I have a regular ob appt next friday and may ask that dr..,but I've never met her so will have to feel her out and see if she'll be amiable or not.

I just don't get why, if i make an appointment and pay for it, they won't book it?

Anyway i hear my ob that predicted gender is extremely accurate so very likely boy 3.

I don't understand that either, I thought once they were at a certain gestation age they wouldn't have an issue doing a scan, especially if you paid for it and it's a reputable place. I guess things are changing depending on where we are located :shrug: I'll add your guess to my tally list ;) So far boy guesses have been in the lead, but surprisingly my close friends are guessing girl! But to answer your question I'd love to have a boy, though to be honest so long as the baby is healthy and happy I'm happy if it's a girl too :) The only thing I'm worried about is the "mama blues" since this will be my last one ( as far as I can see) but I hear we've got a better equipped counselors if I do encounter those blues later.
 

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