11.5 months old cognitive development?

[Demotivated]

Btw- does your ds wave bye?

We are trying to get him to do that. He will do it when he wants, not consistently.. Sometimes with both hands..

He will clap when he wants (i.e. a lot) and also when other kids clap..
I am like sick worried

 

[StranjeGirl]

Btw- does your ds wave bye?

We are trying to get him to do that. He will do it when he wants, not consistently.. Sometimes with both hands..

He will clap when he wants (i.e. a lot) and also when other kids clap..
I am like sick worried

Babies don't do anything consistently. Honestly- they do things when they feel like it and they pay attention to you when they feel like it. Sometimes they respond to their name and sometimes they dont. Sometimes they feel like clapping or looking at something you are showing them, and sometimes they don't. It will probably put your mind at ease to talk to the pediatrician, but honestly your son sounds very typical. If he has sometimes waved, that is considered another gesture! Oh and i always got worried because I felt like dd learned something new and then all of a sudden she wouldn't do it anymore. I have learned that this is normal too!!

 

[_Meep_]

Mine too always learns new stuff, does it obsessively for a day or two, then stops for ages until it eventually randomly resurfaces.

At the moment, her thing is to say 'Milo Milo Milo' over and over again, as she fell in love with a friend's cat (called Milo) recently. We were quite excited, as she hadn't been able to make the 'L' sound before - but I guarantee in a week or so, she will forget how to, then come out with something ridiculous like 'parallelogram' in a couple of months.

N still doesn't always wave if you ask her to. Maybe about 30% of the time she will. She is good at saying goodbye, and will sometimes accompany that with a wave, but not very often.

I honestly don't think you need to worry, and I think any doctor would probably say the same - because of the way conditions such as autism and other learning difficulties present themselves, they look for delays across the board in several areas of development. A mild delay like this in just the one area of development, where he has already made positive strides (i.e. clapping), isn't at all likely to be indicative of anything sinister.

All babies have something their mum will be able to say they were 'late' to do. For us it was eating - she was crap at breastfeeding and hated it, she was crap at chewing and wouldn't do it ... it felt like HELL at the time, but now it's fine. She breastfeeds all the time (too much for my liking, actually!) and noshes like she never had a problem. She just took a bit longer than the internet said she should. That was all.

I do know how it feels though to have one worry resolve and the next one start. I try to remind myself that thus far, none of the worries I was so sure were a problem have turned out to be anything at all. I do feel like I am waiting for it all to go wrong, but as time passes, it is slowly getting a bit easier to accept that maybe it won't.

 

[Demotivated]

Thanks StranjeGirl & meep..

I love this forum so much for introducing me to like minded girls.. In 2 days my son has become a different baby altogether..

He is waving consistently now.. Following my point in all directions, stop when I say No ( m laughing)..

Today I extended my hand & said hello.. He grabbed my hand, looked in my eye and said hiii.. I was shocked..
He took his nanny's cellphone, put it to his ear and said heyo..I was dumbfounded. Totally.

Lastly, we wre looking at pigeons from our bedroom window. Suddenly.. Just like that.. He pointed at the window, looked at me and said booo.. I just started crying.. Lol..

Thanku ladies..love love love :*

 

[_Meep_]

That's great!

 

[Demotivated]

That's great!

These kids i tell u...

 

[Demotivated]

Hi ladies

I just felt like i needed to update this. It has been 1 month since i last posted here and what a month it has been..

He is now a pro waver. waves bye and *says* bbye along with it
follow gaze shift and knows who is mama, dada
*Points* to things he wants.
Pretend plays, talks on phone, brushes hair with a comb

on to next worry.. when will he walk
he has been almost there for the past 2 months .. just not willing to let go of support..

 

[_Meep_]

If he's almost there and it's just a confidence issue, then he will do it when he's ready!

You never see people cruising along sideways holding on to stuff for support unless they are drunk lol!

 

[SarahBear]

He'll do it in his own time. A year is about Average. Now remember, in order to get an average, we need babies on BOTH sides of that number. So it's perfectly normal for a baby to start walking at 13 or 14 months. 15-18 is "normal" as well, but on the later side. After about 18 months, talking to a doctor is warranted to rule out anything that may be holding the baby back. In the end, it doesn't matter when your child starts walking. The skills all even out after a little while. Your baby is practically there and just needs to let go, so you don't have to worry about any of those numbers I said. Just let your baby gain confidence at his own rate and eventually he'll be off.

 

[sethsmummy]

hey hun. Sounds just like my mr 13 months and he just passed his one year check. only thing hes "behind" on is visual because he wont sit and look at a book :S

- we dont point
- he doesnt associate Dada with his dad. its just a general term and the only sound he religously says
- only says "mmmaaaaammm" when mad and its more just a babble sound than a word
- constantly on the move and doesnt want to sit still
- have to say his name a thousand times before you can get his attention
- the only word he can use in context is "ta" and thats his only other word apart from dada right now.

hope this helps ease your mind xx

 

[SarahBear]

- doesn't point

They say most babies can point by a year, but there's always a range on everything

- 50% of times looks where I point, but mostly looks at my finger

It sounds like he's still learning what pointing means. This is likely why he doesn't point yet. I wouldn't expect him to point until he has fully grasped what pointing means.

- always always on the move

I'm not really sure what to say about this one. This isn't a developmental milestone... it's just his temperament.

- knows his name and looks when called but if involved with a toy, he will just not respond.

Not really sure what to say here. That's just how kids are. Many adults are the same.

- always in a hurry, trying to climb out of lap

This goes along with being an active baby. Not really sure what to say about that as that's just part of your kids temperament.

- when I ask where is mama, dada, doesn't look at us

Babies learn best when we follow their lead rather than us trying to direct their attention. He may not look because he may be too busy paying attention to something else. Also, kids this age often use mom and dad interchangeably which may affect whether or not he looks to the right person when they are mentioned.

- doesn't hold something to show us

This goes back to joint attention. It sounds like he's just still developing this skill. Does he demonstrate joint attention in other ways? I also don't remember my oldest really doing this. My youngest does it and it sort of stood out to me as something new.

- have to really catch his attention to have a conversation with him

He's a baby. Babies learn best when you follow their lead. If he's paying attention to something else, perhaps try to engage him in that.


I don't think you have to worry about lack of pointing as he seems to be developing communication

 

[Demotivated]

thanks Tara.. i keep reading reading abt Rohan and stalk ur journal .. must say a very bright boy
i know that not every baby is by the book, but being a ftm, i cant help this worrying shit

 

[Demotivated]

- doesn't point

They say most babies can point by a year, but there's always a range on everything

- 50% of times looks where I point, but mostly looks at my finger

It sounds like he's still learning what pointing means. This is likely why he doesn't point yet. I wouldn't expect him to point until he has fully grasped what pointing means.

- always always on the move

I'm not really sure what to say about this one. This isn't a developmental milestone... it's just his temperament.

- knows his name and looks when called but if involved with a toy, he will just not respond.

Not really sure what to say here. That's just how kids are. Many adults are the same.

- always in a hurry, trying to climb out of lap

This goes along with being an active baby. Not really sure what to say about that as that's just part of your kids temperament.

- when I ask where is mama, dada, doesn't look at us

Babies learn best when we follow their lead rather than us trying to direct their attention. He may not look because he may be too busy paying attention to something else. Also, kids this age often use mom and dad interchangeably which may affect whether or not he looks to the right person when they are mentioned.

- doesn't hold something to show us

This goes back to joint attention. It sounds like he's just still developing this skill. Does he demonstrate joint attention in other ways? I also don't remember my oldest really doing this. My youngest does it and it sort of stood out to me as something new.

- have to really catch his attention to have a conversation with him

He's a baby. Babies learn best when you follow their lead. If he's paying attention to something else, perhaps try to engage him in that.


I don't think you have to worry about lack of pointing as he seems to be developing communication

thank you Sarah
all my above worries have been resolved.. he is totally into pointing, waving, following gaze, directions etc, holding things & giving etc.. just thought will update the old thread.. yes, walking remains the core issue now..

 

[_Meep_]

thanks Tara.. i keep reading reading abt Rohan and stalk ur journal .. must say a very bright boy
i know that not every baby is by the book, but being a ftm, i cant help this worrying shit

Know the feeling. I still worry about N being weaker on one side in her hand/arm, though these days it doesn't really present itself, and I'm not sure it ever was an issue really - more just a tiny variation of normal that I picked up on and blew out of proportion, being a proofreader and an anxious idiot.

I'm not sure anybody else would have ever noticed any of the stuff I did.

And things always seem to resolve on their own - if there was something wrong, I don't believe that would happen.

My latest worry was her initial running style, though it is much more normal now. Every new change brings something to panic about, it seems. The only thing that has never really bothered me is her speech.

I keep telling myself 'I'll be ok/over it when she is 2/3/4' etc. but I think there will always be something to worry and obsess over lol. It's entirely a problem with me! I wish I could be like all of the relaxed mums out there, but that was never going to happen - it's just not who I am at all!

 

[sethsmummy]

Hugs Hun. Rohans my third and I still worry about him like he's my first. I think when it comes to our own we always panic when we don't think they're quite where they should be

Pretty please feel free to pm me if you ever just need to chat. Or even fb xx

 

[_Meep_]

Same here. My Facebook is here if you ever want to add and commiserate.

https://m.facebook.com/aksdjskadjksa

 

[SarahBear]

Glad to hear your worries have been resolved. In terms of walking, no need to worry until 18 months old. My little guy is a few days short of 11 months and he has no clue what pointing means yet. He also doesn't shift his gaze when you mention someone.