17, Pregnant & Wanting Advice.

[JessieLee]

I (who's 18 at the end of the year) currently live with my boyfriend (who's 21) at his parents house & we have just found out that I'm pregnant. According to my calculations & what the internet has told me, I'm about 5 or 6 weeks pregnant. Discussing it with my partner was the easy part, the choice on what to do has been the most difficult, he thinks we aren't ready financially, which is true, but the baby isnt due for another 7-8 months so that would give us time to get things sorted, in my opinion. He called an abortion clinic to find out some details & thinks that that's what we should do as we both don't want to bring a child into the world & not be able to provide for it. We go there tomorrow but I'm really starting to feel depressed with the idea of it & don't think I'm going to be able to go through with it, I just want to know some of your experiences & what you would do or have done.
Thanks.

 

[Stoke93]

I would keep it. We r lucky because we in australia we do get heaps of gov assistance ie baby bonus, family tax etc. Which helps heaps financially

 

[MarissaFaith]

DO NOT DO IT if you are already thinking that you will regret it!!! You don't want to live your life wishing that you didn't get an abortion. Only get it if you know in your heart that it's what YOU want - not what your OH or anyone else wants.

I'm 16 (17 at the end of the year) and my boyfriend is 18 and I'm due in a couple weeks... We live with his mom at the moment, and will continue to live with her until we are done with college. She, thankfully, has been VERY supportive through out the entire pregnancy. What are his parents like? Would they help support you guys? If not, where are you from? I'm sure you could get a ton of gov't help! We technically aren't financially ready (obviously, or we would have moved out) but my OH has a job so we are going to be able to buy formula, diapers, and all the other necessity's on our own. We also were able to afford all the other basic things, and got the cutesy stuff from family/friends. My OH works as a waiter so as long as you have an okay (minimum wage) job you should be able to support a baby, and just don't spend on frivolous things! And save your money. They really don't seem to be as expensive as people make it out to be, but they do cost. If you want to keep the baby then keep it and things will work out!

PM me if you need someone to talk to!

 

[MUM0FTW0]

Its no ones place to ever tell you what you should do...or what would be better for you. The only one who can decide what is best...is YOU.
With my first son,I was 14...and I decided to keep him. I was living with my mom,his biological father wasnt wanting to help with anything...but I figured a way to do it on my own until I met my Fiance.

Now my son is 3,and we have a new baby on the way and finances are good after a while of getting on our feet. But it doesnt come over night,you have to really try for it. No baby should be brought into the world with the motto "all you need is love" because that wont take care of the babys needs. Since your living with other people at the moment,its best to really think about what you can do to give your baby the best..whether it be saving money,budgeting,NOT spending money on things,and just applying yourself to becoming the parent you know you can be

Sorry if this doesnt make the most sense,my tablet was deleting some things as I was typing But,I wish you the very best in whatever you decide

 

[MrsEngland]

No one on here is gunna advise you to have an abortion, and your not allowed to talk about it on here. This forum is for people who are teens and pregnant and have decided to keep their babies. Its disrespectful posting about abortion when their are people on here who have been trying for a baby for years and can't fall pregnant.

That said I don't agree with abortion AT ALL if your old enough to have sex you should be able to deal with the consequences.

 

[wanaBmummy]

Just to say you arn't allowed to talk about abortions on Baby and Bump so this thread will probably get locked.

You have to make the right decision for you as in the end it is one you'll have to live with for the rest of your life. I hope you can figure out soon what you want x

 

[ClairAye]

^ It's against the site rules to talk about abortion so I can see this getting locked.
Only you can decide what you want and if you think you can be a parent and want to keep your baby then I think that's your answer right there.

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

I'm going to tell you now it's against the rules here to discuss the A word. So chances are this thread will be locked.

Absolutely do not go ahead with something you don't feel comfortable with and is not YOUR choice. You will end up regretting it for the rest of your life and resenting your OH for making you do it.

 

[allie5503]

It'll probably get blocked but just in case.
This might be too late but anyways, DON'T. I got pregnant younger than you, the father of my child went away after I told him and I decided to go for an abortion. One girl from my school heard me tell my bestfriend at the lockeroom and she saved my childs life. She got an abortion too when she got pregnant, and she told me she dis not live a single day now without thinking about thw baby she killed. Basically, you.need to remember two things: 1) yes, is really really really scary but if you were old enough to have sex, you are old enough to take care of a baby even though you may not think so atm. You cant walk out and ignore hardahips and challenges when they come at you in life, then what is your life really worth if you never make it valuable? 2) if for some reason your boyfriend, the father of the baby, leaves you, he never truly loved you and he was not worth to stay with either way. the person you are involved with should not care only of sex and fun, but to stay with you through thick and thin, and be there to support you even in the.scariest times. If thats not the case, hes really not worth it.

It might be scary but you can do it. If I, who thought the world was fairytales where the prince goes and marries you on a white horse with little animals dancing around (exaggeration and sarcasm for saying I was immatture lol)have been able to manage, I'm sure anyone can. And also youll see how there will always be enough koney to take care of the baby! Maybe not all the luxuries but certainly enough to keep the baby good and healthy. Seek gov support!
PM me if you need to talk, I'm here!

 

[AP]

Thread closed

While BabyandBump tries to remain pro-choice on most subjects, out of respect for majority of our members that are either trying to conceive, or pregnant, we ask that you do not discuss topics on abortion and terminations outside of the 'Ethical Prenatal Losses' forum.

This thread will be removed shortly out of respect for other members