jozylynn896
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My boyfriend and I have been together forever. I freaking love him to death and I know he loves me.
His family has never liked me, ever. Ever. I know this is because they are pretty high class and I, well I come from a "welfare" family. Regardless of this, we still love each other.
The only thing that kills me is that his whole life is completly based on not disappointing his family whereas mine is completely based on being happy, not just trying to impress people.
I never had my dad and he kind of holds this against me. He always pulls the "I have people who expect things from me" and it hurts me. He thinks just because my family didn't all go to college like his did, that they expect nothing from me. My mom raised me saying "its okay to be gay, just as long as your happy, its okay to try being a singer, if that makes you happy". Whereas his family say "you WILL finish college. You WILL go to law school. You WILL do this, regardless of what makes you happy".
Anyways, we've had our ups and downs, but what really concerns me is this..
I'm 22 weeks pregnant. He does not want to tell his parents. I understand it is hard for him because they will DEFINATLEY disown him. When I get upset and tell him that we have to tell them, he says "Don't forget, I still have options." Basically threatning to leave.
It really hurts me first because I'm there for him. His family basically just uses him as this ticket. Idk, I understand he shouldn't have to feel like he should put me before his family. He wants to marry me, and we are having a baby. I just think that that kind of makes us a family now?
And secondly, I don't like feeling like his "hidden second life". I don't like it at all. I don't like to be kept a secret.
Am I selfish for thinking of how I feel even when I know it hurts him bad too?
Also, we're having a boy .
I understand I'm young and I know I'm definatly not ready for what lies ahead, but I was raised in a way that I understand that I'm having a baby! And that my child deserves to be celebrated just as much as a 25 year olds child would.
Thanks guys
His family has never liked me, ever. Ever. I know this is because they are pretty high class and I, well I come from a "welfare" family. Regardless of this, we still love each other.
The only thing that kills me is that his whole life is completly based on not disappointing his family whereas mine is completely based on being happy, not just trying to impress people.
I never had my dad and he kind of holds this against me. He always pulls the "I have people who expect things from me" and it hurts me. He thinks just because my family didn't all go to college like his did, that they expect nothing from me. My mom raised me saying "its okay to be gay, just as long as your happy, its okay to try being a singer, if that makes you happy". Whereas his family say "you WILL finish college. You WILL go to law school. You WILL do this, regardless of what makes you happy".
Anyways, we've had our ups and downs, but what really concerns me is this..
I'm 22 weeks pregnant. He does not want to tell his parents. I understand it is hard for him because they will DEFINATLEY disown him. When I get upset and tell him that we have to tell them, he says "Don't forget, I still have options." Basically threatning to leave.
It really hurts me first because I'm there for him. His family basically just uses him as this ticket. Idk, I understand he shouldn't have to feel like he should put me before his family. He wants to marry me, and we are having a baby. I just think that that kind of makes us a family now?
And secondly, I don't like feeling like his "hidden second life". I don't like it at all. I don't like to be kept a secret.
Am I selfish for thinking of how I feel even when I know it hurts him bad too?
Also, we're having a boy .
I understand I'm young and I know I'm definatly not ready for what lies ahead, but I was raised in a way that I understand that I'm having a baby! And that my child deserves to be celebrated just as much as a 25 year olds child would.
Thanks guys